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Seriously what do parents teach their kids these days

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I was in Walmart with ds earlier tonight to grab a few things. Ds was crying and just being... Not him self. I figured he'd had a long day at school and was tired. ( I have to wake him up at 6 to get the bus at 6:45 schools starts at 7:20 idk but the little ones start school over an hour earlier than the older kids who don't go to school like 8:40. Makes no sense. Lil ones need more sleep) anyway ds is crying I'm trying get him home as fast as possible. I see these two teenage boys. Probably around 15. I had seen them several times in the store and each time they would pass I'd hear them whispering to each other. Whatever I ignor and got to check out and here are these two boys again standing there behind a battery display pointing at ds who is 5 and very loudly making fun of him crying!! Saying things like ugh whaaaa look at the baby cry. I whip around cause this is bullshit ds is 5 years old these kids are like 15 maybe a little older They see me and shut up immediately . I ask them what the hell their problem is and if they think they cool for making fun of a 5 year old little boy. They take off running. The cashier said she would call a manager cause those boys are always in there and they do the same thing. They hide behind one of the displays and make fun of kids!! Wtf. Where are the parents and what have they taught them?? I'm sorry it's not normal to wander a store to look for small children to make fun of. I wanted to slap the hell out of them.

And no their parents may not know what their doing and they may not have raised this way but in today's world you never know.
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 5, 2012 at 2:57 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 5, 2012 at 4:00 AM
I think they were having trouble catching them. They ran off in the direction of the produce which is right by the door. They have to catch them in order to tell them they are banned. I wish dh was with me cause he would grabbed ahold of them until the manager got there


Quoting jshalas89:

I hate little fucking teenagers. I would've said the same thing. But that's all you CAN do. Walmart on the other hand could ban them from the store if their employees were smart enough to think of such a thing.

DestinyHLewis
by Silver Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 4:02 AM
Ok. I wouldn't site him having to get up early. I have three and we get up well before 6am. We also spend most nights in the gym. My youngest who is 5 frequently gets tired and cranky. However, if I am in a store and she acts like that? I find the closest " manager" and make them apologize for their behavior, and disrupting other customers, it has happened only twice. They know better. Kids can control a lot more than you think. I don't just let them have their fit and continue to shop. I am not in any way defending the kids behaviors that made fun of your kid. All I am saying, is if he was disruptive enough? Maybe you could have handled it differently. Just an idea. Sorry it happened to you!
3babiesofmyown
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 4:05 AM
We have the hitting issue with our 2yr old. But so many guys play fight with him. he has learned to only hit the guys that play with him. For a while he liked to kick a lot while I was changing his diaper and he's kicked in the boobs (while breastfeeding), and in the face. Timeouts really don't work so one day he got me in the chin and I blistered his naked butt. He hasn't kicked again. My mom is the kind that would just laugh. But I agree it has to be handled right away. Overall our kids are very well behaved. The 2yr old is a challenge right now but he'll grow out of most of that. DH will help him along the way.


Quoting Anonymous:

Good for him. You have to start at a young age. You can't just let them run free and that at 12 expect them to do all this stuff. To many parents think its funny and cute. It's not going to be funny and cute when they are 10. My ds had a problem with hitting when he was 2ish. I found out when he would go to his one grandmothers house she would laugh. I caught him one day and put him in timeout and explained that its not ok hit and its never ok to hit a women. She tried to tell me it was ok. I said its really not ok. When he's 10 and is still hitting its going to hurt a lot and its not going to be funny then.




Quoting 3babiesofmyown:

Ha! I say that and I'm 25. I feel bad for my 2yr old when he tells me no. Daddy comes flying by and corrects him right away. He's not ok with any kind of disrespect. I'm not either but DH is big on it.





On a side note I was teaching the kids at our bible study group. One little girl was talking to me and I saw her dad poke his head in the door. She didn't see him. So I told her to put her toy away am get ready to go. She said "no" not real hateful but defiant for sure. Then her dad "excuse me!" he corrected her quick. We still have a few parents around teaching respect.






Quoting Anonymous:

Parents these days( god I sound so old saying these days lol I'm only 25 lol) they are more worried about being their children's friend. Your a parent your not suppose to be their friend. My kid will never get away with this crap. I get told all the time I'm to strict. That may be but my child is not going end up like the rest of the kids. He will be a respectful kind person when he grows up.








Quoting lalaboosh:

Yeah, I was never an asshole either. I don't think it's universal, I just think it's an easy trap for many teens to fall into. I do think parenting has taken a real hit for a lot of reasons, TV and lack of personal freedom being one of them. Parents are either afraid to make the wrong choice and screw their kids up (or lose them to the state) or too busy with their lives and their wants and their issues to pay attention to when their kids need them. Or both, and I can't imagine how confusing that would be, to feel that as a parent and be so self absorbed.





Quoting Anonymous:

True teens are just assholes but I never did any of this crap and neither did my friends. Male or female. I thinks it's a combo of teen hormones and the fact that parents these days don't really punish their kids. They get away with murder. I've seen it all to often. I saw a teenager threaten his mother the other day because she refused to buy him chips!?? And she gave in. I would have been dropped on my ass real fast if I threatened my mother. Maybe it's just in my area idk but teens these days they run the house and tell the parents what their gonna do. And the parents just let them














Quoting lalaboosh:

I don't think it's that their parents don't teach them shit, I think it's that teenagers are assholes. I dunno. I was walking past a group of teen boys the other day and they started whistling and cat calling me and I ignored them. Then they started shouting insults and insisting that I wanted it and calling me baby. It's often a combination of male bravado and teen hormones that cause the problem, but girls get obnoxious too.











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by Anonymous on Oct. 5, 2012 at 4:07 AM

Their parents are afraid of spankings. 

when i was growing up, if i tried to pull this shit, my ass would get beat by my parents. and probably the person i was doing it too as well (small town, we all knew eachother) 

these days, you cant even yell at your kids with out getting CPS thrown at you. 

the tender hearted 'new age' moms are destroying our young people. 

3babiesofmyown
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 4:08 AM
What's your advice on a 2yr old throwing fits? He's not talking yet really and nothing has worked so far.


Quoting DestinyHLewis:

Ok. I wouldn't site him having to get up early. I have three and we get up well before 6am. We also spend most nights in the gym. My youngest who is 5 frequently gets tired and cranky. However, if I am in a store and she acts like that? I find the closest " manager" and make them apologize for their behavior, and disrupting other customers, it has happened only twice. They know better. Kids can control a lot more than you think. I don't just let them have their fit and continue to shop. I am not in any way defending the kids behaviors that made fun of your kid. All I am saying, is if he was disruptive enough? Maybe you could have handled it differently. Just an idea. Sorry it happened to you!


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by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 5, 2012 at 4:11 AM
Ya there's nothing funny about that. Ds would have gotten a spanking too. We don't have to spank him often he learns his lesson after the first time and now he's somewhat old enough to heed my warnings lol. My dh still drills it into his head certain lessons. We don't hit women no matter what is a big one in our house.


Quoting 3babiesofmyown:

We have the hitting issue with our 2yr old. But so many guys play fight with him. he has learned to only hit the guys that play with him. For a while he liked to kick a lot while I was changing his diaper and he's kicked in the boobs (while breastfeeding), and in the face. Timeouts really don't work so one day he got me in the chin and I blistered his naked butt. He hasn't kicked again. My mom is the kind that would just laugh. But I agree it has to be handled right away. Overall our kids are very well behaved. The 2yr old is a challenge right now but he'll grow out of most of that. DH will help him along the way.




Quoting Anonymous:

Good for him. You have to start at a young age. You can't just let them run free and that at 12 expect them to do all this stuff. To many parents think its funny and cute. It's not going to be funny and cute when they are 10. My ds had a problem with hitting when he was 2ish. I found out when he would go to his one grandmothers house she would laugh. I caught him one day and put him in timeout and explained that its not ok hit and its never ok to hit a women. She tried to tell me it was ok. I said its really not ok. When he's 10 and is still hitting its going to hurt a lot and its not going to be funny then.






Quoting 3babiesofmyown:

Ha! I say that and I'm 25. I feel bad for my 2yr old when he tells me no. Daddy comes flying by and corrects him right away. He's not ok with any kind of disrespect. I'm not either but DH is big on it.







On a side note I was teaching the kids at our bible study group. One little girl was talking to me and I saw her dad poke his head in the door. She didn't see him. So I told her to put her toy away am get ready to go. She said "no" not real hateful but defiant for sure. Then her dad "excuse me!" he corrected her quick. We still have a few parents around teaching respect.








Quoting Anonymous:

Parents these days( god I sound so old saying these days lol I'm only 25 lol) they are more worried about being their children's friend. Your a parent your not suppose to be their friend. My kid will never get away with this crap. I get told all the time I'm to strict. That may be but my child is not going end up like the rest of the kids. He will be a respectful kind person when he grows up.










Quoting lalaboosh:

Yeah, I was never an asshole either. I don't think it's universal, I just think it's an easy trap for many teens to fall into. I do think parenting has taken a real hit for a lot of reasons, TV and lack of personal freedom being one of them. Parents are either afraid to make the wrong choice and screw their kids up (or lose them to the state) or too busy with their lives and their wants and their issues to pay attention to when their kids need them. Or both, and I can't imagine how confusing that would be, to feel that as a parent and be so self absorbed.






Quoting Anonymous:

True teens are just assholes but I never did any of this crap and neither did my friends. Male or female. I thinks it's a combo of teen hormones and the fact that parents these days don't really punish their kids. They get away with murder. I've seen it all to often. I saw a teenager threaten his mother the other day because she refused to buy him chips!?? And she gave in. I would have been dropped on my ass real fast if I threatened my mother. Maybe it's just in my area idk but teens these days they run the house and tell the parents what their gonna do. And the parents just let them

















Quoting lalaboosh:

I don't think it's that their parents don't teach them shit, I think it's that teenagers are assholes. I dunno. I was walking past a group of teen boys the other day and they started whistling and cat calling me and I ignored them. Then they started shouting insults and insisting that I wanted it and calling me baby. It's often a combination of male bravado and teen hormones that cause the problem, but girls get obnoxious too.













Amy1973Potts
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 4:12 AM
Teens are assholes. And Im not afraid of them. Walk at them with a sense of purpose and they lose their nerve.

Quoting lalaboosh:

I don't think it's that their parents don't teach them shit, I think it's that teenagers are assholes. I dunno. I was walking past a group of teen boys the other day and they started whistling and cat calling me and I ignored them. Then they started shouting insults and insisting that I wanted it and calling me baby. It's often a combination of male bravado and teen hormones that cause the problem, but girls get obnoxious too.

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acrogodess
by Ruby Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 4:12 AM

It breaks my heart the way these kids behave. How are they going to get anywhere in life? How will they keep a job when they don't even respect their parents, or child care providers, or teachers? 

Quoting Anonymous:

I was a daycare teacher for years. I taught every age from birth to 12 years. I love the parents that think they kid does nothing wrong and tells us not to put them in timeout. It's those kids that are the worse. I worked in nj for years and didn't have a lot of problems with the children there. They were pretty good kids. I moved to another state and it was like walking into a war zone. I was bit, hit, punched in the face by a 9 year old. Broke the glasses right off my face. I was slapped and I was suppose to just take it. I was not to put these kids in time out and the parents would laugh when I would tell them these things. They thought it was funny. A 10 year old in my class td her dad she was punch him if he didn't stop talking. He shut right up and i stood there with my mouth open. I couldn't beleive the way the children act here. It's unreal. I quit after a year. That was more than I could handle.

Quoting acrogodess:

Nothing at all from what I've noticed the past year working with children and we aren't even allowed to put them in time out. We have to "re-direct" them to another activity so they can be disrespectful elsewhere... *sighs*


Most seem to expect school to teach them everything, from reading to writing, math and good behavior.




Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 5, 2012 at 4:16 AM
He wasn't being disruptive to others. He was quietly crying. Not loud not being crazy. I also I am one to not deal with that. He was just tired and he was like whimpering I guess is a better word to himself. I could not really hear him crying and i was right next to him. These kids just saw that he was crying and starting making fun of him. It was unreal.
Btw I can stand when people have their kids screaming threw the store. I take my kid to the bathroom and straighten his butt out. Ill have to remember to make him say sorry although my luck is they would bad for him lol.

Quoting DestinyHLewis:

Ok. I wouldn't site him having to get up early. I have three and we get up well before 6am. We also spend most nights in the gym. My youngest who is 5 frequently gets tired and cranky. However, if I am in a store and she acts like that? I find the closest " manager" and make them apologize for their behavior, and disrupting other customers, it has happened only twice. They know better. Kids can control a lot more than you think. I don't just let them have their fit and continue to shop. I am not in any way defending the kids behaviors that made fun of your kid. All I am saying, is if he was disruptive enough? Maybe you could have handled it differently. Just an idea. Sorry it happened to you!



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DestinyHLewis
by Silver Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 4:17 AM
Quoting 3babiesofmyown:




When mine were that age and lost it, I left my cart and walked out. Even at that age they understand. I didn't care if anyone thought is was rude.mi wasn't going to tolerate children behaving like that. It didn't happen often, and certainly not after me walking out when they were very little. I started making them apologize when they were 3. Like I said, it has only happened a few times. Either my oldest will say something tom my younger two that stops it, or I say , do I need to find a manger? They quit instantly. Just be consistent. They may be tired, but that is no excuse for awful behavior. If they are that tired, you shouldn't be there to begin with. Tough I know, but it takes planning.
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