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My BFF is huge. Update2

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

She has always been big. She was about 350lbs a couple years ago. Now, she's visiting home where I am and she said she's almost 450lbs. She wants a ride in my car 2.5 hours south to get home. I'd have no problem with that, but my ball joints went bad and I just got them fixed. 

My ball joints went bad because I drive a little economy-sized vehicle, and she used to ride in the car, and I feel like that's what did it. She's too big to fit the seatbelt. IDK what to do, or how to tell her that I'm afraid she'll break my car that I need again.

Help?

JUST AN FYI- The ball joints were new when I purchased the car. I had paperwork from the seller to prove it.


***Thanks to the few people who gave me advice instead of bashing on me for asking an honest question, I'm going to be on my way to pick her up in a little bit.***

SECOND UPDATE*****I PICKED MY FRIEND UP YESTERDAY TO TAKE HER HOME. AFTER ABOUT 45 MINUTES IN THE CAR TRAVELING AT A SPEED OF APPROX 65MPH, MY BRAND NEW TIRE (THAT I PUT ON WITH THE BALL JOINTS) BLEW. MY "FRIEND" GOT TO GO HOME, HER HUSAND PICKED HER UP, WHILE MY KIDS AND I SAT STRANDED ON THE SIDE OF THE FREEWAY TRYING TO GET HOME.*******

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 5, 2012 at 8:21 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 8:28 AM

I sincerely doubt that the ball joints broke because of her, cars are made to hold a good amount of wieght and to be completely honest, you sound like a sucky ass friend

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 5, 2012 at 8:29 AM

Lol, I know she definitely helped. When I bought the car the ball joints were new. I had paperwork to prove it.

Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:

Ok. So maybe she didn't screw it up? I mean it's over 10 years old, ball joints do go bad.


Quoting Anonymous:

It's a '95. I've had it for two years. It's been sitting for over a month because I couldn't drive it because of the balljoints.

Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:

How old is your car?




Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 8:29 AM

that amount of weight for that amount of time wont hurt your car.  my 600 pound mom used to drive a ford festiva and didnt have issues with any mechanical problems due to her size.

GLO682
by Silver Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 8:29 AM

 i am sure that if the ball joints went bad due to your friend as you say, that may have been because  of her riding in the car over a prolonged period.

I'm sure that the 2.5 hour ride wont do any damage.

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 8:30 AM
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are you serious? shes not going to break your car! that's the stupidest shit ive read all damn day!
to start, your ball joints went out cause its a 95!!! I have a 96 and am going through that right now! its part of wear and tear on a vehicle!
I am most certain your vehicles carrying weight is way more than 450lbs plus your weight! what an ass! some bff you are!
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 5, 2012 at 8:31 AM
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Okay, I know exactly what a festiva is and my mom had one, too. Thank you for the advice!

Quoting Anonymous:

that amount of weight for that amount of time wont hurt your car.  my 600 pound mom used to drive a ford festiva and didnt have issues with any mechanical problems due to her size.


alwayskk
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 8:31 AM
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Ball joints in vehicles are made to withstand the weight of a car plus passengers which is a ton. Two thousand pounds. Not to mention, obese people drive all the time. And, you've just had your ball joints replaced which means they should be fresh and well lubed. You probably had to replace your ball joints because you drive a car that is almost 10 years old and has  tens of thousands of miles on it. Your friend isn't going to hurt your car.

Quoting Anonymous:

Okay so what do I do? I can't afford to fix my car again... so I just risk giving her a ride?

Quoting alwayskk:

Fuck that noise, you don't tell her that shit. "Hey bestie, you're too fat to ride in my car but I love ya." 

Really? Keep it to yourself.



Wifeyy2Lette
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 8:32 AM
I doubt very highly that it had anything to do with it.
Cars are made to transport people. I bought a car from my 500 pound boss, it was a monte carlo, the only thing that happened was the seats were worn down ALOT. She drove it for 5 years, a 350 pound woman did not make your ball joints go out.


Quoting Anonymous:

Lol, I know she definitely helped. When I bought the car the ball joints were new. I had paperwork to prove it.

Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:

Ok. So maybe she didn't screw it up? I mean it's over 10 years old, ball joints do go bad.





Quoting Anonymous:

It's a '95. I've had it for two years. It's been sitting for over a month because I couldn't drive it because of the balljoints.

Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:

How old is your car?






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mysticalmalissa
by Platinum Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 8:32 AM

Go yank out a sparkplug and tell her your car is broke down again.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 8:33 AM
I doubt she broke it in the first place. I'd just give her a ride. It's two hours, your car will survive, it's been fixed. Also, your car, even if it is small far outweighs your friend. It can take it.
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