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The heterosexual lifestyle.

How would you define a "lifestyle?"  According to Merriam-Webster it is defined as: the typical way of life of an individual, group, or culture

So, this would mean how a person lives their life, if they live religiously, or work out a lot and eat healthy, or if they're rich and are accustomed to the more finer things in life, if they are big into family, etc... 

I don't understand how sexual orientation gets lumped into this.  Should we say all straight people are living a "heterosexual lifestyle?"  Is my sexual orientation the only thing that defines my "way of life?" 


by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 6:52 PM
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alwayskk
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 7:54 PM


Quoting mcclainprincess:


Quoting TranquilMind:


Quoting alwayskk:

It's not. There is no such thing as a gay or straight lifestyle because who you are married to and who you have sex with has nothing to do with what a lifestyle entails.


That is decidedly, ridiculously false.  There are definitely gay lifestyles. There are gay bars.  There are parades.  There are whole gay rights political movements.  There are gay clubs on campuses (but no straight clubs).

All of this creates a lifestyle and a group with which one identifies and to which one belongs that is decidedly different than the run of the mill straight lifestyle. 

And what if a gay person does not go to gay bars or gay clubs?  They just live their life just like every one else...  And even if they did then shouldn't they just be labeled as living a partying lifestyle? just like a straight person would? and what about straight people who are involved in gay rights political movements?

If you're gay but not dating, not having sex, not shopping at "gay stores" and not attending gay pride rallies, then you apparently, have no lifestyle at all. Or perhaps you're gay and living the straight lifestyle...even though you're out of the closet? So confusing, right?

kansasmom1978
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 7:56 PM

I don't think of my sexual orientation as a lifestyle. My lifestyle is my life. I am straight, christian, a mom, a wife, a stepmom, a sister, a daughter, a granddaughter, a volunteer, an autism advocate. lol

kaycersmom
by Katie on Oct. 5, 2012 at 7:56 PM

 I live a missionary lifestyle, I see nothing wrong with being defined by your sexual preference. lol

FoxFire363
by Ruby Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 7:57 PM

I hate when people refer to it as a lifestyle. I am a lesbian and my life is not significantly different from that of a heterosexual woman, aside from my partner's gender. I drive a mini-van. I don't hang out a gay bars (or any bars), I go to work at my internship 5 days a week, I shop at normal stores, I play around on my tablet, I cook, grocery shop, knit, homeschool my older child. Literally everything I do except have sex with my wife and occasionally comment on a hot woman on a show or walking down the street is the exact same stuff straight women do. I have a "mom and wife" lifestyle, not a gay lifestyle. Being gay is NOT central to my identity. It is an incidental detail. For example, I do not live a blonde life style, or a short lifestyle, although I am also blonde and short. Sorry for the rant, this just annoys the shit out of me. 

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