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My 14 year old sister is pregnant...Update!!! Update #2!!

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She told me a couple weeks ago, she found out the first week of September, which means she got pregnant when she was 13.
She finally told her mom and went to get the proof of pregnancy she needed for Medicaid yesterday.
Well, her mom wants her to get an abortion. She's not going to, her and her bf are still together and his mom said she would help with the baby. She will be a mother at 14.
She is 7ish weeks along they think, she will know for sure when she goes to the dr. I hope it's soon, I also hope she's already taking her vitamins.
No, I don't condone this, but I support her decision 100% to keep her baby.







Eta: I wasn't around her much. We have different moms and our father is in prison. She lives 6 hours from me, when I did have temp custody of her I did talk to her about sex, safe sex, etc.





Update: I called around Tulsa trying to find resources to help her. I found Margaret Hudson school, I also found Catholic Charities. I messaged her on fb and told her to go on November 1st (the only day they enroll) and get into school at MHS and get on their daycare waiting list for next school year. I also let her know that Catholic Charities can and will help with clothes and diapers.


I talked to dh and we have decided that we will get a pack of diapers sent to her every month once the baby gets here from diapers.com, plus we will get clothes as soon as we find out the gender and send them to her.


She messaged me back and said her mom was still trying to make her have an abortion, I did ask her if open adoption was an option to her and she said no, she wants to keep the baby. Her mom was going to have her think about abortion until the 17th of this month and then make an appointment to see a dr. I asked "why the 17th?" and she said that's the last day she can have an abortion.


Well, this morning I got a message saying her mom isn't talking about abortion anymore, she's decided to let her keep the baby!! :)



Edit: I'm not answering anyone that's going to bash me. I have no reason to waste my time responding to unsupportive, rude people. I'm glad she's keeping the baby and dh and I are more than happy to help her however we can. Yes, she will get pa, no she won't give the baby up and YES I AM PROUD OF HER DECISION!

Update #2: she has a dr appt in a week, I'll let y'all know how far along she is then!
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by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:01 PM
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JamminOutMama
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:06 PM
That would be crazy
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:06 PM
And why are you making this post? You know people don't like you. Wu would you subject a child getting bashed by a bunch of strangers?
1plustwinsmommy
by Platinum Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:07 PM
That's so sad.
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Wifeyy2Lette
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:07 PM
No, it's not.
Who are you to say what's best for her?


Quoting Buggy979:

Sounds like she should be on 16 & pregnant... If you telltale think the bio dad will be around I think not... I hope she puts this baby up for adoption.. its the best thing for this baby.. .

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:07 PM

Didn't you say that you would have been pregnant around that age if you didn't miscarry too? Neither one of you had good role models....

Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:

Well I wasn't around her much at all, our father is in prison and her mom is a crackhead. I've been around her maybe a total of 10 times except when she lived with me.
I did talk to her about sex, safe sex, abstinence, etc. though.


Quoting Anonymous:

hmmm says a lot about how the women in her life role modeled.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:07 PM
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My friends sister had a baby at 14... She did a good job raising her son even though she was just a child, that's very young to have a kid.... Hope your sister does good too, Really I do.
Wifeyy2Lette
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:08 PM
I needed to get it off my chest. She hasn't told any of our family and I don't have anyone to talk to about it.


Quoting Anonymous:

And why are you making this post? You know people don't like you. Wu would you subject a child getting bashed by a bunch of strangers?

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Buggy979
by Platinum Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:08 PM
Ok...lol

Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:

No, it's not.

Who are you to say what's best for her?




Quoting Buggy979:

Sounds like she should be on 16 & pregnant... If you telltale think the bio dad will be around I think not... I hope she puts this baby up for adoption.. its the best thing for this baby.. .

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:08 PM

She needs to give the baby a chance and give it up for adoption.  She is in no position to raise a child even with help.  Her child will suffer.  I can't believe anyone with brains and/or sense would even think it is ok in any way, shape or form for a 14 year old to begin raising a baby.  She is a baby herself.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:09 PM
What about your "bestie" or why not post anon?

Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:

I needed to get it off my chest. She hasn't told any of our family and I don't have anyone to talk to about it.




Quoting Anonymous:

And why are you making this post? You know people don't like you. Wu would you subject a child getting bashed by a bunch of strangers?

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