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My 14 year old sister is pregnant...Update!!! Update #2!!

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She told me a couple weeks ago, she found out the first week of September, which means she got pregnant when she was 13.
She finally told her mom and went to get the proof of pregnancy she needed for Medicaid yesterday.
Well, her mom wants her to get an abortion. She's not going to, her and her bf are still together and his mom said she would help with the baby. She will be a mother at 14.
She is 7ish weeks along they think, she will know for sure when she goes to the dr. I hope it's soon, I also hope she's already taking her vitamins.
No, I don't condone this, but I support her decision 100% to keep her baby.







Eta: I wasn't around her much. We have different moms and our father is in prison. She lives 6 hours from me, when I did have temp custody of her I did talk to her about sex, safe sex, etc.





Update: I called around Tulsa trying to find resources to help her. I found Margaret Hudson school, I also found Catholic Charities. I messaged her on fb and told her to go on November 1st (the only day they enroll) and get into school at MHS and get on their daycare waiting list for next school year. I also let her know that Catholic Charities can and will help with clothes and diapers.


I talked to dh and we have decided that we will get a pack of diapers sent to her every month once the baby gets here from diapers.com, plus we will get clothes as soon as we find out the gender and send them to her.


She messaged me back and said her mom was still trying to make her have an abortion, I did ask her if open adoption was an option to her and she said no, she wants to keep the baby. Her mom was going to have her think about abortion until the 17th of this month and then make an appointment to see a dr. I asked "why the 17th?" and she said that's the last day she can have an abortion.


Well, this morning I got a message saying her mom isn't talking about abortion anymore, she's decided to let her keep the baby!! :)



Edit: I'm not answering anyone that's going to bash me. I have no reason to waste my time responding to unsupportive, rude people. I'm glad she's keeping the baby and dh and I are more than happy to help her however we can. Yes, she will get pa, no she won't give the baby up and YES I AM PROUD OF HER DECISION!

Update #2: she has a dr appt in a week, I'll let y'all know how far along she is then!
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by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:01 PM
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prieta05
by Gold Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:16 PM
So how okd is her bf???
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 13 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:17 PM
That's a shame. I hope she is able to stay in school. If that were my dd I would also encourage her to have an abortion I wish her the best
Anonymous
by Anonymous 14 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:17 PM
Damn trailer trash breeding cest pools. Sick.
Wifeyy2Lette
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:18 PM
She doesn't know when her last period was and she hasn't had an ultrasound yet.


Quoting MissLeanna:

It's not hard to figure out lol



Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:

They're guessing7 weeks, they don't know for sure.






Quoting JakesMom712:

Right. Didn't she post this like a week or two ago? Wasn't she six weeks then?








Quoting MyLittlePwny:

OP said the first time she posted this was she was going to try and adopt the baby lmao. Funny how the story changes.









Quoting JakesMom712:

Ummm. 14 yr old mom, crackhead grandma, jailbird grandpa, and you for an aunt. I think that says it all. She can't even get a job to support said baby. The baby will most likely continue the cycle. Poor baby. Smh












Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:

No, it's not.






Who are you to say what's best for her?














Quoting Buggy979:

Sounds like she should be on 16 & pregnant... If you telltale think the bio dad will be around I think not... I hope she puts this baby up for adoption.. its the best thing for this baby.. .





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Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:18 PM


Quoting MissLeanna:

I found out at 4 almost 5 weeks lol

Quoting Anonymous:

So she was 3 weeks when she found out?

If she found out at 3 weeks, that means it would have been what, a week after conception? Is that believable? I also found out at 4 weeks, however I was expecting it, I would HOPE a 14 year old not to expect to be pregnant

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:18 PM

i don't know ur sisters sitaution just tell her to be careful that grandma doesn't try to rip her rights away or kick her outta the house..that happened to my friend in hs...she was pretty much homeless bc she moved in to her boyfriends house and it didn't work out for them and her mom wouldn't take her back...it was such a mess...she couldn't live with her kid bc the grandma took control and filed for custody..the situation started off so good but like alot of young parents/teenagers it got really messed  up..i know not all people r like t his but just felt like sharing what happened to a friend..

Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:

8th, she was supposed to be in 9th but they said she was too young since she turned 14 after the school year started.
She's keeping it, her bf's mom is going to help her, thank God for her support!


Quoting Anonymous:

i m glad shes  not geting an abortion if things don't go well for her she could alway do an open adoption also if she feels as though she i s not ready..that alot of responsabilty for a young girl...most girl turn 14 when they are in 8th grade in my state...is she in HS or middle school...



Wifeyy2Lette
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:18 PM
15 I think, he's her age.


Quoting prieta05:

So how okd is her bf???

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MissLeanna
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:19 PM
She doesn't keep track of her period?

Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:

She doesn't know when her last period was and she hasn't had an ultrasound yet.




Quoting MissLeanna:

It's not hard to figure out lol





Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:

They're guessing7 weeks, they don't know for sure.








Quoting JakesMom712:

Right. Didn't she post this like a week or two ago? Wasn't she six weeks then?










Quoting MyLittlePwny:

OP said the first time she posted this was she was going to try and adopt the baby lmao. Funny how the story changes.











Quoting JakesMom712:

Ummm. 14 yr old mom, crackhead grandma, jailbird grandpa, and you for an aunt. I think that says it all. She can't even get a job to support said baby. The baby will most likely continue the cycle. Poor baby. Smh














Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:

No, it's not.







Who are you to say what's best for her?
















Quoting Buggy979:

Sounds like she should be on 16 & pregnant... If you telltale think the bio dad will be around I think not... I hope she puts this baby up for adoption.. its the best thing for this baby.. .





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Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:19 PM


Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:

Idk. She doesn't even know.


Quoting Anonymous:

So she was 3 weeks when she found out?


so ughhh then why did you say 7 weeks? lol WTF!

MissLeanna
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:19 PM
That's true also.
And apparently she doesn't keep track of her periods, so how would she know when to test so soon..?


Quoting Anonymous:



Quoting MissLeanna:

I found out at 4 almost 5 weeks lol



Quoting Anonymous:

So she was 3 weeks when she found out?

If she found out at 3 weeks, that means it would have been what, a week after conception? Is that believable? I also found out at 4 weeks, however I was expecting it, I would HOPE a 14 year old not to expect to be pregnant

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