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my husband didn't come home last night. ****EDIT****

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Title says it. He was supposed to be home from work at 12:30 to 1 this morning and he isn't home yet. It is 5:30 a.m. I was worried at first. I got up around 3 and when he wasn't there I drove to his work and by his friends house but he wasn't there. I called the jail. I am worried sick!!! This is unusual. His phone is dead, I know because he was asking me to find his charger yesterday before he went to work because he lost it and I found it. I tried calling but its dead. He likes to drink so I'm thinking he is passed out at a friend's house because he won't drive drunk. He isn't the cheating type but it crossed my mind because it is so unlike him. Oh my god I can't sleep now and I don't know if I should be worried or angry. He has to work at 2 pm so he has to be at.....


And he just came home. Says he was at someone named Kyle's house playing video games and.drinking beer. I'm not happy I was worried sick!!



****EDIT*****
When he came home I was up. He stumbled in the door. He said he had dropped off a coworker and who asked him if he wanted to come and have a beer and play a video game. He doesn't have my number memorized and his phone was dead so he couldn't contact me. He said he lost track of time. He got home around 5:45. He is passed out now. I told him if he doesn't stop drinking or learn to control it then I am not going to sit around and watch him destroy his liver and drain our accounts. If he can't help himself then I will drive him to work (we have one car) and look at his receipts because if he wants to behave like a child I wi treat him like one. When we were dating he would get smashed every weekend and drink through the week. I thought it was just a phase after turning 21 that men go through. He got better. But then he will do something like this, I will get mad and tell him he needs to watch the drinking. For example, I bet him he couldn't go a month without a drink then he said he was going to a movie with his friends but was at the bar. He was mysteriously coming home late every night and I.found out he was buying beer and drinking it in the parking lot after work before he came home.

He is a good father, a good husband besides this, and he works 40+ hours a week but this is getting out of control. This pattern needs to stop. I love my husband and I want to help him. I think he is an alcoholic. His parents both are and his family are big drinkers. I don't think he knows what responsible drinking is.


How do I help him? I know ultimately he had to make the decision but I want him to go to an AA meeting, counseling, something!!!



Oh and did I mention he drove home.DRUNK!!!!! Wtf is wrong with.him!!!! The biggest issue is him.driving drunk and me not knowing where he was. I used my mother's car to look for him. I did check the hospitals also btw but.my dad said.they would call me or come to my.house if he was.hurt because.it had been five.hours from.when he.should be home. Sorry for extra punctuation.


WWYD??? Thoughts???
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 6, 2012 at 5:41 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 6:48 AM
My ex husband would do this same thing. That is why he is my ex husband. Good luck trying to change your DH.
lucky2Beeme
by Ruby Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:58 AM

I would be LIVID. their is no excuse for him to have not called. What a selfish irresponsible prick.

brettsmomma
by ~Tammie~ on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:01 AM

He is rude, inconsiderate and selfish. Is that what you want in a husband? I personally have no problem with my husband doing after work activities but a simple phone call is required. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:06 AM

Who stays up all night drinking and playing video games after working in the middle of the night?  I think the story is a lie personally.  Maybe up all night doing coke but not drinking.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:05 AM
Quoting Anonymous:

He should have let you know where he was going so you wouldn't worry. Do you believe that's where he really was?


I will believe him once I talk with this coworker but I think he was telling the truth. Look at the update there are more details. He has lied about drinking in the past or done things like this. I didn't even want to write it because I was hoping he wasn't drinking but he came in reeking of alcohol and apologizing over and over when I confronted him. But I'm not going to keep ignoring these little instances.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:06 AM
Quoting Anonymous:

Who stays up all night drinking and playing video games after working in the middle of the night?  I think the story is a lie personally.  Maybe up all night doing coke but not drinking.




He used to do this all the time so its believable but I'm not happy about it. He needs to grow up.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:08 AM
Quoting brettsmomma:

He is rude, inconsiderate and selfish. Is that what you want in a husband? I personally have no problem with my husband doing after work activities but a simple phone call is required. 




I am.definately disappointed in him. He is usually a good husband for the most part. This kind of childish behavior is unacceptable.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:09 AM
Quoting lucky2Beeme:

I would be LIVID. their is no excuse for him to have not called. What a selfish irresponsible prick.





Yeah I am not happy with him.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:09 AM
Quoting Anonymous:

My ex husband would do this same thing. That is why he is my ex husband. Good luck trying to change your DH.


I told him if he doesn't change I'm not going to sit around and watch him.destroy himself.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:11 AM
Quoting Anonymous:

then he should of called from "kyles" cell phone or phone, to let you know where he was!!


he doesn't have my number memorized but that is not an excuse he should have just come home.
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