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my husband didn't come home last night. ****EDIT****

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Title says it. He was supposed to be home from work at 12:30 to 1 this morning and he isn't home yet. It is 5:30 a.m. I was worried at first. I got up around 3 and when he wasn't there I drove to his work and by his friends house but he wasn't there. I called the jail. I am worried sick!!! This is unusual. His phone is dead, I know because he was asking me to find his charger yesterday before he went to work because he lost it and I found it. I tried calling but its dead. He likes to drink so I'm thinking he is passed out at a friend's house because he won't drive drunk. He isn't the cheating type but it crossed my mind because it is so unlike him. Oh my god I can't sleep now and I don't know if I should be worried or angry. He has to work at 2 pm so he has to be at.....


And he just came home. Says he was at someone named Kyle's house playing video games and.drinking beer. I'm not happy I was worried sick!!



****EDIT*****
When he came home I was up. He stumbled in the door. He said he had dropped off a coworker and who asked him if he wanted to come and have a beer and play a video game. He doesn't have my number memorized and his phone was dead so he couldn't contact me. He said he lost track of time. He got home around 5:45. He is passed out now. I told him if he doesn't stop drinking or learn to control it then I am not going to sit around and watch him destroy his liver and drain our accounts. If he can't help himself then I will drive him to work (we have one car) and look at his receipts because if he wants to behave like a child I wi treat him like one. When we were dating he would get smashed every weekend and drink through the week. I thought it was just a phase after turning 21 that men go through. He got better. But then he will do something like this, I will get mad and tell him he needs to watch the drinking. For example, I bet him he couldn't go a month without a drink then he said he was going to a movie with his friends but was at the bar. He was mysteriously coming home late every night and I.found out he was buying beer and drinking it in the parking lot after work before he came home.

He is a good father, a good husband besides this, and he works 40+ hours a week but this is getting out of control. This pattern needs to stop. I love my husband and I want to help him. I think he is an alcoholic. His parents both are and his family are big drinkers. I don't think he knows what responsible drinking is.


How do I help him? I know ultimately he had to make the decision but I want him to go to an AA meeting, counseling, something!!!



Oh and did I mention he drove home.DRUNK!!!!! Wtf is wrong with.him!!!! The biggest issue is him.driving drunk and me not knowing where he was. I used my mother's car to look for him. I did check the hospitals also btw but.my dad said.they would call me or come to my.house if he was.hurt because.it had been five.hours from.when he.should be home. Sorry for extra punctuation.


WWYD??? Thoughts???
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 6, 2012 at 5:41 AM
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gofast_mama
by Bronze Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:11 AM
How did ou drive around looking for him if you only have one car and he dropped off a co worker?
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:12 AM
Quoting Anonymous:

He should have let you know where he was going so you wouldn't worry. Do you believe that's where he really was?


His phone was dead and he doesn't have my number memorized but its not an.excuse.
mamadolce
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:13 AM
REALLY WHAT MAN DOES NOT KNOW HIS WIFE/GF/SO TELEPHONE NUMBER BY HEART!?? Yes he is an alcoholic and deep down you already know this unless he wants help its all going to be a downhill spiral for your family. Sorry
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:14 AM
Quoting gofast_mama:

How did ou drive around looking for him if you only have one car and he dropped off a co worker?



My moms car. We live with my family. Long story. Basically he got laid off a couple.years ago and had to start at the bottom in a different field so we are staying with them temporarily. But he is supposed to get a promotion in December and we can move out. But that is why I don't think he should be going out buying.alcohol. we should be saving.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:14 AM

Im seriously not meaning this in a bad way hun, im just askin...but why doesnt he know his wifes number by heart? 

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

then he should of called from "kyles" cell phone or phone, to let you know where he was!!


he doesn't have my number memorized but that is not an excuse he should have just come home.


jillianmayasmom
by Silver Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:15 AM
I find it strange that he doesn't know your cell number or your house number. Really strange.
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Nicoleb9
by Emerald Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:15 AM
Unless you do something drastic, he's never going to stop.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:16 AM
I'd be done with his ass. When he kills someone one night after drinking then you'll be done.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:16 AM

My ex husband used to do this however it was very frequent would always turn into him being hungover and passed out till he went to work again.  Eventually it lead to a DUI and the end of our marriage.  I PERSONALLY couldn't watch him destroy our lives with alcohol and let my children think that that was what a marriage was.

(When I left he moved another woman in with in a week. They have never confirmed but I have my guesses that they were dating long before we split so there is a good chance that was the reason for his lack of concern for my feelings. They had a child together recently and she is now attempting to contact me to question me regarding my choice to leave him. Seems she might have been guilty of thinking she could "change" him)

Nicoleb9
by Emerald Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:16 AM
Same here. I don't have very many numbers memorized myself but come on now. He doesn't know his wife's number?


Quoting jillianmayasmom:

I find it strange that he doesn't know your cell number or your house number. Really strange.

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