I don't believe in spanking
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Parents seem to be on this power trip with their kids. It's the only explanation for the ferocity with which these parents cling to the concept of spanking.
Children are young, less experienced, less knowledgeable and can be defiant, impulsive and downright annoying and often even infuriating.
When you have someone that you rule over, who knows less than you and who defies and annoys you, you feel completely justified in hitting them.
You say it's to teach them a lesson. You say it's because they can't learn any other way.
You say it's your right as their "ruler."
Let's grow beyond this and act benevolently to our subjects, eh?
(BTW, I don't spank.)
Quoting RhondaVeggie:
So it'll be fine when your kids get bigger and start hitting you back when you hit them then?
Quoting Dzyre1115:This house is not a Democracy, it is a Dictatorship, and I am it's Dictator and I will rule as I see fit!
My kids get hit, when they hit. So the rule here is, "If you don't want to be hit, then don't hit", it works like a charm!
OMG! An original post!!!!
*faints*
Btw...I have some bubble wrap for sale, in case you run out.
Im not a ruler I am a parent and as such it is up to me to teach my kids how to behave and what is expected of them now and later when they are adults. My first resort is not to hit but after teaching and repeating myself my children know there are consequences for their actions. They are now at a point where I dont have to lay a hand on them about 98% of the time. The other 2% I dont feel bad about because we have been doing this for some time now and if they continue to NOT follow instruction they will face said consequences. My point is this not all parents hit just to hit or just out of anger but as a part of teaching their children. You may not agree but I believe that my way of teaching will help my children as adults because the world WILL kick their butts (much worse than any spanking) if they dont heed warnings and learn some lessons when first presented. I was spanked as a child and to this day have the utmost respect for both of my parents. I have never felt unloved or ruled over as they provided a nice balanced lesson for me as a child. I will do the same for mine. Not knocking your way of parenting do what you feel is best but really not everyone believes what you do.
I don't think most do it because they are power tripping. I think its more they are repeating what was done to them.Feeling they had a good childhood,were well behaved and think this is how they will raise their children. They feel physical punishment works best, or some of of sheer frustration.


