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Some moms of 'big' babies annoy me *edit*

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I rarely say anything about DD's birth weight because I really couldn't care less, but moms who brag and go on and on about how big their baby was, how they had no drugs, etc bug me. I don't use my daughter's birth weight as a measure of good parenting and neither does anyone else. For the record, dd was 13lbs 5oz at birth and was born at 40+1. She was born by c-section after 28 hours of drug-free labor. She had some health issues, mostly shoulder dystocia and recieved oxygen. She was in the NICU for a few hours while they ran tests.

I don't brag and I don't get why anyone else does.

Again, this isn't a brag post, just one to state annoyance. My kids are more than just big babies. They are smart, funny, sweet and just good little people. I don't understand why some moms just focus on what they can push out of their vaginas or have cut out of them lol.

ETA: No diabetes, no gestational diabetes. I was not obese or overweight. I am 5'2 and weighed 122 when I got pregnant. I gained 27 lbs during the pregnancy. This child was my first. During the pregnancy my midwife did notice I was measuring large-for-dates and did many ultrasounds. She predicted DD to be about 10.5 lbs. My second child was large also, 12 lbs 8oz and born at 41+3, and by c-section because of the issues with DD's birth.

Both my babies were exclusively breastfed, the first until 14 months and the second until 16 months, so to the woman who stated that I MUST have had to give them formula because you can't sustain a baby on breastmilk who is that size, you are very incorrect, because I did with no problems whatsoever.

I do not know if there is a family history related to large babies; I'm adopted as is my mom. Both pregnancies physically exhausting, but I have never known anything different, so it might just be normal. However, I know I will not be having more children. I know the risks associated with macrosomia later in life for the babies. Both my kids are healthy and thriving, but they're still very large. DD is 6 years old, 47 inches tall and weighs 58 lbs. DS is 3 years old and 40 inches tall and weighs 43 lbs. I weigh 125 now and I don't know if I have a family history of diabetes, but we are very careful about what we eat just in case.

Thanks for all the replies. It's very interesting that there's so a wide array of opinions out there, and even those who believe that having a c-section is not giving birth. 

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/birth?s=t

birth

1.

an act or instance of being born: the day of his birth.
2.
the act or process of bearing or bringing forth offspring;childbirth parturition: a difficult birth.

If you don't believe that a c-section is giving birth, you are certainly incorrect. Last I checked, that's still bringing forth offspring; it's still the act of being born. Therefore, a c-section is not a vaginal or natural birth, but it's still giving birth :).

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:39 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 15 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:14 AM
I guess some people relate their children's weight with good health, and like any parent find things to brag about because they're proud. Plus, most people usually ask how much the baby weighed at birth. I find birth weight chatter nothing to get annoyed over.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 13 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:15 AM
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an obese mother will not have a huge baby just because they themselves are overweight.  i was 260 and 280 when i deliver my sons and one was a 7 pounder and the other was an 8 pounder.  both totally NORMAL weights for a baby.  i also did not have gd or any other health concerns.  in fact my labors were under 5 hours each and i had my babies at home.

some woman just have large babies.  i had a teacher who was like that.  she was a thinner person (but very tall) and had 5 kids vaginally at home.  the lowest weight was 11 pounds and the highest weight was just over 14.  all of her kids were between 11 and 14 pounds.  they were all perfectly healthy and she didnt have gd.  she just made big babies plain and simple.


Quoting Anonymous:

This. Its not like you actually pushed that baby out so big or small makes no difference.
People brag about bigger babies but big big babies aren't usually something to brag about since they probably got so big either by the mom not taking care of what she ate or diabetes, the mom being huge to begin with (which again isn't healthy) or things like that, so its not really an accomplishment since it can actually affect baby's health.


Quoting RhondaVeggie:

Bragging about a big baby generally involves actually giving birth to them so there isn't really a reason to brag with a c-section because size doesn't matter when the baby isn't passing through the vaginal canal.


CrnchyMamaCraig
by Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:16 AM

That's definitely NOT true about eating like crap = big baby. I didn't eat all that great with my first and he was 8 lbs 9 oz, ate a little better with my second and she was 8lbs 3oz, ate FANTASTIC with my third and he was 9lbs and 10oz. And for the record, I did push him out. And yeah,...I'm friggin proud of pushing that big ole baby out. Probably for different reasons that some though. My first was born via cesarean due to "cephalopelvic disproportion" (or, the baby was too big for my pelvis) My first weighed over a pound less than my third and was the same length so that doc got it wrong. Just goes to show that if someone tells you that you CAN'T do something, it's best to get a second opinion.

Quoting Anonymous:

This. Its not like you actually pushed that baby out so big or small makes no difference.
People brag about bigger babies but big big babies aren't usually something to brag about since they probably got so big either by the mom not taking care of what she ate or diabetes, the mom being huge to begin with (which again isn't healthy) or things like that, so its not really an accomplishment since it can actually affect baby's health.


Quoting RhondaVeggie:

Bragging about a big baby generally involves actually giving birth to them so there isn't really a reason to brag with a c-section because size doesn't matter when the baby isn't passing through the vaginal canal.


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tbursac777
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:16 AM

 why not brag about your baby??? i don't get it.

it's YOUR baby, and you are proud of them aren't YOu?? why wouldn't you want to brag??

kmorales7690
by Ruby Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:16 AM
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 meh, mine were both small, 6lbs 13oz and 5lbs8oz, they were both pushed out with no medication, yea I'm proud!!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 16 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:17 AM
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I have never heard anyone brag about birthing a "big baby." There is a difference in when in conversation about child birth a friend mentions how big her baby is and bragging.

I am going to brag about my child birth experience. I was only in labor for 5 hours, I had an epidural and never experience any significant pain during the process, and my dd only weighed 6 lbs 7 oz. My labor was EASY, EASY, EASY. In your face!

Elyce225
by Emerald Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:17 AM
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I guess you just don't understand the awesomeness of having an all natural birth and delivering a big baby.  It's definitely an accomplishment, most women can not do it.  

I birthed an 11 pound baby all natural (not even an IV).  I also birthed a 10+ lb baby with an epidural, and then I had two c-sections.  The other three are not brag worthy but the natural birth is.  

I guess you would understand if you were able to do it *shrugs*.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 17 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:18 AM
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I took a shit one day, after not using the bathroom for 3 days, and lost 5 pounds.
militarywife09
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:19 AM
I agree with this. I wouldn't brag if I had a cesection, but the fact I pushed a 9lb 2oz baby through my vagina is an accomplishment.


Quoting RhondaVeggie:

Bragging about a big baby generally involves actually giving birth to them so there isn't really a reason to brag with a c-section because size doesn't matter when the baby isn't passing through the vaginal canal.

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Rose87
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:20 AM
Mine were 6lb13oz and 5lb9oz!
But mine were both emergency c-sec


Quoting kmorales7690:

 meh, mine were both small, 6lbs 13oz and 5lbs8oz, they were both pushed out with no medication, yea I'm proud!!

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