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Some moms of 'big' babies annoy me *edit*

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I rarely say anything about DD's birth weight because I really couldn't care less, but moms who brag and go on and on about how big their baby was, how they had no drugs, etc bug me. I don't use my daughter's birth weight as a measure of good parenting and neither does anyone else. For the record, dd was 13lbs 5oz at birth and was born at 40+1. She was born by c-section after 28 hours of drug-free labor. She had some health issues, mostly shoulder dystocia and recieved oxygen. She was in the NICU for a few hours while they ran tests.

I don't brag and I don't get why anyone else does.

Again, this isn't a brag post, just one to state annoyance. My kids are more than just big babies. They are smart, funny, sweet and just good little people. I don't understand why some moms just focus on what they can push out of their vaginas or have cut out of them lol.

ETA: No diabetes, no gestational diabetes. I was not obese or overweight. I am 5'2 and weighed 122 when I got pregnant. I gained 27 lbs during the pregnancy. This child was my first. During the pregnancy my midwife did notice I was measuring large-for-dates and did many ultrasounds. She predicted DD to be about 10.5 lbs. My second child was large also, 12 lbs 8oz and born at 41+3, and by c-section because of the issues with DD's birth.

Both my babies were exclusively breastfed, the first until 14 months and the second until 16 months, so to the woman who stated that I MUST have had to give them formula because you can't sustain a baby on breastmilk who is that size, you are very incorrect, because I did with no problems whatsoever.

I do not know if there is a family history related to large babies; I'm adopted as is my mom. Both pregnancies physically exhausting, but I have never known anything different, so it might just be normal. However, I know I will not be having more children. I know the risks associated with macrosomia later in life for the babies. Both my kids are healthy and thriving, but they're still very large. DD is 6 years old, 47 inches tall and weighs 58 lbs. DS is 3 years old and 40 inches tall and weighs 43 lbs. I weigh 125 now and I don't know if I have a family history of diabetes, but we are very careful about what we eat just in case.

Thanks for all the replies. It's very interesting that there's so a wide array of opinions out there, and even those who believe that having a c-section is not giving birth.



an act or instance of being born: the day of his birth.
the act or process of bearing or bringing forth offspring;childbirth parturition: a difficult birth.

If you don't believe that a c-section is giving birth, you are certainly incorrect. Last I checked, that's still bringing forth offspring; it's still the act of being born. Therefore, a c-section is not a vaginal or natural birth, but it's still giving birth :).

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:39 AM
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by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 12:53 PM

We all have the right to brag about our children. Who are you to tell us who should have a right to do anything and who should not. What is cafemom for? Are we not mothers? Then what is wrong talking about the one day that lays in the heart of all mothers? The birth of your child. When i was pregant with my first, I went to class after class. Of noth birthing but just parenting. No the Birth I did on my own. Any who the teacher said a great way to savor the blessing of your child and to prevent post- depression is to talk about your birthing experience. No two mother goes thru the same thing. Talk and bost and enjoy the story with who ever wil listen. I did and my son is four years old and i still do.  I save my son life when I had him. His cord was too short so every time he pushed down he could'nt breath. I was in labor for eleven days. I had my 8 lbs 9 oz 23 inc baby boy without a lick of drugs in my body. All natural out of my vaginal. I got 42 stitches from my anus down. It took me three months to poo sitting down. But august 1st 2008 My life change for the better and I wouldn't have it any other way. My son is my light and the day i gave birth to him Is a day I will thank god for always. I will talk about the birth of my son the love of my life for the rest of my life and it is not a d*** thing you or anyone eles can do about it. -Thank you

by Bronze Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:15 PM
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 i think people that brag about their kids in general are totally lame. i'm not talking about ittle funny/sweet stuff parents chitchat about, either, i mean bragging. My experience is that fate, God or whatever has a real funny way of humbling those that do. I'd like to believe I'm swift eniugh to not tempt fate so I like to save gloating o those things that can not be inerprreed as living vicariously through another, (i.e. MY OWN accomplishments). Popping out a kid, ,no matter how large or small is not and ought not be the end of all fuure goals/potenial accomplishments. Jeeze...

by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:00 PM
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Wow 13 lbs!  My friend had a baby over 10 lbs and I thought that was huge! :D

My girls were both under 6 - which tends to amaze people just as much as a big baby. LOL

My boy popped out at over 8 lbs. A big (literally) surprise to me! I was expecting another 6 pounder :D

I am not ashamed to say that I had an epidural with every childbirth.  I actually have a high pain tolerance (being a klutz all your life deadens the nerves I think, heh heh) EXCEPT when it comes to giving birth. 

I hold mother's who give birth naturally without any drugs in very high regard.

Kudos to ANY mother who brought forth a child - that in of itself is a miracle to celebrate!

by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:03 PM

 This post sounds crazy.

by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:28 AM
Well you're not really bragging about your children here. You're bragging about your ability. If you ask me I'll tell you about both my children's births. But I don't bring it up out of the blue. FYI to IP there's nothing wrong in taking pride in YOURSELF not just your children.

Quoting Apr1l:

Why the hell can't someone brag about their children?!

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by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 12:51 PM
O sheesh! Of course having a c sections still giving birth! Crazy to think that it isn't. Wow that is a big baby!!! It doesn't bother me when ppl brag about big babies nor do I think that they measure their children or parenting by it to each his own I try not to get offended easily
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 11:49 AM

most of the time, i don't think people are bragging. my second son was 9lb 14oz. when i tell people, they make a big deal about it. 

by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 11:51 AM
Eh whatever. Get over it just exit the conversation if it annoys you.
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 4, 2013 at 10:44 PM
Bump >:-).
by Emerald Member on Jan. 4, 2013 at 10:49 PM
Quoting RhondaVeggie:

Bragging about a big baby generally involves actually giving birth to them so there isn't really a reason to brag with a c-section because size doesn't matter when the baby isn't passing through the vaginal canal.

You still give birth when you have a c-section. Saying someone doesn't is insulting.
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