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Why I sleep with married men.....

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How do I start this? While I know there will be a lot of bashing in this post, I'm simply stating why I sleep with married men your opinion really means nothing to me. I want to give you insight on why these things happen, or at least my opinion of why these things happen.

Married men have sex, married men are looking to have regular sex. When they look outside of the marriage they're looking for adventure. Alot of wives have asked why can't he get adventure at home? The answer is simple, he has had his wife and he doesn't feel as if she could feel the fantasy. He is looking to feel the passion again. With a new lover you feel the passion again.

Men like looking at pretty things. It's not to say that their wives are not pretty, sometimes the wives are knockouts. Men like looking, it's just human nature to want to procreate. As a woman it is your job/my job/a womans job to want to fulfill that need. Even if the act of procreation doesn't produce an offspring.

I don't care if a man is married. I am not the one going outside of a marriage to look for sex. I will never have on my conscience that I am the one that broke up a marriage/family. In no way, shape, or form did I have anything to do with the break up of the family unit whatever it may be. I was never a part of that family/marriage, the husband is the only guilty party. It's his fault consequence happen, if anythi does happen.

Married guys are more scared of their wives than they'll ever let on. (Unless, you have a player from the start. Then it's just a matter of time so expect it.) It's hard to catch an STD from someone who has had only one partner. You can simply tell the differen between the two when you talk to them, by the infliction in their words and their body language. I guess you could say there's a science to it.

Lastly, unless somebody brings up a point that I haven't thought of, presents, gifts and money. Sometimes none of that is ever exchanged. Believe it or not, sometimes it's just for sex. Sometimes it's for all those things, expectations are set from the begining.
Who cares?

I want to get out there this is only my opinion for a physical affair, emotional affairs are completely different. It is very easy and very plausible to separate the two, but in the same breath it is easy for the two to become one. Anything you call me or say to me is nothing that I haven't heard before.

I have been confronted by the wife, different wives, twice before. As angry as they are, they just want to know why. I tell them it is not the question I can answer because I didn't leave the marriage and angry as they are at meme they are more angry at the husband.
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:08 AM
Replies (251-260):
Amybelle
by Ruby Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:03 PM
1 mom liked this

I see you've typed something but all I'm reading is Blah, blah, blah

Aislinn
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:06 PM

 You have issues. Nothing to brag about, in my opinion. Women with self worth do not go after taken men. That is just how it is. It sounds like a lonely, miserable existence, to me.

ramita
by Gold Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:12 PM
Definitely strawberry...atleast thats my preference


Quoting atyou:

Cool.



I'm thinking smoothies. Strawberry or mango?






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LiliM
by Platinum Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:14 PM
Ok.

Glad that my DH has moved beyond the excitement of what is just a jack off fuck. There's more to marriage than just sex.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 46 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:44 PM

How to Make Him Divorce His Wife

You’re madly in love with your man but there’s one little problem: He’s already married. While you may be able to live in other womanly bliss for some time, being the other woman will eventually wear you down and you’ll want the guy all to yourself. There is no guarantee you can make him divorce his wife, but you sure can try with a few strategic tactics.

Instructions

    • 1

      Share your pain. Tell him how much your heart belongs to him and how much it breaks every time he goes home to his wife. Ask him to imagine the situation reversed, if you were the married one, and what he would want you to do. You can even ask him how he would get you to divorce your husband, if you had one, so you can use some of his tips on him.

    • 2

      Do everything in your power to please him. Go out of your way to be the doting girlfriend, the perfect mate, the adorable other woman. This could include bringing him surprise gifts, taking him out to a fancy place to wine and dine him and making him a king for the night with his every wish your firm desire

    • 3

      Offer 10 good reasons why he’d be happier with you than with his wife. You won’t have to sneak around anymore. You already have a townhouse for two on the river. He won’t have to hear the nagging shrew. You make better pancakes. Write down the reasons on a heart-shaped piece of cardboard and give it to him so he’s reminded always.

    • 4

      Give him the ultimatum. Yes, the “her or me” moment. Give him one week, and one week only, to think it over. Remind him again of how much fun you two have together and the 10 good reasons why he’d be happier with you. Don’t let him duck out with flimsy excuses like she’ll take all his money or what about his kids. His love for you, if genuine, should override all that stuff.

    • 5

      Blackmail him. This is the last and potentially disastrous step. Even if blackmail does make him divorce his wife, since she may want a divorce after she finds out you two have been romping in the daisies, it may make him angry enough that he’d also be through with you. Use this step only as a last resort and with extreme caution.

    • Tips & Warnings

      • The minute his divorce is final, get hitched as soon as possible before he can find someone else to fill the void.

      • Remember the adage, “Once a cheater, always a cheater” and know there is no sure-fire way to know that even if you get the guy to divorce his wife that he won’t turn around and cheat on you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 46 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:47 PM

How to Help a Boyfriend Through a Divorce

Society generally takes a dim view of a woman dating a married man, but one exception can be when the man is separated and going through a divorce. Re-connecting with the love of your life or meeting a man you are compatible with while he is no longer in a relationship with his wife is possible, although both scenarios make for a sticky relationship situation. If you are certain that your boyfriend has severed ties with his wife and is dedicated to pursuing a life with you, taking steps to help him through the divorce will benefit your relationship with him for the long haul.

Instructions

    • 1

      Stay informed as to your boyfriend and his wife's legal status at all times. Ask questions about the state of the divorce at the beginning of your relationship with him. Have your boyfriend brief you on the legal procedures that must take place in order for the divorce to commence and become finalized. Find out if your boyfriend is legally separated from his wife and why he has or has not taken this step. Find out if divorce papers have been served or if there are additional steps that must be taken beforehand. Different states have different rules, so make sure you know what you're going up against. Perform your own research if necessary.

    • 2

      Gain a clear understanding about the relationship that exists between your boyfriend and his wife so that there are no sudden surprises. If your boyfriend still lives with his wife, this is a red flag. If he constantly gushes about her or visits with her often, you may want to rethink pursuing a relationship with this man. If he is honest about his intent to divorce and proves that he has no feelings for her, proceed with caution. Keep dialogue open that would reveal how he truly feels about you versus his wife. Make sure that he is living on his own and refrains from seeing her unless absolutely necessary. Also, keep in mind that he is still legally married: Supporting his wife financially to some extent is normal.

    • 3

      Set clear boundaries initially. If you are uncomfortable with moving in together prior to his divorce, for example, make this known. Staying honest about what you are comfortable with will keep your relationship healthy and encourage respect for one another despite the circumstances.

    • 4

      Don't intervene. Avoid contact with your boyfriend's wife as much as possible, whether she is aware of your relationship with her husband or not. You should not feel a need to involve yourself with the issues between your boyfriend and his wife: If you can't trust him to be true to you then you should not pursue a relationship with him. Do not play counselor and do not ask about the problems between them, as this will only bring unnecessary baggage into your relationship and drive a wedge between the two of you. Be supportive but do not pry.

    • 5

      Have patience and understanding. Realize that you willingly involved yourself with a man who is not entirely free and that it is not going to be an easy ride. Try not to get angry or overreact to new information until you have had time to assess the situation rationally. Stand by your man in the face of opposition, such as disapproving friends and family members. Be kind to your man while you are going through this trying time and your relationship will be that much stronger once the divorce is finalized

Anonymous
by Anonymous 50 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:48 PM
Your post means absolutely nothing to me which is why i skipped it and made a pointless reply to a pointless post teehee
Anonymous
by Anonymous 51 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:49 PM

You can sleep with MY husband, thanks!!!!  I'm tired of the old stinky goat.  You have the sex, I will keep his money! Sweet deal to me......

I have spend a lot of time and no small effort into keep MYSELF fit, and "fixing up the house" as we aged, he has not.  Horrid mouth, huge pot like he is 9 months pg, gone all slobby, and HE wonders "why don't you be Jane to my Tarzan anymore?"  

YOU sleep with him, please!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 6:09 PM
i have no need for counseling


Quoting 3xangel:

Why do you think counseling is crap? Have you ever tried it?



Quoting Anonymous:

counseling is crap. ering your grievances isn't always best, sometimes you have a face your fears.






Quoting 3xangel:

Negative. Marriage counseling or the couple having a heart to heart is the correct way to fix problems in a marriage. Putting your family at risk of being destroyed, opening up the chance of you catching an std and passing it to your spouse, breaking trust, and risking the chance of your family being stalked does not fix anything.







Quoting Anonymous:

With that being said, sometimes an affair has to happen for problems to be fixed.










Quoting 3xangel:

I disagree. It's always the cheating spouse fault. If you have a problem at home you either fix it or leave. Period.











Quoting Anonymous:

sometimes it's not even the wife's fault. sometimes it's purely the husband














Quoting 3xangel:

Were you not fulfilling your duty as a wife? Is that why your husband cheated on you?















Quoting Anonymous:

I agree with op on this one. No, I haven't been a mistress but I have been a wife that has been cheated on. In my opinion it's always the husbands fault. They are the ones that are looking for something different. Sometimes it can be the fault of the wife. Maybe she isn't fulfilling her duty as a wife.




Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 6:23 PM
I dont encourage the husband to ever leave hos wife. I dont want to be with someone who cheats on his wife.


Quoting Anonymous:

How to Make Him Divorce His Wife


You’re madly in love with your man but there’s one little problem: He’s already married. While you may be able to live in other womanly bliss for some time, being the other woman will eventually wear you down and you’ll want the guy all to yourself. There is no guarantee you can make him divorce his wife, but you sure can try with a few strategic tactics.


Instructions






    • 1


      Share your pain. Tell him how much your heart belongs to him and how much it breaks every time he goes home to his wife. Ask him to imagine the situation reversed, if you were the married one, and what he would want you to do. You can even ask him how he would get you to divorce your husband, if you had one, so you can use some of his tips on him.


    • 2


      Do everything in your power to please him. Go out of your way to be the doting girlfriend, the perfect mate, the adorable other woman. This could include bringing him surprise gifts, taking him out to a fancy place to wine and dine him and making him a king for the night with his every wish your firm desire





    • 3




      Offer 10 good reasons why he’d be happier with you than with his wife. You won’t have to sneak around anymore. You already have a townhouse for two on the river. He won’t have to hear the nagging shrew. You make better pancakes. Write down the reasons on a heart-shaped piece of cardboard and give it to him so he’s reminded always.


    • 4


      Give him the ultimatum. Yes, the “her or me” moment. Give him one week, and one week only, to think it over. Remind him again of how much fun you two have together and the 10 good reasons why he’d be happier with you. Don’t let him duck out with flimsy excuses like she’ll take all his money or what about his kids. His love for you, if genuine, should override all that stuff.


    • 5


      Blackmail him. This is the last and potentially disastrous step. Even if blackmail does make him divorce his wife, since she may want a divorce after she finds out you two have been romping in the daisies, it may make him angry enough that he’d also be through with you. Use this step only as a last resort and with extreme caution.



    • Tips & Warnings





      • The minute his divorce is final, get hitched as soon as possible before he can find someone else to fill the void.




      • Remember the adage, “Once a cheater, always a cheater” and know there is no sure-fire way to know that even if you get the guy to divorce his wife that he won’t turn around and cheat on you.


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