Dad shares bed with daughter and sons sleep on the couch? EDIT

[Anonymous]

My ex husband lives in a 1 bedroom apartment.  On the weekends that our kids visit him, our sons (ages 13 and 10) sleep on the couches, while my daughter (4) sleeps in his bed with him.  Do you think that this is inappropriate?  Should I say/do something?  

EDIT: I DON'T think that he is molesting his children.  I DO think that they deserve actual beds when they go to his house.  I don't know if there is anything that I can do about this, and I was asking for advice.  

EDIT 2:  Since people seem to still not understand.... this isn't just about my daughter.  My BOYS need somewhere to sleep as well.  A couch for a 6ft tall child isn't cutting it.  Also, I am NOT paying rent for him to move to a bigger apartment.  Several people have suggested that, and it's just plain ludicrous.

[semamaearth]

I can see how that is uncomfortable for th ekids, but I'm not sure what else he could do. Can he afford a bigger place? If not, I mean, what are you prepared to do? Keep the kids away from him? Are they happy seeing him? I know it's not ideal, but if everything else besides that is good, I wouldn't worry too much.

However, as your daughter gets older, he will need to invest in a an air mattress at the very least for him or her to sleep on, outside of the room. That's JMO

[LadyBugMom09]

Don't see the big deal. He's probably doing the best he can.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Why would you assume that I am in a financial position to buy the kids beds but he isn't? I'm not buying him furniture for his home. That's almost as stupid as the people who said I should pay his rent. Not my responsibility to provide his home with anything. They are his kids, too, and he should be providing them with what they need when they're with him.

Quoting Ronique1989:

How much does he make? I ask because in this economy it is taking more than 2 yrs for some to get back on their feet. And since it bothers you so, why not by the kids some beds?

Quoting Anonymous:

Again, it isn't just about where SHE sleeps, it's also about where the boys sleep.  He's had plenty of time to get back on his feet.  2 1/2 years, to be exact.

Quoting Ronique1989:

I think you're being petty right now. When you guys were together and your 4 yr old crawled into bed with you , I'm sure it wasn't a problem then. Your ex needs some time to get back on his feet. Allow him to enjoy his time with his kids without your interference. Remember, you control YOUR household, not his.

[etsmom]

Perhaps you could suggest that he sleeps on the couch and have the kids all sleep on the bed? Or he could get a pull out chair that your daughter could sleep on?  I don't know how it works where you are, but where I am, my sister had an addition in her parenting plan that stated that her kids were to sleep in beds when they visit. 

[Anonymous]

I think it is fine. Our DS still sleeps with us sometimes.

However, the older your dd gets then I would say, yes, it is inappropriate.... But until then, nothing to worry about.