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so tied of the lies

Anonymous
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for the past few weeks i have been keeping an eye on what my husband does online.. he says he hates porn it does nothing for him but ive been checking his youtube an when i go to bed it gets full with all ages of girl porn... if i find any porn on our computer i ask him an he says it wasnt me must be a virous an i believed himbut know i know hes lieing to me.. what do i do.. i enjoy porn but only if we watch it together or if he is honest about it!! I JUST NEED TO KNOW WHAT WOULD YOU DO??
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 6, 2012 at 3:41 PM
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malibucj
by Platinum Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 3:45 PM

Confront him and talk about it. Let him know where you stand on it.

night.magic
by Silver Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 3:47 PM

 Maybe he is embarrassed to watch it with you or admit to watching it.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 3:49 PM
he will watch it with me an we do something after watching but he says he doesnt get off to it.. im 28 weeks prego which makes this even worse..lol...
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:00 PM
I went through something similar. I called him out on it and he confessed. We talked a lot over the next few weeks about why he lied, why he would continue doing something he thought I would leave him for, etc. Any questions that came to mind were asked. I don't take betrayal of any sort lightly. He said he wouldn't do it any more (his choice, I didn't even ask) and gave me permission to dig through his computer if I needed assurance that he'd kept his promise. Between his willingness to talk about it honestly and admit he was wrong and checking on him every now and then, he has earned back most of my trust in the 9 months since. If he hadn't been willing to work with me on this issue I would have called it quits. I will not stay with a man I can't trust, nor one who doesn't consider our relationship more important than porn. What you do is up to you, but you should discuss the lying. That obviously isn't healthy for a relationship and you deserve honesty and respect.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:06 PM
ok thanks an im glad everything worked out for u

Quoting Anonymous:

I went through something similar. I called him out on it and he confessed. We talked a lot over the next few weeks about why he lied, why he would continue doing something he thought I would leave him for, etc. Any questions that came to mind were asked. I don't take betrayal of any sort lightly. He said he wouldn't do it any more (his choice, I didn't even ask) and gave me permission to dig through his computer if I needed assurance that he'd kept his promise. Between his willingness to talk about it honestly and admit he was wrong and checking on him every now and then, he has earned back most of my trust in the 9 months since. If he hadn't been willing to work with me on this issue I would have called it quits. I will not stay with a man I can't trust, nor one who doesn't consider our relationship more important than porn. What you do is up to you, but you should discuss the lying. That obviously isn't healthy for a relationship and you deserve honesty and respect.

MommaRoseT
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:08 PM

Tell him that. Explain that you don't care if he watches porn but you don't like it when he denies that he does. You should not say that though if it is really going to bother you though (which it sounds like it would). 

Personally, I would just leave him alone and quit trying to catch him watching porn. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:09 PM
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I hate being tied by lies too.

CrimsonRadiance
by Platinum Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:10 PM
Um.. YouTube doesn't allow porn...
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:19 PM
he has found some on there somehow

Quoting CrimsonRadiance:

Um.. YouTube doesn't allow porn...

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 4:20 PM
it really wouldnt i just hate being lied to

Quoting MommaRoseT:

Tell him that. Explain that you don't care if he watches porn but you don't like it when he denies that he does. You should not say that though if it is really going to bother you though (which it sounds like it would). 

Personally, I would just leave him alone and quit trying to catch him watching porn. 


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