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*UPDATE2* Update page 24. My gut feeling was right, i am so numb I probably shouldnt post this....would you assume he is cheating?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
Okay so dh works with his dad doing heating and air. His dad doesn't like me because I am Hispanic. Anywho last night he stayed working until 11 at night (a place that is 2 hours from home), mind you in someone's house. He doesn't work weekends but went in today to work on the same persons house. I told him last night over a text that I was surprised that someone would allow them in their home this late at night. He said well they have no heat, okay I could understand that. But what furnace takes 2 days to do. He said it was just a swap out. I also told him if he is going to cheat to just let me know, I will walk away without a fight. He started yelling at me that the one who accuses is the cheater. I'm a sahm and talk to no one other than my children. He has barely text me today, and usually he will txt to check on us or just to talk. I have this gut feeling that something is not right. I feel like packing the kids and I up and leaving. Would you suspect something? Or am I over reacting?

UPDATE

Well ladies, I was right. A girl tagged him in her check in on Facebook. They were at a bar, I wrote have fun with a married man. I sent him a text not to come home. He said what are you talking about? The check in status was deleted. I will be leaving to my parents tomorrow. Thank goodness I have a education, I will be applying for job asap. I am so numb! I told him I will walk away without and fight and that's what I will be doing. He has been trying to call me but I will not be answering. I hope that girl is strong enough to put up with his bullshit. I kept thinking I was stupid for even questioning his cheating, something in my heart said something was not right... Thank you for responding ladies, I wish you all were right :(

ETA: Thank you for the hugs and supportive words. I am going to finish putting things into my car in case he shows up here tonight and I have to leave. My mom is on here way so thankfully I will have someone here for me. I will update tomorrow once we are out of the house. Good night ladies.

Small update
I want to up date quickly before going to register my kids in school. He admitted to it all in hopes that I would come back why? I don't know I'm not stupid. I am filing for divorce today. My youngest misses his dad but my oldest not at all, he was saw the way his dad treated me. I haven't told them why we have left, I will never talk down about their dad. I am ready for this to be over with,I think he will try to delay the divorce as much as he can. Sorry I'm all over the place I'm trying to get out as much as I can before I have to leave. To those of you still calling ME childish for leaving a cheating scum, Fuck off!
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 6, 2012 at 7:56 PM
Replies (11-20):
kolbiesmommy
by Silver Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:00 PM
Overreacting. Has he given you a reason to not trust him?
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kjfamily
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:01 PM
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My dh does Hvac side jobs a lot. Every job and situation is different , they never know what they will run into. when dealing with heaters, they stay till its running especially if its cold out. Chill out and be happy he is out making extra money.
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jessimicuh
by Gold Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:01 PM
I wouldn't automatically assume he was cheating, but to make your mind feel at ease maybe start being extra careful and watching him more closely?
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:02 PM
I probably should have added to that lol. His dad is against our marriage and at one point asked him to choose. I stayed with my parents for awhile because I know how important his dad is to him and I hated he was put in that situation.

Quoting Anonymous:

Make me a burrrr-e-toe!

Oh no I don't know. Sorry. O just don't get why you threw your race in LOL.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:02 PM
Well id see if he goes back again. If so then ya
jessi2girls
by Ruby Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:05 PM

lol actually I'm talking to my friend via facebook IM and his heater broke yesterday.. it's 8pm.. and the guys suppose to get there in the next half hour.. right after he typed that, and I asked him why so late.. I openned this! lol.

So I guess at times they do come later.. with my friend it's because his landlord was the one that had to call.. and he (landlord) booked the time frame..

IDK if you are over reacting or not, you know your husband better than I.. but at times, people really are working late.

lowencope
by Platinum Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:07 PM

The heating and air guy came to my house this morning on a Saturday.  I told my DH a man came to visit me this morning.  He didn't even ask me any questions he said okay. LOL.  Anyway...I think you may be overreacting.  I think his behavior seems reasonable.  

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:07 PM
His phone has been going off in the middle of the night, I usually keep quiet but said wow you're popular he just said yeah I guess. I don't know, he leaves home at 6am and gets home around 8pm. Maybe I am just lonely I don't know I'm usually not like this, something just doesn't sit right.

Quoting kolbiesmommy:

Overreacting. Has he given you a reason to not trust him?
Pnukey
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:07 PM

He's probably pissed and not texting you because he knows he'll say something mean. I would not assume cheating.

Robin_TripleA
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:08 PM

Check phone records.

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