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*UPDATE2* Update page 24. My gut feeling was right, i am so numb I probably shouldnt post this....would you assume he is cheating?

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Okay so dh works with his dad doing heating and air. His dad doesn't like me because I am Hispanic. Anywho last night he stayed working until 11 at night (a place that is 2 hours from home), mind you in someone's house. He doesn't work weekends but went in today to work on the same persons house. I told him last night over a text that I was surprised that someone would allow them in their home this late at night. He said well they have no heat, okay I could understand that. But what furnace takes 2 days to do. He said it was just a swap out. I also told him if he is going to cheat to just let me know, I will walk away without a fight. He started yelling at me that the one who accuses is the cheater. I'm a sahm and talk to no one other than my children. He has barely text me today, and usually he will txt to check on us or just to talk. I have this gut feeling that something is not right. I feel like packing the kids and I up and leaving. Would you suspect something? Or am I over reacting?

UPDATE

Well ladies, I was right. A girl tagged him in her check in on Facebook. They were at a bar, I wrote have fun with a married man. I sent him a text not to come home. He said what are you talking about? The check in status was deleted. I will be leaving to my parents tomorrow. Thank goodness I have a education, I will be applying for job asap. I am so numb! I told him I will walk away without and fight and that's what I will be doing. He has been trying to call me but I will not be answering. I hope that girl is strong enough to put up with his bullshit. I kept thinking I was stupid for even questioning his cheating, something in my heart said something was not right... Thank you for responding ladies, I wish you all were right :(

ETA: Thank you for the hugs and supportive words. I am going to finish putting things into my car in case he shows up here tonight and I have to leave. My mom is on here way so thankfully I will have someone here for me. I will update tomorrow once we are out of the house. Good night ladies.

Small update
I want to up date quickly before going to register my kids in school. He admitted to it all in hopes that I would come back why? I don't know I'm not stupid. I am filing for divorce today. My youngest misses his dad but my oldest not at all, he was saw the way his dad treated me. I haven't told them why we have left, I will never talk down about their dad. I am ready for this to be over with,I think he will try to delay the divorce as much as he can. Sorry I'm all over the place I'm trying to get out as much as I can before I have to leave. To those of you still calling ME childish for leaving a cheating scum, Fuck off!
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 6, 2012 at 7:56 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:16 PM
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That's just it, his dad doesn't pay him on certain days. Just when ever he feels like it, he tells dh you will get paid when I do. Which seems wrong to me. Shouldnt a responsible business owner pay his employee for his time no matter what? Slap me if I'm wrong lol.

Quoting CheesyKitty:

Simple way to figure this one out, cheaters don't get paid for their time.
kjfamily
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:17 PM
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If he is just a helper maybe 80 is enough. But if he is a mechanic that is no where near enough money. My husband brings home over 1000 sometimes for swap outs.

Quoting Anonymous:

Dang it I just ment to respond to you and clicked on someone else. Does $80 a day seem about right for 13+ hours in this job field?



Quoting kjfamily:

My dh does Hvac side jobs a lot. Every job and situation is different , they never know what they will run into. when dealing with heaters, they stay till its running especially if its cold out. Chill out and be happy he is out making extra money.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:19 PM
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Sometimes I wonder if that's what I want. I have been through hell and back with him because of his PTSD that was caused from being in Iraq. Maybe I'm just tired of being his emotional punching bag, kwim? And I'm scared to walk away because his mental health is so shakey. I'm really thinking about finding a therapists on Monday.

Quoting justpeachy71904:

Chill out. Really. Why jump to that conclusion? Give your man a break. You will push him to it if you keep acting like that. Trust me
Grumpylilpixy
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:21 PM

Way to soon to jump to conclusions dear! 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:21 PM
He is a mechanic :-/ I have never understood why they charge so much for labour but he gets such a small amount. Sometimes I think his dad is taking advantage.

Quoting kjfamily:

If he is just a helper maybe 80 is enough. But if he is a mechanic that is no where near enough money. My husband brings home over 1000 sometimes for swap outs.



Quoting Anonymous:

Dang it I just ment to respond to you and clicked on someone else. Does $80 a day seem about right for 13+ hours in this job field?





Quoting kjfamily:

My dh does Hvac side jobs a lot. Every job and situation is different , they never know what they will run into. when dealing with heaters, they stay till its running especially if its cold out. Chill out and be happy he is out making extra money.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:22 PM
I know :( I needed to be slapped back to reality by you lovely ladies lol.

Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

Way to soon to jump to conclusions dear! 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:22 PM
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From he way he is reacting I would be suspicious
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:23 PM
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Lmao that would really make me question my mental health. I would have to go admit my dang self haha!

Quoting Yourmansgirl:

FIRST OFF GIRLFRIEND relax im a plumbers daughter (hvac) and also just recently had my heating system swapped out it took them from 8 a.m. Until 11 pm that same nite between waitin for supply truck and disassembling carryin out the old system hauling in the new system and then hooking it up. And they came back the next day to hook up the hotwater heater & run all the necessary tests took another few hours. So i doubt he is cheating but you can always rip his pants off and smell him for another womans scent lol that last part was joke.
Grumpylilpixy
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:24 PM

You are uncomfortable because it is unusual. If it keeps happening. Oh yes, time to really look into it. :O) NP. All us go through these thoughts at one time or another. 

Quoting Anonymous:

I know :( I needed to be slapped back to reality by you lovely ladies lol.

Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

Way to soon to jump to conclusions dear! 


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PinkieRed
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:28 PM
My brother is a plumber (owns his own business), and he gets emergency calls all hours of the day and night. He often works 14 hour days, and he works 6-7 days a week, most often 7. I imagine an HVAC repair person would have to work non traditional hours, too.

Unless there's been other things your husband's been doing that are "off", I don't see why you are automatically assuming he's cheating.
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