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*UPDATE2* Update page 24. My gut feeling was right, i am so numb I probably shouldnt post this....would you assume he is cheating?

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Okay so dh works with his dad doing heating and air. His dad doesn't like me because I am Hispanic. Anywho last night he stayed working until 11 at night (a place that is 2 hours from home), mind you in someone's house. He doesn't work weekends but went in today to work on the same persons house. I told him last night over a text that I was surprised that someone would allow them in their home this late at night. He said well they have no heat, okay I could understand that. But what furnace takes 2 days to do. He said it was just a swap out. I also told him if he is going to cheat to just let me know, I will walk away without a fight. He started yelling at me that the one who accuses is the cheater. I'm a sahm and talk to no one other than my children. He has barely text me today, and usually he will txt to check on us or just to talk. I have this gut feeling that something is not right. I feel like packing the kids and I up and leaving. Would you suspect something? Or am I over reacting?

UPDATE

Well ladies, I was right. A girl tagged him in her check in on Facebook. They were at a bar, I wrote have fun with a married man. I sent him a text not to come home. He said what are you talking about? The check in status was deleted. I will be leaving to my parents tomorrow. Thank goodness I have a education, I will be applying for job asap. I am so numb! I told him I will walk away without and fight and that's what I will be doing. He has been trying to call me but I will not be answering. I hope that girl is strong enough to put up with his bullshit. I kept thinking I was stupid for even questioning his cheating, something in my heart said something was not right... Thank you for responding ladies, I wish you all were right :(

ETA: Thank you for the hugs and supportive words. I am going to finish putting things into my car in case he shows up here tonight and I have to leave. My mom is on here way so thankfully I will have someone here for me. I will update tomorrow once we are out of the house. Good night ladies.

Small update
I want to up date quickly before going to register my kids in school. He admitted to it all in hopes that I would come back why? I don't know I'm not stupid. I am filing for divorce today. My youngest misses his dad but my oldest not at all, he was saw the way his dad treated me. I haven't told them why we have left, I will never talk down about their dad. I am ready for this to be over with,I think he will try to delay the divorce as much as he can. Sorry I'm all over the place I'm trying to get out as much as I can before I have to leave. To those of you still calling ME childish for leaving a cheating scum, Fuck off!
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 6, 2012 at 7:56 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:31 PM
Thanks :) I think I will be going to bed early and cuddling with my young one. I don't think he will be home until about 1 am again.

Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

You are uncomfortable because it is unusual. If it keeps happening. Oh yes, time to really look into it. :O) NP. All us go through these thoughts at one time or another. 

Quoting Anonymous:

I know :( I needed to be slapped back to reality by you lovely ladies lol.



Quoting Grumpylilpixy:

Way to soon to jump to conclusions dear! 


AmyJeremyx11
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:31 PM

My DF says you're over reacting...he said even if it's just swapping the unit, sometimes you have to re-do some duct work to make it fit right. He's an electrician, but he works a lot of construction and repairs where they do these things, too. Unless he's cheated before or you've found some kind of evidence or you have some other reason to suspect him, I think you're freaking over nothing. If he hasn't called or texted you today, he may just still be upset with you for accusing him of something.

PinkieRed
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:32 PM
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My brother, the plumber, has his own small plumbing business, and he pays his employees (he doesn't have full time employees, just some guys who work when he needs them), $15-$25 an hour. It depends on their skill level and how reliable they are.

You said your husband got $80 for 13 hours of work? If so, he's being way underpaid.
Quoting Anonymous:

He is a mechanic :-/ I have never understood why they charge so much for labour but he gets such a small amount. Sometimes I think his dad is taking advantage.

Quoting kjfamily:

If he is just a helper maybe 80 is enough. But if he is a mechanic that is no where near enough money. My husband brings home over 1000 sometimes for swap outs.



Quoting Anonymous:

Dang it I just ment to respond to you and clicked on someone else. Does $80 a day seem about right for 13+ hours in this job field?







Quoting kjfamily:

My dh does Hvac side jobs a lot. Every job and situation is different , they never know what they will run into. when dealing with heaters, they stay till its running especially if its cold out. Chill out and be happy he is out making extra money.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:34 PM

You need a jump to conclusions mat.  

CrimsonRadiance
by Platinum Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:34 PM
Damn.. that is only about $6 an hour... He is getting ripped.off.

When we had to have a guy come fix ours, he charged $50 an hour not including parts... And that was for a normal weekday.. not night or weekend hours!


Quoting Anonymous:

Dang it I just ment to respond to you and clicked on someone else. Does $80 a day seem about right for 13+ hours in this job field?



Quoting kjfamily:

My dh does Hvac side jobs a lot. Every job and situation is different , they never know what they will run into. when dealing with heaters, they stay till its running especially if its cold out. Chill out and be happy he is out making extra money.
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fallenstars
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:35 PM
You sound like you're over reacting.
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justpeachy71904
by peachy on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:35 PM
Well call therapist and go to counseling. Men really are simple. I learned that the hard way. I kept questioning my now dh and the entire time all he wanted was simple things. We now see things the same way. We communicate the same way. Until you learn to communicate the same way you're screwed

I wish you nothing but luck. I really do. Every marriage is fixable in my mind, if you want it to be. Hugs


Quoting Anonymous:

Sometimes I wonder if that's what I want. I have been through hell and back with him because of his PTSD that was caused from being in Iraq. Maybe I'm just tired of being his emotional punching bag, kwim? And I'm scared to walk away because his mental health is so shakey. I'm really thinking about finding a therapists on Monday.



Quoting justpeachy71904:

Chill out. Really. Why jump to that conclusion? Give your man a break. You will push him to it if you keep acting like that. Trust me
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:35 PM
Thanks :-). I agree he said some pretty hateful things this morning. He said let me find the guy you are with I will blow both of your brains out in front of our kids. That freaked me out but I guess that's what anger does :-/ and no I'm not cheating I don't even speak to males besides my dad
:)

Quoting AmyJeremyx11:

My DF says you're over reacting...he said even if it's just swapping the unit, sometimes you have to re-do some duct work to make it fit right. He's an electrician, but he works a lot of construction and repairs where they do these things, too. Unless he's cheated before or you've found some kind of evidence or you have some other reason to suspect him, I think you're freaking over nothing. If he hasn't called or texted you today, he may just still be upset with you for accusing him of something.

marie2409
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:38 PM
Get. A. Life. Step away from the children once in a while, fuck hubby real good, suck his dick even. Get some girlfriends (innocent ones) and have girl time. Hell lick some pussy if thas what you need. Chill. The. Fuck. Out!!
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3xangel
by *Angelicious* on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:39 PM
Sounds like you're overreacting.. Is there more to this story?
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