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Screwy Relationship Situation :-/

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I have 2 kids with my "long distance" bf. We live 2 1/2 hours apart. I live at home with my parents and he lives with friends while going to school (we're 22). He won't move down here because he wants to finish his degree up there (he's in OK, I'm in TX) and says we'll move in together when he finishes college. I go up to see him with the kids every week, it's like playing house. It also doesn't help that I found out 2 wks ago that I'm pregnant again. So basically I'm down here being a mom and taking care of the kids while he's up there being a carefree college guy that only has to take care of his kids a few days a week. I'm not even sure how to deal with this. I think we won't last. :(
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:26 PM
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JennaPixi
by Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:11 PM

Lot's of couples now days live apart for the husbands work. Mine was gone for 2 weeks at a time, home on most weekends, and now we are in the middle of a divorce. You can make it work, but you both have to want to make it work.. thats a sucky situation for sure. 

Amybelle
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:11 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

I'm a manager at a tanning salon, and no I didn't go to college. There's nothing specific I want to do with my life so I figured school would be a waste of time for me. Yes I'm unhappy in my situation, I've tried time and time again to get him to live with me, whether it be down here or up where he is. It's just so difficult for me to explain the crap I've went through these past 2 years just to be with him.




 OMG I can't understand why he doesn't want you to move in with him!!! eye rolling

lullabylily
by Silver Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:12 PM
I've been married for 13 years. The first few years of my marriage DH receive a fellowship and school grant so he had to live in another city to study and gets his masters degree. He was 10 hours drive away (1 hour by plane) but most weekend he would come home and spend his time with me and my DS (first born). I don't visit him often because of the traveling are just too hectic for me and DS who was just 8 months when DH starts school. I can not move to where he is studying because I already had a good position at my job with great benefits and am able to support my little family on my own. My parents are nearby so I could count on them instead of daycare. You situation is similar to mine until to the point of planned pregnancy. I made sure that DH finish his education before adding another kid. DD was born after DH finished his thesis. My kids are 4 years
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:13 PM
He's working on his Master's.


Quoting wkukid:

Quoting Anonymous:




Is he in med school or something?

angie729
by Ruby Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:13 PM
Hmmm not much at all. I would do some serious thinking about this relationship. Does he help support you and the children?

Dont make some one a priority when you are an option to them.


Quoting Anonymous:

He comes down here for holidays and birthdays.




Quoting angie729:

Well...you should have put more thought into things before having children with him.  If he is making excuses why you and the children can not move down there and be with him that would be a huge red flag to me. Does he ever come to see you and the children or is always yall going down to see him? If he never comes to you that would be another red flag. Im not trying to be mean but just pointing out things I see...being honest with you.

Quoting Anonymous:

It's always been this way.








Quoting angie729:

Was this how your relationship was when you entered into it? Or did one of you move away?






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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:14 PM
He had no problem with it while we were dating.


Quoting Amybelle:


Quoting Anonymous:

I'm a manager at a tanning salon, and no I didn't go to college. There's nothing specific I want to do with my life so I figured school would be a waste of time for me. Yes I'm unhappy in my situation, I've tried time and time again to get him to live with me, whether it be down here or up where he is. It's just so difficult for me to explain the crap I've went through these past 2 years just to be with him.








 OMG I can't understand why he doesn't want you to move in with him!!! eye rolling


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:15 PM
Financially he'll help me when something comes up and I ask him.


Quoting angie729:

Hmmm not much at all. I would do some serious thinking about this relationship. Does he help support you and the children?



Dont make some one a priority when you are an option to them.




Quoting Anonymous:

He comes down here for holidays and birthdays.






Quoting angie729:

Well...you should have put more thought into things before having children with him.  If he is making excuses why you and the children can not move down there and be with him that would be a huge red flag to me. Does he ever come to see you and the children or is always yall going down to see him? If he never comes to you that would be another red flag. Im not trying to be mean but just pointing out things I see...being honest with you.

Quoting Anonymous:

It's always been this way.











Quoting angie729:

Was this how your relationship was when you entered into it? Or did one of you move away?








Anonymous
by Anonymous 13 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:16 PM
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Maybe it's time to start believing in birth control or learn to keep your legs closed!

Quoting Anonymous:

Because I don't believe in abortion.


Quoting shivasgirl:

he has it sweet why would he want to change? And why in the hellare you going to bring another innocent baby into this mess of a relationship?



Amybelle
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:17 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

He had no problem with it while we were dating.


Quoting Amybelle:


Quoting Anonymous:

I'm a manager at a tanning salon, and no I didn't go to college. There's nothing specific I want to do with my life so I figured school would be a waste of time for me. Yes I'm unhappy in my situation, I've tried time and time again to get him to live with me, whether it be down here or up where he is. It's just so difficult for me to explain the crap I've went through these past 2 years just to be with him.








 OMG I can't understand why he doesn't want you to move in with him!!! eye rolling


He's become smarter & wiser, who wants someone with NO ambition (thought he IS an Idiot for not wrapping it up)

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:20 PM
No ambition? Why? Because I can't decide what I'd actually be happy doing for the rest of my life? I hate work in general. Doesn't mean I won't do it, it just means I don't have anything specific I want to do besides raise my kids.


Quoting Amybelle:


Quoting Anonymous:

He had no problem with it while we were dating.





Quoting Amybelle:


Quoting Anonymous:

I'm a manager at a tanning salon, and no I didn't go to college. There's nothing specific I want to do with my life so I figured school would be a waste of time for me. Yes I'm unhappy in my situation, I've tried time and time again to get him to live with me, whether it be down here or up where he is. It's just so difficult for me to explain the crap I've went through these past 2 years just to be with him.












 OMG I can't understand why he doesn't want you to move in with him!!! eye rolling



He's become smarter & wiser, who wants someone with NO ambition (thought he IS an Idiot for not wrapping it up)


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