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Screwy Relationship Situation :-/

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I have 2 kids with my "long distance" bf. We live 2 1/2 hours apart. I live at home with my parents and he lives with friends while going to school (we're 22). He won't move down here because he wants to finish his degree up there (he's in OK, I'm in TX) and says we'll move in together when he finishes college. I go up to see him with the kids every week, it's like playing house. It also doesn't help that I found out 2 wks ago that I'm pregnant again. So basically I'm down here being a mom and taking care of the kids while he's up there being a carefree college guy that only has to take care of his kids a few days a week. I'm not even sure how to deal with this. I think we won't last. :(
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:26 PM
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TairyHesticle
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:20 PM
Good lord. Ur insane.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:21 PM
Very original...just like the last hundreds of replies that said about the same thing, more than likely the same people who didn't see my comments on how they did happen.


Quoting Anonymous:

Maybe it's time to start believing in birth control or learn to keep your legs closed!


Quoting Anonymous:

Because I don't believe in abortion.





Quoting shivasgirl:

he has it sweet why would he want to change? And why in the hellare you going to bring another innocent baby into this mess of a relationship?





hip2it
by Silver Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:23 PM
Quoting Anonymous:




Do you believe in birth co trol?

You live with your parents. You already have two kids. Your bf lives in a different state and isn't in any rush to join you. In that situation, I would've been on birth co trol, using condoms, pulling out, and praying to whoever that I wasn't pg again.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 14 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:23 PM

Yeah, he just "wants to finish his degree".  lol

You aren't sure how to deal with this.  You didn't think about that after baby 1 and 2?

Amybelle
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:23 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

No ambition? Why? Because I can't decide what I'd actually be happy doing for the rest of my life? I hate work in general. Doesn't mean I won't do it, it just means I don't have anything specific I want to do besides raise my kids.


Quoting Amybelle:


Quoting Anonymous:

He had no problem with it while we were dating.





Quoting Amybelle:


Quoting Anonymous:

I'm a manager at a tanning salon, and no I didn't go to college. There's nothing specific I want to do with my life so I figured school would be a waste of time for me. Yes I'm unhappy in my situation, I've tried time and time again to get him to live with me, whether it be down here or up where he is. It's just so difficult for me to explain the crap I've went through these past 2 years just to be with him.












 OMG I can't understand why he doesn't want you to move in with him!!! eye rolling



He's become smarter & wiser, who wants someone with NO ambition (thought he IS an Idiot for not wrapping it up)


Just how many times were you dropped on your head as a baby?

lullabylily
by Silver Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:24 PM
2 hours are not too far drive. If he is in graduate school as you said working on his masters degree, he won't have to much class now after 2 years. I had a period in my life where I had to spend 2 hours to commute to work every weekday (that's 4 hours on the road) for about 2 years. It was a breeze. so I cant understand why cant he do the same. Either he is not interested or you are too insecure in your relationship and keeps adding kids to get him to settle down. Too bad you are not married to him so you can not expect much from him


Quoting Amybelle:


Quoting Anonymous:

I'm a manager at a tanning salon, and no I didn't go to college. There's nothing specific I want to do with my life so I figured school would be a waste of time for me. Yes I'm unhappy in my situation, I've tried time and time again to get him to live with me, whether it be down here or up where he is. It's just so difficult for me to explain the crap I've went through these past 2 years just to be with him.








 OMG I can't understand why he doesn't want you to move in with him!!! eye rolling


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Anonymous
by Anonymous 13 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:25 PM

Ya i'm not reading through all the replies,  i'm sure all your answers are full of bs excuses to how none  of this is your fault,  usually when a man lives that far away from his "girlfriend"  it means he has someone else where he is living too so enjoy the mess you have put yourself and your kids into!

Quoting Anonymous:

Very original...just like the last hundreds of replies that said about the same thing, more than likely the same people who didn't see my comments on how they did happen.


Quoting Anonymous:

Maybe it's time to start believing in birth control or learn to keep your legs closed!


Quoting Anonymous:

Because I don't believe in abortion.





Quoting shivasgirl:

he has it sweet why would he want to change? And why in the hellare you going to bring another innocent baby into this mess of a relationship?






Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:29 PM
I'm not blaming anyone, and if you haven't read any of it, then all of what you're saying is ignorance anyway. Good night to you.


Quoting Anonymous:

Ya i'm not reading through all the replies,  i'm sure all your answers are full of bs excuses to how none  of this is your fault,  usually when a man lives that far away from his "girlfriend"  it means he has someone else where he is living too so enjoy the mess you have put yourself and your kids into!


Quoting Anonymous:

Very original...just like the last hundreds of replies that said about the same thing, more than likely the same people who didn't see my comments on how they did happen.





Quoting Anonymous:

Maybe it's time to start believing in birth control or learn to keep your legs closed!



Quoting Anonymous:

Because I don't believe in abortion.








Quoting shivasgirl:

he has it sweet why would he want to change? And why in the hellare you going to bring another innocent baby into this mess of a relationship?









Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:29 PM
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Aren't you still just dating? You have a long distance bf, that's just dating.

Quoting Anonymous:

He had no problem with it while we were dating.


Quoting Amybelle:


Quoting Anonymous:

I'm a manager at a tanning salon, and no I didn't go to college. There's nothing specific I want to do with my life so I figured school would be a waste of time for me. Yes I'm unhappy in my situation, I've tried time and time again to get him to live with me, whether it be down here or up where he is. It's just so difficult for me to explain the crap I've went through these past 2 years just to be with him.








 OMG I can't understand why he doesn't want you to move in with him!!! eye rolling



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:30 PM
I've tried marrying him, things just became out of control and at this point, marriage is the last thing that could solve our or even my problem.


Quoting lullabylily:

2 hours are not too far drive. If he is in graduate school as you said working on his masters degree, he won't have to much class now after 2 years. I had a period in my life where I had to spend 2 hours to commute to work every weekday (that's 4 hours on the road) for about 2 years. It was a breeze. so I cant understand why cant he do the same. Either he is not interested or you are too insecure in your relationship and keeps adding kids to get him to settle down. Too bad you are not married to him so you can not expect much from him




Quoting Amybelle:


Quoting Anonymous:

I'm a manager at a tanning salon, and no I didn't go to college. There's nothing specific I want to do with my life so I figured school would be a waste of time for me. Yes I'm unhappy in my situation, I've tried time and time again to get him to live with me, whether it be down here or up where he is. It's just so difficult for me to explain the crap I've went through these past 2 years just to be with him.












 OMG I can't understand why he doesn't want you to move in with him!!! eye rolling



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