Opinions please: She wants to make my wedding her coming out party
Here's my thing... I don't care if she is a lesbian but my wedding day is not the time to tell her parents who are not going to take it well. Any other day I'd stand up to her parents and have her back but not on my wedding day...
I say she needs to come out before the wedding or not bring her GF. DF says its their business and we should stay out of it. I foresee drama...
WWYD? Tell her to come out before or not bring the GF OR just let it play out because it's their business?
Tell her that there is a time and place for coming out to her parents.... and it is most CERTAINLY not at your wedding!! She either needs to do it before hand or bring her GF as a "friend" to your wedding at LEAST. Why would she intentionally want to bring that kind of drama (going completely off of what you said about her parents are not going to take it well) to YOUR big day?? Sounds like a disaster waiting to happen to me.
I would talk to her and ask her if she could please, for the sake of your wedding, tell them beforehand so your wedding doesn't turn into a dramafest. Even if it wasn't causing drama, which it will, and she knows it will, you want the day to be about you getting married, not her coming out of the closet.
Tell her "If you upset his parents you will ruin my wedding. Is that what you want?"
Ok I guess in reading the OP I still didn't get that she has adopted siblings. Not sure why she would be upset over that.
Sounds like she's got some insecurity issues to work on.
Quoting HIJKLM:
He says sister, I only said half sister to explain it's his adopted dad and step mom. It does affect the story because she uses the fact that the other 3 kids were adopted to make her parents feel bad.
Quoting Anonymous:
Do people really say "this is my half sister/brother" all the time?
Why is the "half" such a big deal? Why aren't they just sister & brother? Does only sharing part DNA make them less of siblings, they care about each other less?
So glad my children don't feel this way, my kids never say half thankfully.
Anyway, I would tell her if she brings her to keep it as friends & to please not ruin your day.
It isn't an appropriate day to come out.
Quoting GremlinMom:
How long until the wedding? I'd be pissed she is putting you through this stress of not knowing how it going to play out, the anxiety of her need for attention, after planning for OVER A YEAR? This is where bridezilla comes into play. Do not fuck with the wedding plans. Lots of money, lots of planning. I was thinking it before you wrote it. Sounds like a experimental fling. Please.
Quoting jmetz4:I would tell her that you all (you, her, her GF, DF, and the parents) need to get together for a dinner so she can come out. You all decide if it should be in a public restaurant or at someones home. But just say that you want to be there for support but your wedding is not the right place. It could sour the whole mood. It sounds like she is kind of afraid to tell them. Don't think I could blame her. Good luck!
Quoting Sarah_Moore:
This. It's very rude of her to bring so much drama to a day meant to be special for you and your stb dh.
Congratulations btw :)
Quoting mommyof11050307:Tell her if she wants to bring the gf she has to tell the entire family before your wedding. I would be livid if she did that at my wedding.
That's the ugliest name everrrr!!!
- HIJKLM
on Oct. 7, 2012 at 2:56 AM