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DONT TELL ME ITS NONE OF MY BUSINESS (SUICIDE)

Anonymous
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Bil apparently has been really depressed lately and been having suicidal thoughts. How do I know this..? Sil told me he mentioned it to her. Reasons: parents just went through a divorce, older brother and sister moved out of the house and now have kids and lives of their own, gf dumped him after she found out he was with multiple girls, his dad has a new gf, mom drinks and doesn't have time for him, two of his cousins passed away one from a motorcycle accident and the other a suicide by hanging, almost didn't graduate hs he wasn't able to walk across the stage but he still passed. The list goes on and on.

Anyways, I brought up this conversation to his mother (my mil) and she flat out told me its none of my business, if he didn't directly come to me for help I need to keep my nose out of it. She also told me he's really just acting out because he hates his dads new gf. And she left it at that.

I'm sorry but if someone brings it to my attention that someone else might possibly be suicidal, I think the issue needs to be addressed.

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:47 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:48 AM
Sorry... Sil mentioned it to me.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:49 AM
Did you tell her that you were trying to help not gossip?
DestinyHLewis
by Silver Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:51 AM
Well it may be your business and you passed on the info to his mom. Unfortunately, it is up to her, his dad, himself, and your husband now. You did what you could do as far as family goes. :-( sorry. That sucks.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:51 AM
Its not any of your business. Either tell your dh so he can talk to his brother, or stay out of it.
angie729
by Ruby Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:52 AM

Wow...She needs to open her eyes. Yea he is acting out because he is hurting and needs help. Can you and sil try to get him some help?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:52 AM
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Yes, I called her up and said I was concerned about her son. And with suicide being a factor from his cousin I really don't think it should just be swept under the rug. I think its a seriouse issue.


Quoting Anonymous:

Did you tell her that you were trying to help not gossip?

Love060708kids
by Amanda on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:53 AM

:(

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:55 AM
My dh is the only one he talks to and opens up to. Dh is trying the best he can to help him out but he just shuts back down and pushes him away.


Quoting DestinyHLewis:

Well it may be your business and you passed on the info to his mom. Unfortunately, it is up to her, his dad, himself, and your husband now. You did what you could do as far as family goes. :-( sorry. That sucks.

Anjlmom32
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 2:01 AM
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How old is he? Are you close to him? 

I really don't know what advise to give you on something so serious, but here are some resources that may help.

1-800-suicide or 1-800-273-talk and someone on the other end will help you with better ideas. Look it up online, I googled crisis hotline number for those numbers. There are many resources available to help in these situations. DO NOT mind your own buisness, he went to her, she came to you. Together, hopefully you can all work through this difficult time. My prayers are with you and you BIL.


mstkn.identity
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 2:01 AM
:-( what a mess. Sorry
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