My husband grew up a tattletale but always tried to get out of getting in trouble himself. He is still the same way, gets pissed off at anyone who does wrong/against regulations but if he can get away with something he will do it.
some posts need to be reported. Sorry, but if a mom is saying she wants to MURDER her children... someone needs to step in.
I believe that teaching kids NOT to tattle ends up with those people on TV who say that they saw little Katie with bruises but never did anything. You know, the neighbors and teachers who are more than happy to talk to TV reporters AFTER the kid is dead, but who never call anyone while the kid can still be saved. And the guy who helps his friend hide the body but who never actually killed anyone, and gets charged with accessory after the fact.
I don't teach my kids not to tattle. At this age they'd kill each other if I left it up to them to solve their own problems, but also, I don't trust kids to decide what's small stuff and what's important enough to tell Mom about. It's irritating to be told about every little thing, it would be much more convenient for me if I taught them not to tattle. But it's not about me, it's about raising them. And I don't want to end up with a witness on the stand testifying that he didn't want to snitch. If you see someone doing something bad, or if someone is in danger, you tell someone. Yes, even if that's an unpopular move.
Quoting NoahandEliza:I don't think people are getting your point. Tattling implies (to me) that a kid is oversensitive and whining about stupid crap. That child then grows up to call cps because, say, the neighbor's 10 year old is playing outside by himself. No one's saying to ignore the mother beating the shit out of her kid in the parking lot!
There's a difference between ''telling'' when someone's doing something mean and/or dangerous and when someone's doing something that's just wrong.
Quoting fallenangel_353:I think the better solution would be to teach our children the difference... Like when one should tattle and when one shouldn't. They need to be able to identify a situation of when it is OK to *tattle*, and when to let something go.
Connect with CafeMom:
Switch to Mobile Site
Getting Started Guide
Frequently Asked Questions
Part of the CafeMom family of sites
© 2013 CMI Marketing, Inc. All rights reserved.