When we said "I Do" at the marriage altar ("forsaking all others...), we were saying "I Don't" to anyone outside of the marriage. Porn is a slap in the face to the one we made those vows to. No way around it, it's cheating. Now, if you take cheating lightly, that's a different matter.
Quoting xoxoDanicaxoxo:I don't either and it cracks me up to hear someone say that it is cheating.
Quoting lilbit04:I do...I think it's a disgrace to a marriage...but that's just me tho. Caught my DH watching it several times and gave him the choice me or the trash bc I got tired of it.
There was a post years ago asking why porn is acceptable in your marriage. Most answered that it's a fantasy and because the man isn't physically touching the women, it's okay. Then the question was asked, does it matter WHO he's looking at? What if your husband liked watching videos of your mother, would that be okay? Suddenly everyone stated that that would be cheating. But why? He isn't touching your mother, he didn't take the video, he simply looked the video up on the Internet and fantasized over it. That's when the answers to the original question began to change. It then HAD to be a stranger, someone that the women knew could never ever be reached in real life. Why? Because they felt that if a man looks at a real life woman, he may pursue her to have actual sex with her. If the woman is a stranger, that's impossible. So ultimately, one thing is keeping the man from cheating on his wife, the fact that the stranger can't be reached. Kind-of fucked up right?
i watch porn by my self all the time...lol...
In most cases I agree. WHOLE heartly. But there are some cases where the guy much rather jack off to porn, or needs porn to get off, and thats where the problems come in.
(for the record Porn doesn't bother me at all. Until it gets to that point.)
lol, same here.
Quoting Anonymous:I don't either. Thankfully my husband agrees since I'm the one who watches porn and not him. Lol
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