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I don't think watching porn is cheating.

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by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 10:10 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 9, 2012 at 3:37 PM
Super glad for you. I do think it's cheating.
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indyb
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 3:38 PM

Me neither!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 9, 2012 at 3:43 PM
No it wouldn't bother me at all if he masterbated. We are both very open about it, he buys me "toys" to use. He just doesn't masterbate because we have so much sex. Before me and him started dating he would only wack off once or twice a month but now that we have sex usually daily he doesn't have time to lol

Quoting Anonymous:

you are right not every guy looks at porn; and to be honest i cannot imagine a guy who doesn't master bate lol but I'm sure there are who don't. would it be considered cheating to you if your DH did masturbate? is this a lifestyle choice? religion?

masturbateing is a very healthy normal thing for both men and women to do; i do not see why people would view it as being a bad or negative thing. the porn debate i can understand completely but the masturbating part i do not understand.

Quoting Anonymous:

Every guy looks at other women, but not every guy looks at porn or wacks off. I know my fiancé checks out other girls, but I also know that he doesn't look at porn and he doesn't masturbate.



Quoting Anonymous:

even if your DH doesn't openly admit he watches porn, anytime he looks at another women in a sexual way (un related to how he feels about you or his attraction to you) then he is cheating then too. i bet you have been "cheated on" a lot inside your DH's head and you don't even know about it or know how many times. oh yes, and every time he jacks off to someone other then you its also cheating so it makes his cheating number even higher...

Quoting TimandMely4ever:

When we said "I Do" at the marriage altar ("forsaking all others...), we were saying "I Don't" to anyone outside of the marriage.  Porn is a slap in the face to the one we made those vows to.  No way around it, it's cheating.  Now, if you take cheating lightly, that's a different matter.



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 9, 2012 at 3:49 PM

oh ok lol that makes sense.:)

Quoting Anonymous:

No it wouldn't bother me at all if he masterbated. We are both very open about it, he buys me "toys" to use. He just doesn't masterbate because we have so much sex. Before me and him started dating he would only wack off once or twice a month but now that we have sex usually daily he doesn't have time to lol

Quoting Anonymous:

you are right not every guy looks at porn; and to be honest i cannot imagine a guy who doesn't master bate lol but I'm sure there are who don't. would it be considered cheating to you if your DH did masturbate? is this a lifestyle choice? religion?

masturbateing is a very healthy normal thing for both men and women to do; i do not see why people would view it as being a bad or negative thing. the porn debate i can understand completely but the masturbating part i do not understand.

Quoting Anonymous:

Every guy looks at other women, but not every guy looks at porn or wacks off. I know my fiancé checks out other girls, but I also know that he doesn't look at porn and he doesn't masturbate.



Quoting Anonymous:

even if your DH doesn't openly admit he watches porn, anytime he looks at another women in a sexual way (un related to how he feels about you or his attraction to you) then he is cheating then too. i bet you have been "cheated on" a lot inside your DH's head and you don't even know about it or know how many times. oh yes, and every time he jacks off to someone other then you its also cheating so it makes his cheating number even higher...

Quoting TimandMely4ever:

When we said "I Do" at the marriage altar ("forsaking all others...), we were saying "I Don't" to anyone outside of the marriage.  Porn is a slap in the face to the one we made those vows to.  No way around it, it's cheating.  Now, if you take cheating lightly, that's a different matter.




StrangeDays
by Gold Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 4:01 PM
Exactly :)

Quoting 2KoolMama:

This is pretty much how I feel.  We watch porn together.  We enjoy it.  We also have a great sex life outside of porn.  If it came to the point where we were not having sex unless we watched porn or if one of us was watching it without the other then I would have an issue.  I still wouldn't think it was cheating.  That's just silly.  But I could see it being hurtful.

Quoting StrangeDays:

It's not cheating, but it could be disrespectful in certain contexts. I'm a full supporter of watching porn with your spouse, whether it is to spice things up, get new ideas, etc. However, if my husband chose to watch porn over being with me, repeatedly, I would be hurt and upset and more than likely grant him the same courtesy ;)


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maddysmom06
by on Nov. 12, 2012 at 12:54 PM

I dont think it's cheating! Luckily my husband shares the same views. we like to watch it every once in a while, me more than him probably. ;)

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