What to do when your DH is an alcoholic

[Anonymous]

Serious question. DHs drinking really bothers me. The thing is in the entire 7 years we have been together, I have only seen him drunk a handful of times. But when he is home he always has a beer in his hand. He drinks every single day, and I would say at least 3 beers a day. I'm not sure what to do because he's not a problem drinker, he isn't mean or abusive, he doesn't go out to drink, he's home with us helping around the house and playing with the kids. It doesn't interfere with his job or anything.
I feel like I have no ground to stand on complaining about his drinking. And I don't know what I can do about it.

Edit to add: in case anyone else comments I said at least 3 beers every single day. He usually drinks much more than that, and he goes through withdrawl if he goes a day without beer.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

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[mylove415]

Let the man have his beer.  I mean if it doesn't interfere with his home and work life let him!  Maybe beer is his unwind method. 

[Anonymous]

Doesnt sound like a problem to me.

[Anonymous]

I personally don't think having 3 beers a night or what you described is an alcoholic. My uncle couldn't function without a 6 pack every morning. He would drink from sun up until he passed out at night. He would go to work drunk. To me THAT is an alcoholic not your husband.

[hp2011]

grab a beer and drink one with him.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

But it's at least 3 beers.. Like today it's 2:30 and he has already 5 beers..

Quoting mylove415:

Let the man have his beer.  I mean if it doesn't interfere with his home and work life let him!  Maybe beer is his unwind method. 

[Anonymous]

I don't thinks its a problem. He wants a cold beer at the end of the day. When my dh is home he always has a cold beer in hand.

[mylove415]

If you feel that strongly about his drinking then talk to him. 

Quoting Anonymous:

But it's at least 3 beers.. Like today it's 2:30 and he has already 5 beers..

Quoting mylove415:

Let the man have his beer.  I mean if it doesn't interfere with his home and work life let him!  Maybe beer is his unwind method. 

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

On weekends he drinks all day long, yesterday when we were on a 3 hour drive he snuck beers into the van to drink on the way, the three is a minimum. Most days and nights it is more than that.

Quoting Anonymous:

I personally don't think having 3 beers a night or what you described is an alcoholic. My uncle couldn't function without a 6 pack every morning. He would drink from sun up until he passed out at night. He would go to work drunk. To me THAT is an alcoholic not your husband.