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Is this normal for 6 days post partum?

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Just delivered my first child and now my hormones are going insane. I have cried multiple times the past few days, anything my husband says will set off some major water works.. Earlier I asked him to turn the tv down and he snapped at me about how he's deaf and I started bawling my eyes out, then he complained about the tv show I had on and I started crying again.

On the first day home from the hospital I was laying in bed with the sleeping baby and hubby went downstairs for a second, when he came back upstairs he found me crying (happy tears to have her home) and he instantly panicked and said "what's wrong!? What did you do?? Is she ok???" It really hurt me, like he was insinuating I had somehow hurt her :-/ I already am terrified of not being a good enough mom and literally the first day home he looked at me like he thought the same ... I know he's a nervous first time dad as well but his response was really uncalled for and really hurt my heart .. I thought he had complete faith in my parenting abilities but apparently not .. He's even been saying things like "shouldn't you wake her and feed her??? You need to feed her." Does he think I'd just let her starve if it wasn't for him??
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by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 5:15 PM
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Luna091306
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 6:50 PM
Oh and my df says crap like that too. I just told him if he's hungry he will let me know.
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megm11511
by Bronze Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 6:51 PM
4yo's comment made me lol


Quoting Bigmetalchicken:

Also, If it makes you feel better, at three days PP, I made a huge scene by bursting into tears in Target, because the third store I went to looking for something was sold out as well. My four year old asked my husband if they had broken me.


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JocelynsMama1
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 8:44 PM

the crying is perfectly normal. the comment about what did you do does seem uncalled for. but you have to remember hes a first time dad and guys dont tell you whats on their mind as much as us girls do so for all you know its possible hes heard about babies dying in bed with their parents and is fearful of it. So I wouldnt take it to heart. and the asking about waking to feed her and stuff is normal also...guys dont know what the heck they are doing to they over analyze everything. It doesnt sound like he doesnt have faith in you. It just sounds like hes a worried new parent, but at least that means he cares.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 8, 2012 at 8:45 PM
Totally normal. Congrats!
April620
by Ruby Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 9:12 PM
Thank you for your response :)

Quoting JocelynsMama1:

the crying is perfectly normal. the comment about what did you do does seem uncalled for. but you have to remember hes a first time dad and guys dont tell you whats on their mind as much as us girls do so for all you know its possible hes heard about babies dying in bed with their parents and is fearful of it. So I wouldnt take it to heart. and the asking about waking to feed her and stuff is normal also...guys dont know what the heck they are doing to they over analyze everything. It doesnt sound like he doesnt have faith in you. It just sounds like hes a worried new parent, but at least that means he cares.

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