I had a different title but wasn't getting any responses. The title is not how I feel about #2. It's jsut meant to get attention.
My best friend of 7 years has 2 daughters: 7 & 2; I have an infant. I helped raise the older daughter and then my friend moved away when she was prego with #2. I've been around for about 3 months now and I don't know if I can deal anymore. #2 is a brat. She's whinny, demanding, destructive. I even made a point of saying that I didn't remember her #1 acting that way and she says 1 never did. I can't even relax because when we let the 2 los watch a movie, left for 5 min, and when we come back in her #2 had a pillow over my infant and was laying on her! I've never wanted to beat a child before but right there I did. 2 asks for something to eat/drink and I give it to her, she then proceeds to tear the food apart and put it on my furniture, dump her cup on my floor, chase my dog, and take my baby's toys right out of her hand.
I love my friend and I love her older daughter, but #2 needs some damn manners and I feel the only way it's going to happen is if I step in and teach her. Her mom just yells at her or lets her do whatever. I don't want to tell my friend how to raise her kid, esp since I'm a new mom, but I've been babysitting since I was 12 and helped raise her first one and there is just some behavior that has to be stopped.
How do I address this to her without pissing her off and ruining a 7 year friendship?