But I have a selfish problem. One most of you will probably call me an ungrateful bitch for, but whatever. This bothers ME.
My SO is too affectionate. I am in no way exaggerating when I say he's always in my face wanting to make out. He rolls over in the morning and gets right in my face, assaulting my mouth. I am the kind of person who needs to wake up before being messed with. If I shrug him off and sit up to stretch, roll my neck and wipe my eyes....he's tugging on my arm trying to pull me back onto the bed. Sometimes I just wanna scream "Leave me the fuck alone and let me wake up!"
If we're cuddling on the couch watching a movie, every few mins he's grabbing my chin to turn me to him for kissing. I counted the other night....48 times!
He'll stop me on the way down the hall and start trying to kiss. I just can't take him CONSTANTLY being in my face. I need some personal space ffs.
I know I should be happy he's so intimate and all that....but I feel smothered and it's a huge turn off.
So how do I rightfully ask him to back off?
Update~ When he called on his way home from work...I just closed my eyes and blurted it out. He seemed a lil shocked but said he understands. He gave two reasonings......1) The only other girl he's ever loved before me cheated on him and told him she felt lonely. That he didn't give her the TLC she craved. So in a way, he's over compensating for that and fearful. Afraid if he doesn't constantly show affection and intimacy, that he's afraid I'd leave him or be unhappy. He then tried to joke that women are too complicated....he gets cheated on for NOT being affectionate and then this happens when he is. I told him just to tone it down and be more natural, more relaxed. Don't bring a past relationship issue into mine.
And 2) Bc we only see one another two weekends a mth and on sporadic days he's off....he feels like he's "making up" for lost time. (we live 45 mins apart and with both our jobs and my kids....we don't see one another regularly right now)