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*ETA*My confession: My baby was born "early" on purpose.

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My DS is now 6 months old and this is the first time I've ever admitted this; he was 4 weeks early and I made myself go into labor. He's my 2nd, and I was 36 weeks. I was miserable, HUGE, I was already 2 cm dilated and 70% effaced at my OB appt the day before I decided to drink castor oil. OB said it was probably going to be weeks before DS was here, but my body could just tell he was ready. I'd been having contractions off and on for weeks. I'd heard about it, and after doing some research online, I figured what the hell. I got off work, bought some castor oil, mixed 2oz of it with 4 oz of orange juice and slammed it. Worst thing I've ever tasted.

I started having strong contractions about 4 hours later, and about 16 hours later I was holding my perfectly healthy, 8 lb 1 oz baby boy!

OB said I was lucky to not have gone another 4 weeks or he'd have been over 10 lbs and I wouldn't have been able to deliver vaginally. She's pretty sure they had my due date wrong.

I know it's stupid to rush your baby's birth and I don't suggest or recommend it to ANYONE. My husband still has no idea I did the castor oil.

There. There's my confession.

ETA; Because I'm not going to explain it 60 times, my OB didn't say it was IMPOSSIBLE to deliver a 10 lb baby. I'm well aware women do it all the time. However, *I* do not have a wide enough birth canal to barely accommodate an 8 lb baby, let alone 10 lbs. At 8 lbs 1 oz, delivery tore my pelvic floor muscle, tore my rectal muscle, I needed 40+ stitches, and broke my sons collar bone on the way out. My OB said had he gone another 4 weeks, I *PROBABLY* would've ended up with an emergency C section.
So I repeat, she never once told me no one in the history of the world has ever delivered a 10 lb baby, regardless of YOUR stature, YOUR experience, what you, your sister, your husbands long lost cousin was only 5'0" 90 lbs and gave birth to a 13 lb baby. Every woman's body is different and it makes me sad for the female race that this has to be explained.
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:16 PM
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conweis
by Platinum Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:39 PM
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It is based on your pelvis. Some women cannot deliver babies after a certain size. My mom is 5'4 and has always been extremely active. They had to break her pelvis to get her first child out. My sister was a 7 pounder. With her last, my little brother she nearly died trying to push him out and he was only 8 lbs 2 oz.
I on the other hand am only 5'1 and was able to deliver a baby a pound bigger than my little brother with tearing or complications. It is all about the pelvis size.


Quoting LadyBugMom09:

You most certainly can deliver a 10 lb baby vaginally. Why do OBs say that???



But anyways, congrats that your baby was healthy.
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Ms.Pteranodon
by Platinum Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:40 PM

How can you say that hip size has nothign to do with it

Babies literally pass through your hips/pelvic bone. If you have a smaller frame - larger babies will not fit. Not only is my frame smaller, but it is slightly tilted, which gives even less room. No amount of keggles will help that.

My birthing experience with DS was more than just tearing. He became distressed because the cord became wrapped around his neck and because I was pushing for TOO long. I pushed for almost 5 hours. 

We want to avoid all of that this time, and one way to do that is have a smaller baby. 



Quoting LadyBugMom09:

I think that is the minority. You did deliver a big baby. Yes, it was hard and you tore, but you did it! :) there are things you can do in preparation to not tear. Wideness of hips doesn't really affect the size of a womans birth canal. But, I do agree that not everyone can deliver vaginally. But
size of the baby is usually not a factor, I think OBs say that just to bypass labor and go straight to c-sections.

The 2nd and 3rd babies come out much easier than the first (in most cases). I pushed for an hour with DD (almost 9 lbs) and only 5 mins with DS (almost 10 lbs).

Congrats on your baby!!! :)


Quoting Ms.Pteranodon:

My midwife has said that MY body can not deliver a baby MUCH bigger than 10lbs. I have a small frame and I had a really hard time delivering DS who was 9lbs 12 oz.  I had a 3rd degree tear and was pushing for almost 5 hours. 

Him his shoulders had been any bigger he would have been stuck. 

Some woman are built bigger than others and have much wider hips and can deliver 13-14lbs babies vaginally. Then there are some that can't get a 6lb baby through their birth canal. 

Every woman's body is built different. 


Quoting LadyBugMom09:

You most certainly can deliver a 10 lb baby vaginally. Why do OBs say that???



But anyways, congrats that your baby was healthy.




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hismommy2010
by Gold Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:41 PM

 Early contractions are braxton hicks.. To get your body ready for real labor.

Castro oil, causes diareaha in both baby and mother, and can cause illness and possible death to the baby, because the baby is at risk of passing stool, in the mothers womb, and then breathing it in....

Thank god your baby is healthy, but that was a VERY risky thing to do, and I wouldn't tell anyone to do it! You played with your childs health and life when you did that.

Ms.Pteranodon
by Platinum Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:42 PM

Yes, because I don't plan on letting this baby go way over like DS did. 

Quoting LadyBugMom09:

Glad it turned out well!! But the 2nd one will probably come out a lot easier. Lol :)


Quoting Ms.Pteranodon:

I answered this in a different reply. But I am built small and I have had a close to 10lb baby and it was an ALMOST deadly situation. 



Quoting LadyBugMom09:

Why couldn't you deliver vaginally if the baby is over 10lbs? Just curious....





Quoting Ms.Pteranodon:

I will keep the castro oil thing in mind ONCE I am full term and ready to pop. 

I plan on trying "natural" ways to induce after 37 weeks. My goal is to keep this baby under 10lbs so I can deliver vaginally. 






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gilbertgrl627
by Gold Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:42 PM

Well, I had my youngest early on purpose, too. But only a day early (I was induced). I was due on my dad's birthday (he died in 2009), but didn't want to risk being late and having him born on my nephew's birthday (he also died, when he was a month old). I think I would've gone into labor on that Friday anyway (17th), but didn't want to chance it. So, I was induced the morning of the 16th. He was born 12hrs later at 8lbs, 11oz.

splatz
by Bronze Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:43 PM
You can't have a baby vaginally if they are over 10 pounds? What sort of bs is that?
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roxiekittie
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:43 PM
That's nothing surprising really normally those things don't work unless UR body is already ready 36 weeks is considered safe zone anyways for most places I did nipple stimulation for Ana and she came about a week after I started
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quickbooksworm
by Ruby Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:46 PM
This. I had such bad heartburn I couldn't keep food down and started to lose weight so my doc wanted to induce the day after my due date. I was terrified so 2 weeks before my due date I had my membranes stripped, walked 3 miles, ate spicy food, had sex, and did castor oil. I Luke's and had diarrhea and no baby. He was born ON his due date.


Quoting bowribbonmama:

You didn't make yourself go into labour, your body was ready.

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-ZombieGirl-
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:46 PM

Your body was ready to go into labor. If it wasn't then it wouldn't have worked.

conweis
by Platinum Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:46 PM
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Isn't it great how other people know more about your body than you?

Quoting Ms.Pteranodon:

My midwife has said that MY body can not deliver a baby MUCH bigger than 10lbs. I have a small frame and I had a really hard time delivering DS who was 9lbs 12 oz.  I had a 3rd degree tear and was pushing for almost 5 hours. 

Him his shoulders had been any bigger he would have been stuck. 

Some woman are built bigger than others and have much wider hips and can deliver 13-14lbs babies vaginally. Then there are some that can't get a 6lb baby through their birth canal. 

Every woman's body is built different. 


Quoting LadyBugMom09:

You most certainly can deliver a 10 lb baby vaginally. Why do OBs say that???



But anyways, congrats that your baby was healthy.


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