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*ETA*My confession: My baby was born "early" on purpose.

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
My DS is now 6 months old and this is the first time I've ever admitted this; he was 4 weeks early and I made myself go into labor. He's my 2nd, and I was 36 weeks. I was miserable, HUGE, I was already 2 cm dilated and 70% effaced at my OB appt the day before I decided to drink castor oil. OB said it was probably going to be weeks before DS was here, but my body could just tell he was ready. I'd been having contractions off and on for weeks. I'd heard about it, and after doing some research online, I figured what the hell. I got off work, bought some castor oil, mixed 2oz of it with 4 oz of orange juice and slammed it. Worst thing I've ever tasted.

I started having strong contractions about 4 hours later, and about 16 hours later I was holding my perfectly healthy, 8 lb 1 oz baby boy!

OB said I was lucky to not have gone another 4 weeks or he'd have been over 10 lbs and I wouldn't have been able to deliver vaginally. She's pretty sure they had my due date wrong.

I know it's stupid to rush your baby's birth and I don't suggest or recommend it to ANYONE. My husband still has no idea I did the castor oil.

There. There's my confession.

ETA; Because I'm not going to explain it 60 times, my OB didn't say it was IMPOSSIBLE to deliver a 10 lb baby. I'm well aware women do it all the time. However, *I* do not have a wide enough birth canal to barely accommodate an 8 lb baby, let alone 10 lbs. At 8 lbs 1 oz, delivery tore my pelvic floor muscle, tore my rectal muscle, I needed 40+ stitches, and broke my sons collar bone on the way out. My OB said had he gone another 4 weeks, I *PROBABLY* would've ended up with an emergency C section.
So I repeat, she never once told me no one in the history of the world has ever delivered a 10 lb baby, regardless of YOUR stature, YOUR experience, what you, your sister, your husbands long lost cousin was only 5'0" 90 lbs and gave birth to a 13 lb baby. Every woman's body is different and it makes me sad for the female race that this has to be explained.
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:16 PM
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Sharkgirl7
by Bronze Member on Oct. 12, 2012 at 11:14 PM

I refuse to be put into a box like every other mom. I DO know my body like the back of my hand and I WILL expect to be shown respect about that. Also, I will refuse a c-section if it's NOT a TRUE necessity!!!

Quoting supasnouts:

I'm  a former L&D nurse and I hate to burst your bubble but castor oil is not an old wives tale and doesn't only work if your body is ready.  I can tell you plenty of stories of women who did drink it and come it in a sH*tty mess and a hell of a hairy delivery and not always a good result.  Contrary to what many women believe, you don't know your body as well as you think you do and you need to think of the baby first and foremost, not your own selfish desires.  Also, people need to get over the whole C section thing..  Having one doesn't make you less of a mother.  Trying to refuse one at risk to the baby is selfish and crazy


Anonymous
by Anonymous 105 on Oct. 12, 2012 at 11:28 PM
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First of all, don't let them determine your guess date off of an ultrasound. I'm assuming that's what they are doing? If that's the case, you WILL have a premie. LEAVE THE BABY ALONE. Find a new doc. One that DIDN'T graduate at the bottom of his class

Quoting Anonymous:

 Right now I am currently seeing a specialist because my baby is measuring big. My last cycle was Feb. 1st

But they are saying my baby is due Nov. 11th (you do the math) .. My husband was born OVER 10LBS (natural) I can not even imagine "opening up" like that. We (my husband & I) were thinking of what to do to "speed things up" for us. This might be it (castor oil). Right now my belly is measuring 43 but I'm only turning 36 weeks. Does anyone think I should do it?? (Castor oil) also does anyone think my due date is wrong?  


Anonymous
by Anonymous 105 on Oct. 12, 2012 at 11:31 PM

8 lbs 1 oz is NOT a big baby. It's an AVERAGE size!!

Quoting Crymsm:

Wow thats a big baby.  I know how you feel...your body gets worn by the end of it all and I know I couldn't wait to be enduced with my second.  You can only enjoy so much of before you are ready to get that kid out.  But man that oil thing sounds nasty...lucky you didn't puke it up hehe.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 105 on Oct. 12, 2012 at 11:32 PM

I feel the exact same way about her stitches but she's denying everything

Quoting ab51304:

Do you really think it was the castor oil that sent you in to labor?  Just so you know, there is NO way that castor oil can physiologically cause you to go into labor.  The use of castor oil only irritates your uterus, if you are already having contractions (and obviously your dates were off because the baby would not have come otherwise) and take castor oil it can increase your contractions.  Unless you are given pitocin or another form of artificial oxytocin your body will not just spontaneously birth a baby.  There is a very delicate cocktail of hormones that must occur which is why they use pig semen to artificially start labor.  It is the prostaglandins and oxytocin within the pig semen (pitocin) which begins labor.  The more you get, the stronger the contractions. 

As far as your tearing and subsequent broken collar bone in your child-Did you receive pitocin when you arrived in the hospital?  Did the doc use any assistive devices (vacuum, forceps, etc.)?  Were you given an epidural and most importantly, were you forced to lie on your back through the labor and delivery, did you get an episiotomy?  I'm sure you likely answered yes to most of these questions, given our current medical model of childbirth.  THESE are what led to your tearing and issues.  Not your 'birth canal'.  Your birth canal is made of elastic fibers and your body naturally stretches.  If you are in the lithotomy position (on your back) you narrow your hips and create a more difficult path for baby to come down.  There is no medical reason to have women lying on their back except for convenience of the medical professional.  It is so they are able to have a clear view of baby coming out, which is also unnecessary.  I have seen this time and again on the L&D.  They pit to distress regardless of our concerns (nurses)and push epidurals to keep the women on their backs.  No standing in the shower or relaxing in a tub to relieve pain.  Just lie flat on your back and do everything the nice doctor tells you to do because they WILL save you from all the pain and terrible agony of childbirth.  And don't worry about all those interventions because we have stitches to fix you right up.


Congratulations on your birth.  Please don't think this is some deep dark secret you have to keep forever.  It likely had nothing to do with the very little castor oil you took.  2 oz. isn't enough to even give you diarrhea, let alone get the baby out!  I would seriously get my birth records and examine all the interventions!


Anonymous
by Anonymous 105 on Oct. 12, 2012 at 11:37 PM

1-If you push too early (I believe it's before 7 cm but don't quote me on that cause I know you can safely push before 10) it will harm the baby.

2-It's NORMAL for the heart rate to drop during a contraction!!!

3-By late you mean 43.5 weeks, right? Cause TRUE late is AFTER 42 weeks

Quoting ChibiMarronChan:

You know every woman is different. For me and my son 8lbs 1oz was too big! His head coned more than normal because he was trying to get out, but I was not dialating enough to be able to get him out and when there started being problems with his heart beat with every contraction, the best decision for me and for him was a c-section. I wasn't tricked into anything...I wanted my baby to be healthy and alive no matter what that meant. And no...8lbs 1oz is not too big for some women...you're right...but for me and the fact that I wouldn't dialate, it was too big. He was also a week and a half late.

Quoting Anonymous:

8 lbs 1 oz is NOT too big. I'm sorry you were lied to and tricked into a section =(

Quoting ChibiMarronChan:

I'm pretty sure castor oil is a wives tale. My baby was 8lbs 1oz also! But I had to have a c-section because I actually couldn't push him out...he was too big. I'm pretty sure castor oil can have some consequences though and doctors don't recommend it. I think it can cause the baby to poop while in the womb and then he's swimming in poo and breathing it so it's not healthy for him...it can cause issues. Thankfully that didn't happen for you, but just saying it so other people don't get the idea to do it. I get it...my little man held on until 41 1/2 weeks...its hard when you just want them out, but don't want to give people the idea that they should do something that could be bad for their babies health.




Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 13, 2012 at 12:33 AM
I don't really care what you're "sick of hearing", tbqh. Good thing its not your body.

Quoting Anonymous:

If that were truly the case, that your son was ready, you would have been in labor before the castor oil

I'm so sick of hearing "baby was ready so we induced" BS

Quoting Anonymous:

While I realize there are nearly 700 replies, I've already addressed this. I did not have an epidural. I didn't have one with either my DD or DS. I'm allergic to most narcotics as well, so the only pain relief I had was a shot of morphine when I got to 9cm and it made me throw up for the rest of my labor. I pushed when I had contractions, I wasn't "yelled at" to do anything.



I don't know what it is about this forum that thinks they know so much more than medical professionals and that you're basically a moron to trust doctors. My doctor was fucking wonderful! I had complete say in every step of my care.



If you'd read my entire post, you'd realize I drank the castor oil due to MY listening to MY body, MY intuition to me he was ready, that my body was ready. I was uncomfortable, yes, but that is NOT why I chose to "get a jump start".



It's probably pretty lonely up there on your high horse. Enjoy that.





Quoting Anonymous:

Everyones body is perfectly designed for labor, UNLESS you were in an accident that harmed your pelvis.

You and your doc is an idiot. I'm willing to venture (although you'll probably deny it) that the reason why you ripped so badly was because you pushed without the help of your body. You probably had an epidural and was yelled at when to push. THIS is what happens...you rip. Badly.

You should feel lucky your baby didn't have a bowel movement. Otherwise you wouldn't be so smug about how wonderful castor oil was to 'help' you get over YOUR misery. Screw the baby. Clearly it was about you.
 






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noble427
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 12:41 AM
You probably tore because you were pushing too hard, and in the wrong position for birthing.

And from the sounds of it, you probably weren't 36 weeks either.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 13, 2012 at 12:42 AM
I pushed for a total of less than 3 minutes. Thanks for playing, though.


Quoting noble427:

You probably tore because you were pushing too hard, and in the wrong position for birthing.



And from the sounds of it, you probably weren't 36 weeks either.

noble427
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 12:46 AM
Quoting Anonymous:




And that explains a lot. And let me guess, you were laying on your back in bed?

Pregnancy%20ticker

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 13, 2012 at 12:50 AM
I was reclined. Regardless, I tore and needed 20+ stitches with my daughter and only labored standing, and only pushed while on my knees, "doggy style", and squatting, because with my first, I too, thought I knew everything. I thought I knew more than my doctor. I was stubborn. With my DS, yes I tore terribly, but when I relaxed and decided to let me doctor do her JOB (get my child out safely), it was the most enjoyable labor and delivery I could've had, regardless of my 4th degree tear. No offense, but unless you're a doctor, or unless you went through my labor and delivery, kindly keep your uneducated, incorrect opinions and reservations of what happened during MY labor, to yourself.


Quoting noble427:

Quoting Anonymous:






And that explains a lot. And let me guess, you were laying on your back in bed?

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