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Um, really?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

So I know this bitch, right? She's always whining about not having a man, why is it sooo haaarrrdd to find a good guy! when am I gonna find a man who will take care of me and the kids? yadda yadda blah blah blah. She's got 4 kids, all with different fathers. None of the guys stuck around. All but one are drug addicts and deadbeats. Any guy who is being nice to her, she thinks is in love with her. A guy hangs out with her once, she thinks they're dating. If he flirts with her? Forget it, she's ready to give it up! When the guy pulls away (as they inevitably do) because she's moving way too fast, she complains is not a real man...In short, she wants a man so bad to love her and take care of her and all her kids, that she can act pretty desperate.

To be honest, this friend of mine is really starting to get on my nerves. She asks me for advice, but will get angry and upset if you give it to her straight. Anything close to resembling the truth, and she will lash out...say "how dare you" or "I thought you were my friend!"...get her mad enough, and she'll start a nasty rumor about you (she did this to another girl).

So should I keep trying with her? What advice can I give her that is closest to the truth without offending her? Or should I just cut ties? She is getting so annoying with the whining!

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 9, 2012 at 9:34 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:22 PM

Hey now! We've been friends since high school...we obviously made different choices in life. Just because I choose to remain friends with her, doesn't mean we're the same type of person.

I must admit though, it's getting harder and harder to want to stay friends with someone who still has the mentality of a 16 year old. I just wish she'd join me in the adult world...it's nice here! LOL...

Quoting Dzyre1115:

 Birds of a feather....do you want to be associated with her kind of people?


jjolsen77
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:23 PM

actually!!! I do her name is shelly, she has 5 kids all different fathers (no joke)  her mother died of hiv about 6 years ago and when that happened she woke up and got her shit together. She is now married to a wonderful man that accepts all her past mistakes and she loves me for always being there for her through her stupidness, and guess what??? I never refered to her as a bitch...

p.s. shellies mother was married once upon a time her husband was in the closet gay and when he came out he also found out he was positive which left her mom positive, very sad story but true as true can get.

Quoting Anonymous:

You obviously have never had a friend like that.

Quoting jjolsen77:

you are calling her your friend but you dont seem to be friend material


bleedhairspray
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:23 PM

You have three options. 1-You tell her as nicely as you can that you don't want to hear about her relationships(you know if it's big drama be there for her as a friend but all of the daily bullshit is unnecessary). 2-Tell her and be blunt about it, which would result in drama and losing her as a friend because she's too full of herself to handle the truth. or 3-Suck it up and keep your damn mouth shut. Ask yourself if even bringing it up is worth the potential reaction, if it's not, sorry but it's just one of those things you're going to accept about her that irks you. If it is, best of luck to you.

I have a lot of friends that are exactly like this, what's worst is they don't just talk to me about it but then they have to go post it all over facebook. 'when will I find a nice guy? When will someone love me? when can I have a good relationship? when will someone accept me and my child?' and all I think is, How about you focus on doing the best for your kid and yourself instead of being so obsessed with being with someone that it's ruining your life because you're such a fucking attention whore drama queen that scares everyone off by not being an emotionally stable MOTHER. Sorry but I feel so bad for kids that have to deal with a mom that is too worried about her love life than focusing on spending some of that free time going out and spending time doing new things with their children. And putting their kids through meeting guy after guy, it's trashy.

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh, boy...she's not gonna be happy about that! I can just hear her now: "Why not? I thought you were my friend! Why would you do this to meeee?" Ugh! You're right though, I just need to suck it up and deal with it...

Quoting bleedhairspray:

Just tell her from now on that her relationships are her business and you don't feel comfortable giving advice.



parentalrights1
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:25 PM
Warn her. She sounds like my sister in law. Just jumps from one guy to the next. Know what happened to her? Her kids got taken away. They were sexually abused
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acrogodess
by Ruby Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:27 PM

If it really bothered me that much, I would just cut ties with her.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:31 PM

Oh, man! I just know the first 2 options are gonna cause drama with her, no matter what. The third option I know will drive me crazy! And I'm already starting to go crazy! LOL 

One time, a mutual friend of ours confronted her about her lack of discipline with her kids...well, she didn't take too kindly to that...so she started telling everyone the mutual friend's baby (she was pregnant at the time) is someone else's, not the fiance's. Yeah, she can be that vicious! 

My friend actually does that on FB, too...it makes me cringe, tbh. 

Quoting bleedhairspray:

You have three options. 1-You tell her as nicely as you can that you don't want to hear about her relationships(you know if it's big drama be there for her as a friend but all of the daily bullshit is unnecessary). 2-Tell her and be blunt about it, which would result in drama and losing her as a friend because she's too full of herself to handle the truth. or 3-Suck it up and keep your damn mouth shut. Ask yourself if even bringing it up is worth the potential reaction, if it's not, sorry but it's just one of those things you're going to accept about her that irks you. If it is, best of luck to you.

I have a lot of friends that are exactly like this, what's worst is they don't just talk to me about it but then they have to go post it all over facebook. 'when will I find a nice guy? When will someone love me? when can I have a good relationship? when will someone accept me and my child?' and all I think is, How about you focus on doing the best for your kid and yourself instead of being so obsessed with being with someone that it's ruining your life because you're such a fucking attention whore drama queen that scares everyone off by not being an emotionally stable MOTHER. Sorry but I feel so bad for kids that have to deal with a mom that is too worried about her love life than focusing on spending some of that free time going out and spending time doing new things with their children. And putting their kids through meeting guy after guy, it's trashy.

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh, boy...she's not gonna be happy about that! I can just hear her now: "Why not? I thought you were my friend! Why would you do this to meeee?" Ugh! You're right though, I just need to suck it up and deal with it...

Quoting bleedhairspray:

Just tell her from now on that her relationships are her business and you don't feel comfortable giving advice.




jjolsen77
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:31 PM

no i havent,lol i feel like people that use the word so freely probably have their own bitch tendancies...but i dont mean you do, im just saying thats my oppinion :)

but seriously, i hope things work out for her, and i hope you can distance yourself from her enough not to have to rant about her :)

Quoting Anonymous:

LOL Haven't you ever started a story with "So this bitch..?"

Quoting jjolsen77:

i guess no one saw the first sentence of the post?? It didnt say " have a friend who" it said " i know this bitch" lol

Quoting Anonymous:

Right? I'm glad you get where I'm coming from!

Quoting Dark_Soul:

When your friends come to you for advice, you don't offer it? You don't have their best interest at heart and strive to advise them on better life choices? Then you aren't a friend at all.

Quoting jjolsen77:

me presuming??? ok, well your wrong Im not, i just said you dont sound like good friend material. Why dont you try talking to her, or better yet let her live her life and you live hers and when she needs a shoulder to cry on because of a bunch of deadbeats then be there for her? well, thats how I would treat any real friend of mine anyways


Quoting Anonymous:


Why, because I'm starting to get tired of hearing her complain all the time? Because of this one issue, you can deduce I'm not "friend material?" Please. Don't presume to know about me and my relationships, just because I am venting about one issue with one person. SMH.


Quoting jjolsen77:


you are calling her your friend but you dont seem to be friend material


 


 

 

 

 


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:36 PM
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Yeah, I think you're right...Miss American Idol! LOL ;)

Quoting acrogodess:

If it really bothered me that much, I would just cut ties with her.


Uhura
by Gold Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:45 PM

I'd just defriend her.

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CuriousArentYa
by Platinum Member on Oct. 10, 2012 at 12:09 AM

How incredibly sad that she is that desperate to be loved by a man. :( 

I say cut ties with her or learn to dodge the subject. 

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