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Stranger Danger should still be taught to kids!

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 I can't help but wonder, with all the recent news of kidnappings, how these guys got these kids. The missing girl in Colorado is very close to home being but a couple hours away. The same day a girl went missing from Cody, WY. She was later found and it's come out that she got in a strangers car because he asked her to help him find his dog.

Growing up we had a code word. We didn't get in the car with anyone who did not know the code word. We did not help people find lost dogs. We gave directions from the side walk. We knew to run screaming if someone approached us. My siblings and I would never have been that girl taken and raped in Cody, WY. My children will not be either. I will teach them as I was taught.

Are people just not doing that anymore?

by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 3:37 PM
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Night_Roane
by Platinum Member on Oct. 10, 2012 at 3:58 PM
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I think that there's a difference between teacher your kid to be smart and cautious and teaching them to be afraid of people.

I never taught my DD any "stranger danger" because she's never where I can't see her (or a friend, or her teacher) and I don't want her to have an irrational fear of everyone that she comes into contact with. I HAVE taught her things like if she's going to run ahead of me when we're walking home, she must stop at a designated landmark (usually a sign a few feet ahead), and she may not go anywhere that she can't see me and I can't see her in the store. I want her to be safe and unafraid. Studies have shown that most kids don't see someone who acts friendly as a "stranger" anyways, and will still go with them, whether or not their parents have taught them otherwise.

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bmw29
by spitfire_bobbie on Oct. 10, 2012 at 3:59 PM
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Fire won't get much response anymore either. I think it would be better to have them yell YOU ARE NOT MY FUCKING MOTHER YOU CRAZY BITCH! Nobody ignores a cursing child.

Quoting Anonymous:

I have told my kids if someone tries to get them in their car or if they feel something is not right they are to run and yell FIRE! People look more so at a child yelling that than help. Kids use the word help while playing and some times it goes unnoticed. Actually my husbands state patrol friend told me about the word fire will get peoples attention quickly.
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jballentine
by Bronze Member on Oct. 10, 2012 at 3:59 PM
In my house I teach stranger danger and we do have a code word. My kids have been talked to and taught that you leave strangers alone. And they know about kidnapping and all of that stuff.

Kids now days don't get taught a lot of things that were taught when I was younger.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Oct. 10, 2012 at 4:00 PM

you can teach your kids stranger danger all you want. but some kids are just way too friendly and trusting and will still get tricked. if an adult stranger comes along and seems very friendly and non-threatening, some kids will still fall for it.

PeaceLoveZ
by Platinum Member on Oct. 10, 2012 at 4:00 PM

If someone wants to take you bad enough, they will. Obviously if you cause a big scene it will be more difficult but it's not to say your guaranteed a get away. In some cases an escape is not realistic and in fact can be more dangerous, it can cause more harm. I'm not saying roll over and take it b/c I like you would fight like hell, but, it's about working with your thoughts, think rationally.

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Quoting furbabymum:

 Of course someone could have chased me down, knocked me over the head and taken me. What is the percentage of that though? If I were to be taken I'd put up as much struggle and make as much noise as possible. Predators usually go for the easy kill.

Quoting PeaceLoveZ:

Even people who know and are taught this can still be kidnapped. Look at the amount of missing women, or men even. They knew but they were still abducted. If a bad guy wants to get someone bad enough they will.  You don't know what could happen to your children, don't be so sure it couldn't happen to you.

 


cheez1e
by Silver Member on Oct. 10, 2012 at 4:00 PM

Thank goodness, I've taught them that NOONE is allowed to touch them in private spots, or anywhere that makes them uncomfortable and if it should ever happen they should tell an adult immediately. That goes for everyone, family included.

Quoting JakesMom712:

I used to work as a sexual assault counselor. So many parents never think to talk about good touch/bad touch. Or they limit it go strangers. Most kids who are abused are abused by family/close friends. It's sad.


Quoting cheez1e:

We've had the good touch/bad touch talk too.

Quoting JakesMom712:

I will teach it, along with not allowing people to touch certain body parts.




cLanief
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 4:01 PM
I have taught my son never to open the car door for anyone and if anyone comes near to scream bloody murder.... He has a horrrrrrriiiiffffiiiicccc high pitched scream he caan do on command lol
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Kitschy
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 4:02 PM

exactly! A little boy was lost at the library the other day. Maybe about 7 or 8. He was crying and he was terrified to let me help him.

Quoting bmw29:

I agree and I also think that if your child is lost and afraid to seek help from a stranger then that poses it's own problems. Children should be taught the difference between a likely safe stranger and one that seems off. Adults don't normally seek out children to help them solve a problem unless they are up to no good. However the mother at the park with three children of her own is likely safe.

Quoting Kitschy:

They teach it in schools. I for one don't teach stranger danger and I'm not looking forward to them learning it in school. I think stranger danger is actually detrimental and weakens the senses to be able to protect oneself against actual danger by making all strangers the culprit. I think the message is confusing at best and not well thought out.


helema24
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 4:02 PM

 i was taught it and i teach it to my kids when i was 19 my now dh offered me a ride and i told him no.....well i got to know him latter on without rideing with him and then i accepted a ride after talking for almost a month!!

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Oct. 10, 2012 at 4:04 PM

If recaptured after an initial escape, the likely hood you'll receive another chance well is not very likely.
Your attcker may be extremely angry when you fight back, only become violent if you truly believe you can escape the situation safely & not get recaptured.


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