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Abortion scheduled -- thinking of keeping.....

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A couple days ago I found out I"m pregnant after a one night stand. The guy is being great, he's going to help and come with me. We aren't together, I don't think we will be together. I'm in love with someone I will never be with and am working on getting over that.... I have a couple other kids and have been split from my husband for a year or so....but despite child support from my xh sometimes I struggle to make it each month though I can certainly cut back in some areas. This is the right choice, the best choice for me, my family, the baby....

But....part of me, the mom in me, is dying at the thought. What if its my last baby ever and I get rid of it? What if I meet someone and we want to have kids and can't and I always wonder about this one....I don't want to be tied to this guy....I don't want to be that mom that has a handful of kids by different fathers...i hate sharing my kids as it is and this guy would want to be involved....he makes good money but I still can't support another kid....I have a new job I can't take time off from.....I can't afford daycare for another one....but....ther'es always that but. I miss being pregnant, I miss having a baby. I know this is not the time in my life to be doing any of that, I'm young (almost 30) and I have lots of time....but....

Just had to get that off my chest....i haven't told anyone here I am going and I thought some of you might be able to relate, or understand, or have words of advice. PLEASE no abortion debates, that's not what this is about AT ALL. I don't care if you agree or disagree with abortion, I'm just needing to share my internal angst at making the right choice.....

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:06 PM
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by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:09 PM
Would the dad want to raise the baby?
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by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:10 PM
You really shouldn't have posted this here. You're going to get chewed up and spit out for the wolves to pick at by all of the pro lifers. Good luck.
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by Silver Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:10 PM

Do what is right for you! That is all I can say about this.

by Pagan Mother on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:10 PM

 I say do not do anything until you are sure. Get some counseling before you make your final decision.

If the guy would pay child support, then you could possibly afford to keep this baby??

In the end, the decision is your, just make sure you are 100% sure before having the abortion. Get counseling before for sure, and if you decide to abort, some after counseling too.

Good luck in whatever decision you decide to make

by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:11 PM
Quite honestly it sounds to me like you will have deep regrets of you go through with it. If I were you I'd make an appointment with a therapist to really talk this stuff through. It's a huge decision and it's not one you can change your mind on after the fact.
by Bronze Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:11 PM

Good luck :( I know that has got to be a tough decision to make.

by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:11 PM
Good luck and peace on your journey! ((Hugs))
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by Anonymous 5 on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:11 PM
I agree with this. I had one and wasn't 100% sure no I regret it. Not saying it will happen to you. But think everything over.

Quoting My4Kidds:

If u aren't 100% sure, dont do it.

by Anonymous 6 on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:11 PM
I had one. I have regretted it for 17 years.
by Platinum Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:11 PM
Maybe you should take a little more time to decide, since you sound unsure.

Whatever you decide, good luck!
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