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Abortion scheduled -- thinking of keeping.....

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A couple days ago I found out I"m pregnant after a one night stand. The guy is being great, he's going to help and come with me. We aren't together, I don't think we will be together. I'm in love with someone I will never be with and am working on getting over that.... I have a couple other kids and have been split from my husband for a year or so....but despite child support from my xh sometimes I struggle to make it each month though I can certainly cut back in some areas. This is the right choice, the best choice for me, my family, the baby....

But....part of me, the mom in me, is dying at the thought. What if its my last baby ever and I get rid of it? What if I meet someone and we want to have kids and can't and I always wonder about this one....I don't want to be tied to this guy....I don't want to be that mom that has a handful of kids by different fathers...i hate sharing my kids as it is and this guy would want to be involved....he makes good money but I still can't support another kid....I have a new job I can't take time off from.....I can't afford daycare for another one....but....ther'es always that but. I miss being pregnant, I miss having a baby. I know this is not the time in my life to be doing any of that, I'm young (almost 30) and I have lots of time....but....

Just had to get that off my chest....i haven't told anyone here I am going and I thought some of you might be able to relate, or understand, or have words of advice. PLEASE no abortion debates, that's not what this is about AT ALL. I don't care if you agree or disagree with abortion, I'm just needing to share my internal angst at making the right choice.....

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:06 PM
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by Anonymous 7 on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:12 PM
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Its NEVER the right choice to MURDER a baby. It may be the right choice for you but how is it the right choice for the baby? The baby has a right to life just like you and your other children. Have you ever thought of adoption? I am adopted because my mom was in the same position but she was also a teen mom she had me at 16 and in total there are 10 of us ssoo....
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:13 PM


by Platinum Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:13 PM

I wouldn't do it. 

by Anonymous 8 on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:14 PM

Finding an adoptive family shouldn't be hard. If you are worried what others will say, tell them you're being a surrogate for ________ (friend, relative, getting paid by a complete stranger etc.)

by Anonymous 9 on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:14 PM
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Sometimes it's better for all involved to terminate. I had an abortion in July, it's sad but I have gotten over it. We could not handle another child at this point, if you are a single mom it doesn't sound like you can either.
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:14 PM

Would the father want to raise the baby himself? Would that be an option?

by Gold Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:14 PM

It sounds like you should take some more time to think this out before you go through with it. Give yourself like another week and then you could either decide to keep it or reschedule. My personal opinion says if you're this torn about it now then imagine how much you'll think about it after. Get yourself sure about your decision and maybe even talk to someone about it. Your choice mama! GL

by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:14 PM

Quoting redneckmama4:

I second the peace and love mama!

Only you know what the answer is.
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by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:14 PM
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It's always a tough decision. I personally couldn't go through with it and cancelled my appointment. Best decision ever. Then again, i only have one child at this point so i cannot begin to imagine how it just feel like exactly with kids already and then a unplanned pregnancy. Just make sure you don't do something you'll end up regretting in the long run.

by Gold Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:15 PM

Quoting My4Kidds:

If u aren't 100% sure, dont do it.

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