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Abortion scheduled -- thinking of keeping.....

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A couple days ago I found out I"m pregnant after a one night stand. The guy is being great, he's going to help and come with me. We aren't together, I don't think we will be together. I'm in love with someone I will never be with and am working on getting over that.... I have a couple other kids and have been split from my husband for a year or so....but despite child support from my xh sometimes I struggle to make it each month though I can certainly cut back in some areas. This is the right choice, the best choice for me, my family, the baby....

But....part of me, the mom in me, is dying at the thought. What if its my last baby ever and I get rid of it? What if I meet someone and we want to have kids and can't and I always wonder about this one....I don't want to be tied to this guy....I don't want to be that mom that has a handful of kids by different fathers...i hate sharing my kids as it is and this guy would want to be involved....he makes good money but I still can't support another kid....I have a new job I can't take time off from.....I can't afford daycare for another one....but....ther'es always that but. I miss being pregnant, I miss having a baby. I know this is not the time in my life to be doing any of that, I'm young (almost 30) and I have lots of time....but....

Just had to get that off my chest....i haven't told anyone here I am going and I thought some of you might be able to relate, or understand, or have words of advice. PLEASE no abortion debates, that's not what this is about AT ALL. I don't care if you agree or disagree with abortion, I'm just needing to share my internal angst at making the right choice.....

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:06 PM
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by Gold Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:21 PM
I've been trying w dh for 3 years now. I know what you mean.

I'll adopt!!!

Quoting Anonymous:

Don't do it. I wish I could trade places with you. We've been trying for a long while for another one. What I would give for that.

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by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:21 PM
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This is hard to read. I want to have another child so bad and can't. I would gladly welcome your baby into my home : (

by Anonymous 15 on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:22 PM
Don't do it if you aren't sure. You don't sound like you are. Talk to the clinic , ask for a counselor to help you first. Good luck to you. I wish you the best in whatever you decide.
by Anonymous 16 on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:22 PM
Not your place to tell her the right or wrong choice.

Quoting Anonymous:

Its NEVER the right choice to MURDER a baby. It may be the right choice for you but how is it the right choice for the baby? The baby has a right to life just like you and your other children. Have you ever thought of adoption? I am adopted because my mom was in the same position but she was also a teen mom she had me at 16 and in total there are 10 of us ssoo....
by Anonymous 17 on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:23 PM

I am ProLife so I'm advising you to have your baby and give him/her a chance at life.  Sorry, that's all I got!

by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:23 PM
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Only you can know what you are able to handle financially, physically, and emotionally. Good luck!
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by Anonymous 18 on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:24 PM
Had an abortion. I honestly believe it was the best choice at the time. I was with the guy for 3 years and I found out 1 week afterwe broke up. He reacted very negatively. I had left to Mexico so I could get away from the pain of my break up. I was there for 2 months. When I came back I figured everything would go back to normal. He would realize I was the one and help me raise my 5 year old and story book ending. Instead he forced me to get the abortion. At the e.d the choice is yours. Make sure you can live with the decision. Make sure its not out of fear but out of logical brainstorming.
by Platinum Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:24 PM
Don't do it unless you are absolutely sure it's what you want to do. Abortion can be very tough on women who aren't 100% sure of their decision.
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by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:24 PM
Talk to the Guy bout this
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by Ruby Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:27 PM
Good luck with whatever you decide. This is only somethng you can decide.
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