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Abortion scheduled -- thinking of keeping.....

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A couple days ago I found out I"m pregnant after a one night stand. The guy is being great, he's going to help and come with me. We aren't together, I don't think we will be together. I'm in love with someone I will never be with and am working on getting over that.... I have a couple other kids and have been split from my husband for a year or so....but despite child support from my xh sometimes I struggle to make it each month though I can certainly cut back in some areas. This is the right choice, the best choice for me, my family, the baby....


But....part of me, the mom in me, is dying at the thought. What if its my last baby ever and I get rid of it? What if I meet someone and we want to have kids and can't and I always wonder about this one....I don't want to be tied to this guy....I don't want to be that mom that has a handful of kids by different fathers...i hate sharing my kids as it is and this guy would want to be involved....he makes good money but I still can't support another kid....I have a new job I can't take time off from.....I can't afford daycare for another one....but....ther'es always that but. I miss being pregnant, I miss having a baby. I know this is not the time in my life to be doing any of that, I'm young (almost 30) and I have lots of time....but....

Just had to get that off my chest....i haven't told anyone here I am going and I thought some of you might be able to relate, or understand, or have words of advice. PLEASE no abortion debates, that's not what this is about AT ALL. I don't care if you agree or disagree with abortion, I'm just needing to share my internal angst at making the right choice.....

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:06 PM
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smushy79
by Gold Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 7:31 PM
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Good luck hun! I think you are making the right choice for you.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 11, 2012 at 7:31 PM
Quoting Sparkey6987:

bash me all u want she wsnted intake I gave it to her. Keep ur damn legs closed!
SavannahV
by Gold Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 7:33 PM
If you have any doubts, wait. Don't make a permanent decision just yet.
superm0m877
by Gold Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 7:35 PM
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I dont want you to feel like im trying to sway your decision in any way, because it is your choice, but I'd like to share my story that is somewhat similar, maybe it will help you with your choice. 

I left my abusive ex and found out a week later i was pregnant. i immediately thought abortion. i already had 2 kids with him, i was going into a shelter, i had no job no car no nothing. i struggled with the SAME thoughts you are, my mind told me it was wrong to keep the baby but deep down i wanted to. well, i ended up keeping him and i am SO GLAD i did! He means everything to me, and fast forward 2 years later I am in a great situation and able to take care of all three of my kids. i made it work because i wanted it. 

so sometimes if we want something bad enough we can make it work, even if its hard at first. follow your gut feeling. if your gut tells you its not right to have a baby, then dont! If your gut tells you to keep the baby, make it work! Whatever you feel is right and dont worry about what others will think of you either way you go. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 11, 2012 at 7:36 PM
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do not do anything your not 100 percent with follow me. If you are not sure about abortion yet sit down and really think talk to someone and go from there. While i realize i choose life it may not be for everyone and there is also adoption ( just anther option) not trying to push you in any direction.Only you know what is right for you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 11, 2012 at 7:36 PM
Quoting Anonymous:



Im so sorry u think of ur self so highly. whore=)
myname27
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 7:37 PM

dont abort.... i promise u its not the best decision.... ur baby deserves life....  who r we as woman to say whether a child lives or dies???

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 11, 2012 at 7:38 PM
O.o


Quoting shivasgirl:

sometimes being a good mother is knowing when you cant be a mother at all...hugs

shivasgirl
by Platinum Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 7:41 PM

do you have something in your eye?

Quoting Anonymous:

O.o


Quoting shivasgirl:

sometimes being a good mother is knowing when you cant be a mother at all...hugs


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 11, 2012 at 7:41 PM
If there's any doubt in you, which obviously there is, I hope you postpone until you're 100% comfortable with that choice. Best wishes.
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