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At what age do you teach your children to be self sufficient?

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is 7 years old too young?

by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 11:17 AM
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childlessmom72
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 9:56 PM
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The problem I have is my SS is not self sufficient at all...he wouldn't even cut his own French toast with a fork or make his own cereal. He is 12 years old and can't ride a bike! He doesn't do anything because the BM is doing everything!! It's ridiculous.
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Armygirl2299703
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 9:56 PM
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I think 7 is fine. Of course they're not able to do everything on thier own but there is a lot they can do. My daughter does chores, cleans up toys, gets dressed, can make her own peanut butter sandwhich and other snacks etc.

vinalex0581
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 9:58 PM

how can you teach them at a week old?

Quoting mommyof11050307:

Mine was starting at a week old lol. My kids are 5&7 they fix their own breakfast and take showers on their own


Liz132
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 10:04 PM
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 What do you mean by self sufficient? When I think of self sufficient I think fully supporting themselves living on their on with out help, so obviously that isn't going to happen at age 7.

Buggy979
by Platinum Member on Oct. 13, 2012 at 10:22 PM
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You start with self soothing and prop feeding... Most won't agree but my girls were able to get cereal and drink by the time they were 18 months... Two of my girls were potty trained at 11 months... all three were making there own breakfast and lunch by the time they were 3.. that was cold food... Hot food like oatmeal, toast, grilled cheese, soups by 4..,

Quoting vinalex0581:

i don't get how you can teach an infant to be self sufficient

Quoting Buggy979:

.. Teaching starts at birth for me...


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zeesmuse
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 10:26 PM

I started younger... 4 or 5. That's TEACHING them to be self-sufficient. As to when they become self-suffiecient... that depends on the maturity of your child.

uriahadel
by Platinum Member on Oct. 13, 2012 at 10:57 PM
I don't believe so... we are their parents for a reason and that is to teach them... my six year old is very self sufficient and so is my two year old... I teach them age appropriate but they both are actually self sufficient beyond their age... but also it depends on the child and the type of parenting you use...
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azeventdiva
by Bronze Member on Oct. 13, 2012 at 10:59 PM
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All depends on the kid, and what you mean by self sufficient.

If you mean leaving a kid home alone at 7yo, I probably would wait a couple more years.

As for doing things themselves. My 3yo can get himself dressed, do some small house hold chores. My 5yo does the kitty litter, can get her own cereal & drinks. My 13yo is more than capable of making a full meal on her own if she needs to, and can care for the younger ones for a couple hours with no issues.

At 16 I lived on my own, worked 2 jobs, went to school full time, and paid for my own apartment. But, my sister, who is now 20 has just barely started living on her own. And really, isn't on her own, she lives with her boyfriend. She lived with us for a bit too, before moving in with the boyfriend. And, I wouldn't consider her self-sufficient yet. It really all depends on each persons own personality & maturity level at each given stage of their lives.

brookemhowell
by Bronze Member on Oct. 13, 2012 at 11:16 PM
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my 4 yo can rince dishes, change clothes from the washer to the dryer, sweep, and clean her room. we are teaching her how to shower alone. it all depends on the kids and how old you start teaching them at.

Kitschy
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 11:17 PM
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I don't know, isn't it an ongoing process that starts when they can walk and talk?

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