is 7 years old too young?
Quoting JoyfulJ:It is different for every child, and every day.
As he needs more help he will get it, as he needs more freedom...within safe boundaries...again he will get it. I won't hold back, but I won't push harder then they can emotionally can handle, or are mature enough to handle. Some kids mature faster then others.
I think you should start teaching them as soon as possible. It is a constant process. You just don't expect them to put it all into practice on their own until they get a little older.
My four year old can get himself ready with minimal help, but he still needs me to open things and such. And I do not expect him to do it by himself at this age, but I am teaching him.
I try to teach them all to be self sufficient. My 6 yo boy is pretty good, but not as much as his 7 yo step sister. She's fairly independent. My 9 yo boy is very self suffcient, in fact I've often said that I'd let him babysit before I let the older ones (theoreticlaly, not literally). Then there's my 11 yo neice that we have custody of... not self suffcient at all! granted, we didnt get custody of her until she was 7 so we didnt get to teach a lot of things. Her older brothers 15 & 18 are pretty much the same way. Unless you leave them specific directions, written out... def not just tell them more than one step... nothing ever gets done. They can't seem to do the basic things like remembering to shower every day, do their homework, even getting them to write down their assignments from school is a challenge.
Nature vs nurture? possibly... personality of the child, definitatly! so to make a long post longer... some 7 year olds are ready for independence (within reason), some are not
Why is there a need for a definitive age? I could be wrong, but I'm thinking its a process that starts when a child is quite young and we teach them how to use utensils, dress themelves and brush their own teeth, into the elementary ages when we teach them to cook simple meals and do chores, goes in through adolenscence when we help them suss out social situations and make hard choice and live with the consequnces, even into adulthood when we listen to their worries and help, hopefully, with babies and what not, and continues up until we switch roles, sometime when we parents are so old we need the help, instead. Its a process, and how fast the skills are acquired is really an individual thing.
Some states have laws about how old children have to be to stay home alone. A common age is 12. It amazes me that the same state can expect kids in K to walk 2 miles to school.
My 3 year old is self sufficient for the most part. Meaning she doesn't need constant supervision like her 2 year old sister, she goes potty, makes her bed, picks up her toys, sets the table and washes it... She always loves making pb&j
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