No I do not want to listen to her brag about commiting fraud and getting everything handed to her
My situation - DH and I both work full time. He has a daughter from a previous relationship and I have a son from a previous relationship. He pays child support - as he should. My ex does not.
I pay 500 dollars a month in child care, 350 on a car payment, 85 on insurance, 600 a month in rent etc. etc.
We have one car, we live in a 2 bedroom condo, our bills are all paid, and sometimes we have a little something to put into savings.
We have Netflix instead of cable, we have prepaid phones instead of smart phones with contracts, I take the bus to work in the dead of winter to save money on gas.
We go on one "vacation" ( more like a weekend away) a year - In the past it's been an indoor water park ( 500 total, for hotel, admission, spending money and gas), and Niagara falls (400 total for Gas, attractions and camping fees)
I want a baby so bad is physically hurts to see another child. I found out almost 2 years ago that if I want to have another child, I would need to be on bedrest the entire pregnancy due to complications. That would require quitting my job, hiring a live in nanny to attend to my young son etc.I would lose my medical insurance, because I won't be working. My son will lose his - my husbands job offers it, but it's way too expensive - You get the picture
My sisters situation - Her DH works full time, making the same amount of money I make. They have 2 cars they just finished paying off and invested in a third vehicle. She's a stay at home mom. Right around the time I found out about the possibility that I may never have another baby, my sister announces that she's pregnant with baby number 3.
I was devastated and even more so when she asked meto be this baby's God mother - it was too much for me to handle at the moment.
She begins recieving Medicade and WIC and then they move into his families home. They are paying 300 a month for rent, but had his family lie and say they are paying 900 a month and all utilities - which the 300 a month is covering their lights and water - so they are really only paying for gas. She then begins recieving foodstamps. Mind you that have a 500 dollar a month Truck Payment -
They do not have insurance on this truck ( or their other two vehicles) - which irritates me because it's against the law and you are violating a contract - but that a minor irritation that really won't affect me when they lose the truck.
They have a satelite dish, brand new iphones, etc.
When I was talking to my sister on the phone the other day - I mentioned I was feeling guilty, because I hadn't bought DS a winter coat yet and I really needed to get him one before the weather takes an extreme drop ( BTW I ended up getting him one this weekend). She says " Oh I got all three of the kids new coats, boots, hats, scarves, gloves, and snow suits yesterday" - Og because you get everything in life handed to you!!!
My mom is mad at me, because I don't want to talk to my sister. Well when everytime I talk to her she's saying " Oh we went out to dinner at Red Lobster" , "Oh DD11 is in this EC, this EC and this EC and DS7 gets to do this and this and this and it only cost me 600 dollars" - and I can't afford the extra 80 dollars a month to send my son to karate - Why can't I afford this -?? Because I work full time, go to school full time, my husband works full time - We make too much for assistance and not enough to live like people that are on assistance
And I am not against assistance - I am just so sick and tired of hearing how good she has it, because she's one of the people that make everyone on assistance look bad. I know not everyone on assistance is like this and I think welfare is a wonderful program. I just get irritated when I see people misusing it. I am too moral of a person to lie to the government just to get a hand out - because I really feel that if you have to lie to get it, then it's a hand out, not a hand up.
If you truly need it, then please use it - but in this situation, it is not needed.