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A friend's SO did this and she is ok with it, would you be ok with it?

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I have a friend who I have know for 2 years, one day she and her SO showed up at my kid's school for a play. I knew she had step children who went to the school, what I didn't know is that the step children's mother is NOT her DH's ex, she is legally, still his wife I figured that out when the wife introduced herself as "his wife". Later that night my friend called and explained everything to me. She (the wife) is Catholic and refuses to get divorced, even when her DH asked her for one. They struck a deal that he wouldn't have to pay child support or alimony for any of their 3 kids, which would be a substantial amount if they didn't get divorced. They both go to the same church and at church, his wife is his wife, my friend and her kids can't even go to church with him. At his family gatherings, his family and the wife's  family treat them like they are still married (yes, everyone knows about my friend and the 2 kids he has with her), my friend doesn't even go to them. I can't imagine living like this, they can't ever get legally married, in most peoples eyes, she is the other woman. I asked her why she would go along with this and she said it's because she "loves him". Would you go along with this?

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 14, 2012 at 8:12 AM
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by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 10:38 PM
Girls are so effin stupid
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by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 10:39 PM

i wouldnt do it

by motherknowsbest on Oct. 14, 2012 at 10:55 PM

no, It would hurt to know you could never get married. but then again who knows what we'll do unless we're put in the situation...

by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 10:57 PM

No. I'm so glad my husband would have never married a Catholic. Divorce isn't that bad.

by Anonymous 35 on Oct. 14, 2012 at 11:04 PM

hell no! sounds like ur friends SO is too worried about what other ppl think n omg i wonder how the kids feel?!

by Gold Member on Oct. 14, 2012 at 11:04 PM

Hell No!  I refuse to be anyone's dirty little secret.

by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 11:11 PM
Wow wtf? No way in hell.
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by Anonymous 36 on Oct. 14, 2012 at 11:13 PM

I woudn't.

My next door neighbor is the long time gf of a very successful lawyer.The atty. and his wife are in their mid 60's ,my neighbor is about 50.The atty and wife are Catholic and she doesn't want a divorce.Wife has a long term bf.All the kids are grown,gf 's is also .he is from her first husband.The atty bought my neighbor her house ,furniture etc.She is a sub .teacher so that she can travel when he wants her too.The house is her "nest egg",the houses in my neighborhood start at about 750,000.000.She was concerned that despite him supporting her now something could happen so the house.

Here is the weirdest part of all Thanksgiving is spent at the family ranch...atty ,gf ,wife,bf,kids ,their spouses and grand kids.Wed thru Sun every year.They have Christmas Lunch all together but at wife's house.

My life is soooooo boring even with ick out-laws.LOL

by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 11:15 PM
Oh my damn! Hell no, I wouldn't go along with that!
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by Silver Member on Oct. 14, 2012 at 11:22 PM
No way!
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