so, my mom is 73 & was pretty crazy when i was a kid-she yelled at us (4 kids), called us worthless, regularly beat us w/ switchws/spoons/belts, just for being kids. my dad sort of went along, was always at work. seriously, growing up we didn't drink, sneak out, etc. i & my 2 sisters are physicians & my brother is an engineer. we have left the childhood stuff behind, but my mom just can't seem to respect boundaries & i think she's codependent. i have tried every way i know to manage MY actions so she doesn't have the opportunity to breech boundaries, but she always finds a novel way. last week while staying w/ my aunt in order to tend to my dying uncle, she got in the middle of an argument between my aunt (her sister) & cousin. long story short, she berated my cousin for wearing clothes she knows my aunt doesn't like (not revealing, just different) "causing" my aunt to get mad & not allow her to visit her dying dad. there's more to it, but same gist, & she involved me in it. do i just have to cut her off totally, or can i somehow salvage something?
on Oct. 14, 2012 at 11:14 AM