The love isn't there, but we are still considering marriage for other reasons ***UPDATE IN RED
Maybe this is really dumb of me, which is why I am posting this on here, I want some opinions.
I am a single mom, young mom, my child is 2, I work and go to school full time, the father of my child is an excellent father. But I have chose to dedicate myself, outside of parenting, to becoming successful. Not just for my child, but for his father, for my sister, and for my mother. I am the oldest child and a lot of pressure falls on me in that way. But none the less, I accept it and am making the best of it. I am going for a Pre-Doc program next year as well which means I could end up anywhere.
He is a single dad, 24, so a bit older than myself. He works 2 jobs right now, literally from 8a-11p or later, at least 5 days a week. He is in school. He brings in a good income and does well considering he works like he does. The mother of his daughter hasn't called or seen her in 2 years and he made it clear to me that he wants a mother for his daughter more than anything else because she is 4, she is still young enough to really form a strong bond.
We both want to give our kids the best, we both work hard, we both like to travel, we have so many common goals, but the "spark" or love connection has never been there. We more so gravitated to each other because of similarities.
But WE were thinking, why not just for a little family, we don't have to be together forever. But since my schooling is locking me down and making me move so often over the next 6-8 years and because he also chose a very demanding field of work, computer science, we could make it work and then just always be there for the kids. I don't know. It would be a marriage of convenience, with the expectation that we would eventually divorce but it would give our kids a sense of family for now.
Otherwise, we can just continue our struggle seperately.
So, what if we didn't actually get married as previous posters have suggested, and just moved in together?