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Do you judge other females by the amount of sexual partners ..(edit at bottom)

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Question: When it comes to calling women whores , sluts and the like..

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I do it and don't see a problem with it.

I have done it , but do see a problem with it.

I don't call women those names.

something else.


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Do you judge other females by the amount of sexual partners they have had? Do you "slut shame" others? Use terms like whore etc. to describe women you don't like? -


personally , I find it all kind of revolting and don't understand why other women still do it. I read an article once that tried to answer this question , (wish I could find the article , it was very interesting)  basically it said that women often do this in order to try and please men ..By being " A Different kind of women" and thereby fitting more into their "boys club". I could understand the thinking .

I recall as a younger teen wanting to gain approval of men and I knew early on that putting down some women seemed to help get me "in" with these neanderthals . I have since grown up and realized that there are men who have evolved past this type of anti-women garbage and now those are the men that my husband and I choose to be around.

Still I catch myself thinking ; "What a slut...." , when I see a female I don't like . I am trying to remain conscience of this and change this internal dialogue. I am raising daughters and I hope they grow up in a world that isn't so happy to put down females in such a way....thoughts???


* And , of course , this isn't just about how many men a womens slept with ...women are called these names for lots of reasons . 

don't like her ? call her a whore.

she dresses in a way you don't like ? Must be she is a slut

she stood up for herself? what a whore 


Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 14, 2012 at 2:02 PM
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bellawomen
by Summer on Oct. 14, 2012 at 2:10 PM


Quoting bellawomen:

I don't care how many people you sleep with. But I will admit I judge because if someone is having really high numbers and one night stands, they don't care about the health if their bodies. That makes me sad for them and angry. We are smarter than that, both men and women.
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FL2AK
by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 2:11 PM
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I don't care how many people a woman had been with. Just practice safe sex.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Oct. 14, 2012 at 2:11 PM

Good lord, I don't ask every female I meet, how many sexual partners she's had.

Don't think it's any of my business.


Tatum2U
by Gold Member on Oct. 14, 2012 at 2:11 PM

Good luck with this !!! LOL , I see that word on here all the time ! 


But to answer your question , NO , I don't call women those names and I don't want to be part of such a boys club ..thank you very much ! As women we should all stand together and not tear each other down over something as normal and natural as sex.

jellybeanjean
by Platinum Member on Oct. 14, 2012 at 2:12 PM
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I don't really care that much. As long as they stay away from my husband
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JadsW
by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 2:13 PM
No. IDGAF.
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Ber-Lynn
by Count Me In on Oct. 14, 2012 at 2:13 PM
I don't call others names or anything like that. Yet I'm not going to lie, I don't understand sleeping around. I know I personally could never do it, I would feel dirty. I could never have sex with someone unless I was in love with them and in a committed relationship. What others do with their body is their business.
Tatum2U
by Gold Member on Oct. 14, 2012 at 2:15 PM
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Quoting Lillymygirl:

A females role in the family is to stay pure until her wedding day. If a women doesn't do this then she is usually of loose moral character and I call it like I see it. My father took great pride in protecting me when I was growing into a woman and I believe more fathers need to step up to the plate and be there for their girls. Now a days there are so many sexual messages aimed at these girls and fathers are needed more then ever.

what did he protect exactly? Your hymen? Sounds like he owned you until you were "given away" to another man - gross.

I will agree that all children should be protected though but not just girls and not just by daddy .

Ber-Lynn
by Count Me In on Oct. 14, 2012 at 2:15 PM
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Quoting Lillymygirl:

A females role in the family is to stay pure until her wedding day. If a women doesn't do this then she is usually of loose moral character and I call it like I see it. My father took great pride in protecting me when I was growing into a woman and I believe more fathers need to step up to the plate and be there for their girls. Now a days there are so many sexual messages aimed at these girls and fathers are needed more then ever.



I don't necessarily agree with the first part. I won't be a virgin on my wedding day but that does not mean I have a loose moral character. I have only been with one man, the father of my child.
mommylove818
by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 2:18 PM
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Exactly how I feel about this question :)


Quoting 702girly:

I don't care how many sexual partners anyone has had. 

I will admit that I am grossed out by people who don't practice safe sex, excluding those in a committed relationship. 

A woman could tell me that she's had sex with hundreds of guys and I'd just shrug and say, "That's nice." but if a friend tells me that she picked up some guy in a bar last night and fucked him bareback, I'd be completely grossed out and ask her if she's fucking crazy. I don't understand why anyone would take that kind of risk. Condoms are cheap and easy to use.


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