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I don't want to hear... UPDATE

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I was asked today to please have my son evaluated for his behavior by his babysitter. His preschool teacher has requested. His father (we aren't together anymore) has requested. His kindergarden screening has said he needs to be seen. I don't want to! Yes, he is difficult. He can't stay on task. He is 5 and is always surprised when a consequence happens even though I am very consistant. I do what I say I will do. I set the timer tonight for 20 minutes to clean his room and told him I will take any not put away. He is running laps in my house and giggling. I know he will be shocked, just like last night, when I take his toys. My closet is full of toys he hasnt earned back. You litterally have to nag or he forgets what was told to him. His teachers say he has no self control and cries when he is told to move to a new task sometimes. His dad says he is hopeless and wont listen. His babysitter says he is wild and spends a lot of time in trouble. I think they just dont understand him and he will learn if we just keep at our consistancy. I have the number for the behavior therapist... I dont want to call! UPDATE: I called them. They are sending me the release forms and said that they can work on my schedule. I struggled all night with this. Thank you for pushing me.
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 14, 2012 at 8:11 PM
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NumbaHumbaVII
by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 8:58 PM

Well then obviously we can scream ICEBERG! as loud as we want but it's ultimately up to you to heed the warning. Good luck to you. I truly hope things work out for your family.

Quoting Anonymous:

No. This is just all me. I really have these thoughts.

Quoting NumbaHumbaVII:

It seems like you're trying to make a point about parents who don't medicate despite the signs in front of them. Was there a post earlier?


MommaRoseT
by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 9:03 PM
These are my thoughts too.


Quoting EponineVader:

How hard is it to just call? Pick up the phone and dial, then tell them the truth, everyone thinks he needs to be evaluated and you are unsure. They will probabaly just tell you to get him seen...And if you are right, what did it hurt? and if everyone else is right? Then he gets the help he needs.....What is there to lose??


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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 14, 2012 at 9:04 PM
What if he's Autistic or has some type of learning disability? Wouldnt you want to know?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Oct. 14, 2012 at 9:06 PM
An evaluation won't hurt anyone, you may get some very useful advice! It doesn't automatically mean a label and a prescription.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 14, 2012 at 9:07 PM
I have another 13 gallon bag full of toys again. He just sat on the floor and bawled as I bagged them all up. He is still whimpering in his bed. He didn't even try to stop me or save a toy. Is this normal? Also, since the screening mentioned it, I noticed that he rocks when he is learning. He wanted me to teach him to read, so we have been doing flash cards and basic books. He rocks as he says the letters and then tells me the word. Is this normal?
lovemysnugbugs
by Gold Member on Oct. 14, 2012 at 9:09 PM
Obviously what you're doing isn't working, he's not getting it. It won't hurt to get him evaluated. If there is an issue, wouldn't you want to know so you can help him?
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lovinmama411
by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 9:12 PM
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What's the big deal? A diagnosis or reason for his behavior isn't going to change anything, he acts the way he acts no matter what label is on it. But if you would call and it turns out he did have an issue they could label, that would mean HELP for him which should be more important than your own feelings of shame or disappointment or fear or whatever it is keeping you from picking up the phone.

mom2priceboys
by Gold Member on Oct. 14, 2012 at 9:13 PM

just because you have him seen does not mean you have to do what they say. Get a diagnosis maybe it will get him some extra help in school and not make him a behavior problem kid that ends up in trouble all the tie chipping away at his self esteem until he is a suicidal teen (OK I know dramatic, just saying)

michelleinfl
by Bronze Member on Oct. 14, 2012 at 9:14 PM


Quoting lovinmama411:

What's the big deal? A diagnosis or reason for his behavior isn't going to change anything, he acts the way he acts no matter what label is on it. But if you would call and it turns out he did have an issue they could label, that would mean HELP for him which should be more important than your own feelings of shame or disappointment or fear or whatever it is keeping you from picking up the phone.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Oct. 14, 2012 at 9:14 PM
When is he do for a check up? It would be a good idea to bring up what other people said to the pediatrician and go from there. If he isn't due for a check up then find another excuse to go in like for a flu shot. If you don't want to call for that reason, find another excuse. You need to travel this road. Maybe your thoughts will be proven right or maybe wrong but it can only be better to know. Knowledge is learning,
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