Why is it the "cool" thing to be bossy to your husband?

[Anonymous]

I was reading the submissive post and I was surprised at the number of women bragging about how bossy they are.

So it's a bad idea to be submissive but it's okay to boss around your husband?

It's okay for you to be the head of household but when a man does it, he's a control freak and you are a doormat?

Just wondering women who feel this way, what your reasoning is?

[alwayskk]

LOL Yeah. Hypocrites for the win.

[3gr8tKids]

Sounds like a recipe for a break-up/divorce.

[casah4]

 I've never understood it either.

[Not_A_Native]

I"ve never understood it either - we are both adults, we both make our own decisions, we both have our areas of "expertise."

[momto2boys973]

If you turn your marriage into a power struggle, you may as well kiss it goodbye.
I'm glad both DH and I have sufficiently healthy egos that we don't feel we have to dominate the other. We're a partnership, and that sometimes implies leaving your ego behind for the greater goal.

Sharon

[Anonymous]

My husband would murder me (not literally) if I tried to boss him. He is the head of household bc he makes the money. I do what he says at any given moment without complaint. I love him and that's what I owe him.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

 

Quoting 3gr8tKids:

Sounds like a recipe for a break-up/divorce.

 I agree

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

 

Quoting momto2boys973:

If you turn your marriage into a power struggle, you may as well kiss it goodbye.
I'm glad both DH and I have sufficiently healthy egos that we don't feel we have to dominate the other. We're a partnership, and that sometimes implies leaving your ego behind for the greater goal.

Sharon

 This is how I feel. We are a partnership.

[Fistandantalus]

Honey, people don't understand this lifestyle choice. Period.

[PerfectVirgo]

I don't know. I could never boss my SO around. If I'm acting like his mother, why be with him?? I need a SIGNIFICANT OTHER, not another person that I have to manage.