Does your DH help you out with any of the housework or kids? I know it's the SAHM's "job" to take care of the house, but does your DH do anything to help, like on weekends or when he's off?
My DH doesn't do anything. He leaves his shit everywhere. Clothes in the living room floor, beer bottles and plates of food on the coffee table. Mail strewn everywhere. He doesn't pay the bills or keep up with finances. He doesn't help at all with the kids, except taking them to school in the mornings on his way to work. Weekends, it's like I have an extra child. "Get me this" "Get me that" "wah wah wah". I've tried to talk to him, he just ignores me. I've tried talking to his mother, even, and that doesn't do any good. She knows he's a lazy bastard, and has tried to help get him out of it, but nothing works. His seventeen year old sister is more of a grown up than his 25 year old ass is.
I SAH, I take care of the kids, I grocery shop, I volunteer at the kids' school, I clean constantly, which is my job, I know, but on top of all of that, I take care of my disabled parents AND grandmother, do their grocery shopping, and their cleaning, and their errands. I take them to doctor appointments. I also babysit on Mondays from 7:30 am to 4pm.
With me constantly on the go, taking care of everyone else, and TWO households, it would be nice if DH would at least pick up after himself. He doesn't even offer to help. He sits and literally watches me struggle to get the kids to clean up their toys (they see him do nothing, so they don't want to do anything), and get them into bed, and he doesn't bother to help. I'm not saying he should do everything, every night, but hell, once a month at least, give the kids a damn bath and get them to bed. Take the trash out ONCE IN AWHILE. That's all I ask. But no. He doesn't even mow the lawn.
I know some will suggest counseling, or leaving him..both are out of the question, he refuses to go to counseling, and other than the fact that he's a lazy piece of shit, he at least has a good job, and most of the time, is a good person. I'm just exhausted, and have four parties (three birthday parties, and one ladies night out party) planned at the house all within a week of each other over the next month and a half. My house isn't filthy, but the laundry has piled up, and it could use a good deep clean, it'd just be nice to have some help.
Idk, maybe I'm being selfish and complaining. Like I said, I'm just mentally and physically exhausted right now.