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I'm worried for a friend *Pedophile Question* Update

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I have a 19 year old friend of a 6 month old girl. Her and BD broke up and now she is seeing a new "man". He's only just 17 years old and a friend of hers younger brother. He came over to met me for the first time, Nice boy, a bit of a smart ass but he's 17yrs old *shrug*.

He sat down on the lounge with my 9 year old sister who has just gotten her first period a few months back due to medication she takes, He was playing with her and tickling her inner thigh area. I sent all the kids to bed straight away I didnt like the situation and went outside to talk with them alone.

Then during a totally normal convo about just nothing in general he told me how his crack addicted mother accussed him of touching his younger brother.

My question are why would a 17yr want to be with a mother of a little girl?

Why tickle her inner thigh or why touch a random child you have never met before?

I have a huge red flag in my gut about him and I just don't like he's a good person, nice on the outside but something is up.

WWYD?

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UPDATE

Okay I understand why I should say something and I most likely will but can anyone see my problem? What if she told him? And he got mad?

 He has my address, My number, knows many kids are here and what ages and sexes they are. He's knows there names... If hes a pedophile then he's already unstable. That worries me.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 4, 2012 at 8:56 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 4, 2012 at 9:10 PM

I said what do you think of Blah blah and he said Hes a bit weird touching random kids like that.. My mother banned him from being around her kids when I told her. Im doing the same with my own

Quoting girlcarrot:

I would be honest with her and tell her straight up what you saw. For the well being of her child and her relationship with her child if she does stay with the man-child. I would honestly talk about what you saw. What about your spouse, the childs father? Have you told him about it?

 

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm worried she'll think I'm being a jealous bitch or something (I'm with my childs father) I just don't think she will listen to me honestly

Quoting girlcarrot:

Yeah..not ok. I would tell your friend to leave the guy immediately and tell her what you saw. That doesn't sound right at all.

 

 


mommyof5431
by on Nov. 4, 2012 at 9:10 PM

Definitely not ok .. I would Never allow him around my daughter again ....

naj41
by Bronze Member on Nov. 4, 2012 at 9:12 PM

Tell your friend what you think.  If you think she will be mad or think you are just jealous then just stay away and KEEP YOUR SISTER AND ANY AND ALL LITTLE CHILDREN AWAY FROM HIM! 

elkmomma
by on Nov. 4, 2012 at 9:16 PM

Go talk to both parents.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 4, 2012 at 9:19 PM

I cant talk to the father, his in hospital after attemping suicide when he found out about the new guy he has been begging to have his family back as one but he did screw up in the beginning

Quoting elkmomma:

Go talk to both parents.


seraphimsong
by Gold Member on Nov. 4, 2012 at 9:19 PM
Trust your instincts & tell your friend.
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girlcarrot
by on Nov. 4, 2012 at 9:44 PM

Well, If you start the convo being nice and calm and be completely honest with her and bring him into the mix so they both can talk about it with you there I would definitely do it. I would definitely get you three together and have a nice, calm convo together.


Quoting Anonymous:

I said what do you think of Blah blah and he said Hes a bit weird touching random kids like that.. My mother banned him from being around her kids when I told her. Im doing the same with my own

Quoting girlcarrot:

I would be honest with her and tell her straight up what you saw. For the well being of her child and her relationship with her child if she does stay with the man-child. I would honestly talk about what you saw. What about your spouse, the childs father? Have you told him about it?


Quoting Anonymous:

I'm worried she'll think I'm being a jealous bitch or something (I'm with my childs father) I just don't think she will listen to me honestly

Quoting girlcarrot:

Yeah..not ok. I would tell your friend to leave the guy immediately and tell her what you saw. That doesn't sound right at all.





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elkmomma
by on Nov. 4, 2012 at 9:50 PM

Sorry I wasn't clear.  I meant the parents of the girland the questionable guy.  Especially after his statement about his brother.  You can also call child protective services and get more guidance or may be have them do a child welfare check.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 4, 2012 at 10:09 PM
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crissydancer05
by on Nov. 4, 2012 at 10:13 PM
Trust your gut, protect your children, tell her what you saw. At the moment, its the best you can do. If nothing else that thought will be in the back of her mind and maybe she will see it too.
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