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teens sharing a room

Anonymous
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Question: Should we just go ahead and allow them to share a room? or is that just a little to "liberal"?

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yes...at this point why not?

no, let them sneak around like we had to

NO WAY!! explain why?


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My 16 year old dd asked/informed me that her boyfriend was going to spend thanksgiving vacation with us at the lake house. Fine, no problem. My dh and I are discussing what the rules we should lay out...here is the "issue": 

We know that they are sexually active already (they have been together almost 2 years) and we are ok with that,

We know that one or the other will likely "sneak" into the other one's room (I remember being 16...that is almost exactly how I got pregnant with her)

We have always had a very open relationship with our kids, but this is making us really think about exactly how open do we want it to be.

ETA. any thoughts, ideas, experiences? this is new territory for us...

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 4, 2012 at 11:31 PM
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anyotherday
by Ruby Member on Nov. 5, 2012 at 7:18 AM
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well, grandma, I think he'd be keeping his little willy at home with his family where it belongs.
ChicagoMimi
by Mimi on Nov. 5, 2012 at 7:24 AM
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I have a 17 yr old son and I wouldn't allow his gf to sleep in the same room with him. Nope, not gonna happen.


ChaoticSoul
by on Nov. 5, 2012 at 7:25 AM
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Me and dh shared a room. I was 14 an he was 16. I got preggo at 15. Sooo, i personally would say no. I mean why "encourage" it ya know?
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mrspeterrabbit
by Platinum Member on Nov. 5, 2012 at 7:26 AM
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 They wouldnt be making me stress on what they are doing or when they are going to sneak and do it. Its Thanksgiving your aleady stressed a lil from all the cooking and stuff. Sorry he woulnt be allowed to come, And I wouldnt make it so easy for them to do it either.

cmc638
by Silver Member on Nov. 5, 2012 at 7:27 AM
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He shouldn't be going period be a parent for Christ sake
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 5, 2012 at 7:28 AM


Quoting ChaoticSoul:

Me and dh shared a room. I was 14 an he was 16. I got preggo at 15. Sooo, i personally would say no. I mean why "encourage" it ya know?

I know what you mean...however...they are already sexually active...she is on the pill and dh and I would make sure that there were condoms in the night table.

I don't know if "allowing" it is safer thatn forbidding it...by  'allowing" we can be more certain that protection is used (and my daughter is SUPER careful about unplanned pregnancy...btdt)

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Nov. 5, 2012 at 7:31 AM

I would not be allowing any boy to stay at my home at any time wheile they are teens and not married...

JBiiirdD
by No Day but Today on Nov. 5, 2012 at 7:32 AM
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Get the nursery ready, Grandma.
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ChaoticSoul
by on Nov. 5, 2012 at 7:35 AM
It also all depends on your families comfort level. If she is how u say an u an dad are confident in their preventive measures then do what u think best. But condoms an pills dnt always work. u will still stress. cuz now they dnt have to sneak. now u will worry they are doing it every time they disappear.

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Quoting ChaoticSoul:

Me and dh shared a room. I was 14 an he was 16. I got preggo at 15. Sooo, i personally would say no. I mean why "encourage" it ya know?

I know what you mean...however...they are already sexually active...she is on the pill and dh and I would make sure that there were condoms in the night table.

I don't know if "allowing" it is safer thatn forbidding it...by  'allowing" we can be more certain that protection is used (and my daughter is SUPER careful about unplanned pregnancy...btdt)

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ChicagoMimi
by Mimi on Nov. 5, 2012 at 7:36 AM
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Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting ChaoticSoul:

Me and dh shared a room. I was 14 an he was 16. I got preggo at 15. Sooo, i personally would say no. I mean why "encourage" it ya know?

I know what you mean...however...they are already sexually active...she is on the pill and dh and I would make sure that there were condoms in the night table.

I don't know if "allowing" it is safer thatn forbidding it...by  'allowing" we can be more certain that protection is used (and my daughter is SUPER careful about unplanned pregnancy...btdt)

I get being open with your teen, I really do. I also get being OK with your teen having sex...but there is NO WAY IN HELL I'm providing the opportunity, space, AND condoms for them to do it.

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