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teens sharing a room

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Question: Should we just go ahead and allow them to share a room? or is that just a little to "liberal"?

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yes...at this point why not?

no, let them sneak around like we had to

NO WAY!! explain why?


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My 16 year old dd asked/informed me that her boyfriend was going to spend thanksgiving vacation with us at the lake house. Fine, no problem. My dh and I are discussing what the rules we should lay out...here is the "issue": 

We know that they are sexually active already (they have been together almost 2 years) and we are ok with that,

We know that one or the other will likely "sneak" into the other one's room (I remember being 16...that is almost exactly how I got pregnant with her)

We have always had a very open relationship with our kids, but this is making us really think about exactly how open do we want it to be.

ETA. any thoughts, ideas, experiences? this is new territory for us...

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 4, 2012 at 11:31 PM
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Ms.Pteranodon
by Platinum Member on Nov. 5, 2012 at 12:08 PM
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Why ask on a public forum if you don't want others opinions?

But seriously no way in hell would my child be informing me of such a decision. Asking is one thing but informing... Yeah not happening.




Quoting Anonymous:

I am the parent here...not you. I am fine with the way it was communicated to my husband and I.

and for the other people who have asked:  his mom is fine with the whole arrangement and is aware that they are sexually active as well.


Quoting Ms.Pteranodon:

She INFORMED you?? She didn't ask you??



Who is the parent here?



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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 5, 2012 at 12:46 PM

It would depend on a few things for me....since they have been together 2 years that shows maturity to me and if they are open with you and you KNOW they are on birth control go for it

MooreMom523
by on Nov. 5, 2012 at 12:51 PM
I had boyfriends go on vacation with my family as a teen but their asses slept on the couch in the most public room in the place. Or if we were at a hotel the guys had a room and the girls had one
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MommyLehr
by Veronica on Nov. 5, 2012 at 12:53 PM
I would.. And maybe just conveniently leave a box of condoms on the desser or end table if there is one?
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mytrueloveS
by Member on Nov. 5, 2012 at 12:59 PM
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Wow where is the respect for the parents?   Sure they're sexually active, but they're not even married to be having sex under your roof.  I'm married now and still wouldn't have sex in my parents house, that's very disrespectful.  

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 5, 2012 at 1:00 PM
Now that's a big pickle honey...

Ms.Pteranodon
by Platinum Member on Nov. 5, 2012 at 1:28 PM
I agree with this as well. I wouldn't have sex under my parents room either


Quoting mytrueloveS:

Wow where is the respect for the parents?   Sure they're sexually active, but they're not even married to be having sex under your roof.  I'm married now and still wouldn't have sex in my parents house, that's very disrespectful.  


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