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I don't understand why they're letting her bleed to death... *ETA*

My aunt has had an almost continuous AF for three years (she'll bleed for about three weeks, then stop for about a week, then it starts over)- it wasn't as bad the first year but started getting worse last year.
Her doc said the only way to fix it is to remove her ovaries.
The hospital cost is $29,000, which doesn't include the doctor fees, and numerous hospital fees (tools, anesthesia, etc.).
She is now anemic, has very low iron, and faints more often.
She has no medical insurance and can't afford any. Her and my uncle filed for bankruptcy last year and are still trying to build their lives back up while also trying to get two kids through college.
The hospital told her she would have to make a downpayment before they'd do the surgery, but my aunt can't even afford that upfront cost.
They told her to get on Medicaid and let the government pay for it, but my uncle makes "too much money" for her to use that option.
Isn't there another option that doesn't require my aunt to slowly bleed to death?
I don't understand the ideology behind not helping those who need important medical services.

*ETA* Thank you ladies for all of your ideas. I have passed all of them on to my aunt. I will continue to pester her with these ideas until she realizes that she has to put her health first.
  I know that some of you think she is "martyring" herself and many of you think she is doing it to herself, but she is one of the kindest people I know, and no matter how many times her kids screw up or her husband thinks of himself before her, she continues to love them and keep their interests ahead of her own. That's probably causing all of her problems, but she doesn't know any other way to be.

by on Nov. 7, 2012 at 6:43 PM
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Sanctimommy
by Platinum Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:00 PM

I've seen this happen with people I am close to, as well. It's just the way it is. It happened to my husband (so much blood loss that his H&H was 4 point something when a normal healthy man's H&H is 12) and my Mum (can't afford the co-pay for Medicare to refer her to a cancer specialist after she was diagnosed with cancer last month...she still hasn't been treated.).

Litlmama87
by Platinum Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:01 PM
That's terrifying :(
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jesistar6910
by on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:01 PM

See if the hospital offers any grant programs for low income/mid income families with urgent medical needs. People donate to those kinds of funds all the time. Start a collection at the church she goes to, or yours. Put up donation jars at gas stations. Anything you can try, try. That's what I would do. What a horrible situation, good luck.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:01 PM
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Is divorce an option? On paper only.
cara124
by Bronze Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:01 PM
Has she tried state aid ? Some times they have programs where you pay a small co payment ( only a few dollars )
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alyssaravensmom
by Platinum Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:02 PM
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Gofundme.com she may be able to.get donations from people. It's a great site :)
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:02 PM
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I know this sounds horrible but tell her to get a divorce and usea family members address. 

bjdmom
by Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:05 PM
Won't an ablation help?
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xXxLillithxXx
by Gold Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:06 PM
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She needs to file legal separation from your uncle so she can qualify for assistance. Normally I wouldn't suggest that...but in a medical situation like this its different.
jean_marie1987
by on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:06 PM
She has always put her family before herself.


Quoting 1likeme:

I see your point but why is she paying for two adults to attend college while she is slowly deteriorating. Her health is a higher priority than college tuition.

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