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I don't understand why they're letting her bleed to death... *ETA*

My aunt has had an almost continuous AF for three years (she'll bleed for about three weeks, then stop for about a week, then it starts over)- it wasn't as bad the first year but started getting worse last year.
Her doc said the only way to fix it is to remove her ovaries.
The hospital cost is $29,000, which doesn't include the doctor fees, and numerous hospital fees (tools, anesthesia, etc.).
She is now anemic, has very low iron, and faints more often.
She has no medical insurance and can't afford any. Her and my uncle filed for bankruptcy last year and are still trying to build their lives back up while also trying to get two kids through college.
The hospital told her she would have to make a downpayment before they'd do the surgery, but my aunt can't even afford that upfront cost.
They told her to get on Medicaid and let the government pay for it, but my uncle makes "too much money" for her to use that option.
Isn't there another option that doesn't require my aunt to slowly bleed to death?
I don't understand the ideology behind not helping those who need important medical services.

*ETA* Thank you ladies for all of your ideas. I have passed all of them on to my aunt. I will continue to pester her with these ideas until she realizes that she has to put her health first.
  I know that some of you think she is "martyring" herself and many of you think she is doing it to herself, but she is one of the kindest people I know, and no matter how many times her kids screw up or her husband thinks of himself before her, she continues to love them and keep their interests ahead of her own. That's probably causing all of her problems, but she doesn't know any other way to be.

by on Nov. 7, 2012 at 6:43 PM
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Melinda32
by Silver Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:08 PM
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:( these situations make me happy to be Canadian. Unfortunately I don't have any ideas for you.
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jean_marie1987
by on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:08 PM
They could "separate" as long as she files for child support, but that would be lying.


Quoting Anonymous:

Is divorce an option? On paper only.

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conweis
by Platinum Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:08 PM
This

Quoting Anonymous:

could she get it done at a medical school? I have heard they let want tobe surgeons operate under the watchful eyes of real surgeons for reduced fees,
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:08 PM

thats america for you!!!!! what a GREAT country !!!!!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:09 PM
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Quoting jean_marie1987:

They could "separate" as long as she files for child support, but that would be lying.


Quoting Anonymous:

Is divorce an option? On paper only.


Lying is better than dying.

jean_marie1987
by on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:10 PM
I have no idea what that is.


Quoting bjdmom:

Won't an ablation help?

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Cheribomb
by Gold Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:12 PM

what exactly is wrong with her ovaries?  i bled from january to november because my hormones were out of whack. i had to try like 3 different bc pills to get the right hormones to work for me.  i would get another opinion.  i wasn't bleeding lightly either.  

bjdmom
by Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:12 PM
Uterine ablation. Many women who have it done no longer have periods.


Quoting jean_marie1987:

I have no idea what that is.




Quoting bjdmom:

Won't an ablation help?


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littlesippycup
by Ruby Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:13 PM
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She can't do that if she dies =(

Quoting jean_marie1987:

She has always put her family before herself.


Quoting 1likeme:

I see your point but why is she paying for two adults to attend college while she is slowly deteriorating. Her health is a higher priority than college tuition.


VioletsMomTown
by on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:13 PM

Ridiculous! I'm from Canada, this would NEVER happen here! At this point I might suggest getting travellers insurance and travel to Canada or another country, and while she's there, go to the hospital for treatment and charge it to travellers insurance. (If that would work?) Otherwise maybe they could legally separate and then she would only have her own income to account for? Or take out another mortgage on their home? Sell some stuff? Just find a way!

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